When people start hating you because you are losing weight?

Women are a whole different animal than men. I get praise from some women and sneers from others at my workplace. I have one person who sits near me and analyses everything I eat. She feels I should get my blood checked because I am eating way too much protein and somehow she feels it will make my blood out of whack. She also thinks it's gross I put spinach in my smoothies. She won't attempt to try it, she has just decided it is gross. She does belong to Weight Watchers...I don't know what their program person is teaching them.

I think it's hard for people who have been trying for years to take off weight, and have been unsuccessful, to see other people look like they are taking off weight effortlessly. They think it's effortless, we know different. This site is one of my best motivations and so are the people who support me. If anyone ever asks how I've lost my weight, I tell them about MFP. I go to the gym 4 times a week, and have changed my eating habits. I even take some of the negative comments I hear, and use them to motivate me. For me, it works.

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I don't really have any advice except know that you are not alone in having to deal with drastic changes in the way people respond to you after losing weight. I honestly think learning how to handle it at least as difficult as losing weight in the first place. Hopefully it will get easier with time, once the novelty wears off and we have more experience handling it. Good luck!
ETA I am really sad that you have to deal with this kind of jealous behavior, but I did want to thank you for posting this- my own issues are different, but it makes me feel a little better to know I'm not the only one experiencing dramatic changes in the way people treat me and not knowing what to do about it.

What makes you think it's because you've lost weight? Could it be something else? Are all of the "mean" women overweight?

In my case I can say that all the woman making the mean comments are overweight or obese. I have yet to be "picked on" by a healthy sized woman!

I have this problem with my overweight boss and another overweight colleague. Women who feel comfortable with themselves have told me I look good. Yes my attitude has changed but I rarely mention my weightloss - it is them who bring it up. My boss even admitted she was jealous one day when I had had enough of her eye-rolling and snarky comments about eating disorders so I told her to not say anything at all if she couldn't say something nice.

Seems there will always be these sorts of people and I'm afraid I have probably been guilty of similarly jealous behaviour towards other slim women. It makes me want to apologise to all the slim women in the world who I have ever been mean to!!!

I guess the only way to deal with it is to take their behaviour as a roundabout compliment - you have something good going on and they want a piece of it for themselves!

Seems like jealously to me!

Honestly, my boyfriend has put me down for losing "too much" weight. Screw em all. It's your health and happiness. If someone doesn't like you for a physical reason, well, guess what? It was never who you were that kept them around., fake a** bit**es. Easier said than done because it hurts to the core, but you can't make people be gracious.

I walked out of my job a year ago this month because of bullying - it drove to me depression it was so bad. I sat at home for 3 months and then WHAM!! I got off my *kitten* and took a good long look at myself. I started small by trying to get dressed a couple of times a week, took an interest in what I looked like and finally started to diet.

I'll be honest with you - I've not seen any of the women who treated me so badly since then but if I ever do then i will thank them for making me re-assess myself. Don't get me wrong, the words/looks/actions still hurt but I am getting there, and gonna look a whole lot better at the end of this.....

Use them as motivation, but do not EVER think that what they say/do is right. You control your life, nobody else - and you only get one shot at it, so go for it with a smile on your face knowing you are doing your best. Just remember if an old bird like me can do it then what's stopping you??

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Keep your focus, stay confident knowing you are doing the right thing especially for yourself. Do not entertain any negative thoughts. All these will only make you a stronger person. With that I'd like to share with you my all time favorite quotation by Charles Swindol:

“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.”
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I love this! It is so true. Great post.

I have found that you will know a genuinely good person by the way you are treated no matter what size or shape you are. They will treat you equally, have a nice personality, and just have a better attitude on life. It really doesn't do a person any good to be negative. It plainly shows just how unhappy they are and isn't a good quality to have.

I have also found that some women do not like other women. You will know which ones they are and it's best to stay away from them.

I walked out of my job a year ago this month because of bullying - it drove to me depression it was so bad. I sat at home for 3 months and then WHAM!! I got off my *kitten* and took a good long look at myself. I started small by trying to get dressed a couple of times a week, took an interest in what I looked like and finally started to diet.

I'll be honest with you - I've not seen any of the women who treated me so badly since then but if I ever do then i will thank them for making me re-assess myself. Don't get me wrong, the words/looks/actions still hurt but I am getting there, and gonna look a whole lot better at the end of this.....

Use them as motivation, but do not EVER think that what they say/do is right. You control your life, nobody else - and you only get one shot at it, so go for it with a smile on your face knowing you are doing your best. Just remember if an old bird like me can do it then what's stopping you??

Thank you for posting this. The circumstances driving us to change are very similar, and I needed some inspiration this morning.

it's all your fault. i'm serious. it's you thats changed. don't worry, thats a good thing.

you've conquered a huge personal challenge, and because of that you have more confidence, which is why it looks like you walk around "stuck up."

congrats!

I have noticed that with my weight loss too. What I want to ask people to do is notice how complete strangers treat you when you lose weight. We all know we are the same people when we are heavy or when we are lighter, however, I have noticed in the past when I was really at my goal weight that strangers are so much kinder to you. I have been at the super market or mall and had the people working there very eager to help me. People speak to you more when you are thinner. It almost amuses me to sit back and watch how people act. I am working on getting back to my goal again. I am going to see if people still change towards me this time.

Honestly, my boyfriend has put me down for losing "too much" weight. Screw em all. It's your health and happiness. If someone doesn't like you for a physical reason, well, guess what? It was never who you were that kept them around., fake a** bit**es. Easier said than done because it hurts to the core, but you can't make people be gracious.

Your boyfriend could be acting like an @$$, I don't know because I'm not there. If he really is putting you down, that's unsat, and ignore the rest of this post. That said, guys have it kind of rough when it comes to women and their weight. First off, many of them suffer from a communication handicap (particularly the younger ones), so they're already at a disadvantage. Add the fact that weight is such a touchy subject -- saying they like the new body means they didn't like the old one. There are a million weight-related conversational traps that some men are desperately trying to avoid. So is it possible he's just trying (and failing) to show you that he never thought you needed improvement in the first place? Or perhaps he really is worried for your health? Like I said, I'm not there and I don't know what's going on -- just pointing out that when it comes to interactions between men and women, what comes out of a man's mouth isn't always an accurate (to women's ears) translation of what's going on inside his head. :-)

I should have edited my post to say that what Im going through at work and with some family is a little different. Im not even close to goal weight...I still want to lose 100 pounds give or take. If they view me as any kind of threat now...........wait til Im at or close to goal!!! I guarantee to give them something to talk about....or at least think about!!! Im not known NOW for being real shy!!! LOL


I do wish the OP a lotta success

I've been going through the same thing with my friends and co-workers. I just have to remind myself that my weight loss wasn't easy, that I earned it... and I have no reason to apologize for it. I like being skinnier! I try to be as encouraging as possible to my friends that say they want to lose weight, but I just keep doing what I'm doing because it continues to work