Falling out of love with MFP

rrrrrr sweety how rude of us to let you pull so far away when you have been such a support for everyone on here!!

I think we all go through the "rut" part when it comes to loosing weight and its the same with anything. When we make a lifestyle change we feel all motivated and ready to go but as we get further into it we kinda get a bit bored and loose the will to stick with it. Think I am kinda near the same place as I have lost a stone then lost the will to loose anymore

One thing I am in the middle of doing though is a big picture to go up in my bedroom to remind me every day why I am trying to loose weight!! I am gonna include pics of the holls that I have booked for next year, the clothes that I wanna get that dont come in tent size and all the things I wanna do without loosing a lung like go up Kili!! Remembering why you are on here and why you want to do this can sometimes be the motivation we need to force us to shift it!!

Also as winter comes in it gets so much harder to do stuff (exercise) so thats when ya need to use blackmail tricks on yourself!!

Big hug xxx Dont leave us all!! You have done too well to give in!! And you putting this on here shows you still have the motivation in you somewhere!! You just need to trade in your slippers for running shoes

Hi Stuart, I go through my own ruts all the time. Been through one myself lately and yesterday was my first day in a while tracking EVERYTHING as I should. At one point logging in and seeing "Stuart has not logged in for 3 days" actually gave me a little relief that even someone as dedicated as you would miss some days. It just happens. For now, don't obsess so much on routine, just log what you eat, even if it is CRAP, even if you are just guessing on portions at the end of the day, just get it in. You are not always going to be gung ho about tracking this stuff, believe me, and it isn't always going to fit perfectly with your routine or lack thereof. So just do the best you can today. Don't worry about tomorrow and don't stress about what you didn't do right yesterday. Just track today. You will feel better about it all if you do, trust me.

BTDT. You are NOT alone. I wish I could describe how/when it re-connected for me. I don't have a cut and dried answer to that. Maybe it was when I realized I didn't even have the energy to walk up 2 flights of stairs. Maybe it was when I was taking care of a woman my weight and height and realized how large I really was, and what was in store for my health if I didn't change. Maybe it was looking at my family history of type 2 diabetes and strokes that finally clicked. Maybe it was waking up and realizing that I really truly couldn't do all of the things I wanted to do--I was tired all the time, physically in pain all the time, and had no energy for anyone or anything, including my spouse.

I saw my father and sister's health deteriorating, and looked at my husband's friends. Many of them are extremely morbidly obese with chronic health problems, including venous stasis ulcers, venous insufficiency, high cholesterol, type 2 diabetes, etc, etc, etc. I listened to one of his friends climbing our little 1/2 flight of stairs in the house. He was huffing and puffing away...is that what I sounded like?!?!

I wish that all of those things were a sudden wake up call, but I ruminated on all of that for months, probably close to a year, before I started doing anything. I lamented all that I had lost fitness-wise, and it was very discouraging to realize that I could barely stay on the treadmill for 10 minutes at a speed of 2.0.

If any of this resonates with you, please feel free to add me. Again, you're not alone, but you have to find what motivates YOU. Are you the person you want to be? Can you do everything you want to do, or is your body holding you back?

Wishing you peace on your journey.

Hey Stu, I have seen you chase me down before and I'm sad to see you in a rut, but I'm there too. What I'm doing is what someone else suggested. I'm sorta faking it til I make it. I've stopped logging my food but I'm still trying to get regular exercise in. My son started school in September and I have just lost track of everything since a holiday the weekend before school started. I'm trying to take some of what I've "learned" in tracking and just apply it. I am not likely to log my food forever and I am going to need to learn to how to at least maintain weight without tracking, so these ruts are those trial runs for me. I haven't logged food in a month, but I keep logging in, seeing my friends that are doing great and it reminds me that there is always a place for me to come back to when I am feeling ready again. Try focusing on one thing in times like this, not all of it. For me that was exercise and to hell with the logging. I know we'll see you back.

My experience is:
1) Don't wait to feel in the mood for exercise, just do it NOW. You'll feel good for it after. And maybe probably more motivated or the next day
2) Similarly, don't wait to feel in the mood for healthy eating and logging, just do it NOW!
3) Don't look back and feel bad about the past few weeks and the weight gain. It's a blip and this is a lifelong journey.
4) Take a look at the success stories in the forum

You can do this!

Are you having an affair? Who is she? Let me guess. It's that little tramp, Spark People, isn't it? I knew it!

It can take a while to establish and re-establish routines. What I've found most helpful is to make monthly goals - it is easier to plan in short, time-bound chunks than to plan a routine that will last indefinitely. I make very specific goals for the month, and this makes me start establishing routines to try to accomplish these goals. At the end of the month I evaluate what worked well and what didn't work so well, and I create new goals for the next month based on what I've learnt. I find this helps me to start establishing routines without even realising it

Stu...

Your greatest challenge is in the mind.

I will keep this simple and to the point....You either want this or you dont. If you do, you will take action and succeed.

Tumultuous times are exactly the time to log. Even if you can't follow your plan, it will remind you of your goals and help you get started again when you're ready. It's also an educational discipline. Who knew that muffin was 550 calories? Maybe you'll skip it tomorrow.

Try for logging at least once a day. Then go from there.

Like other people have said, we all hit that rut from time to time! Hell, I've been in maintenance for a year and I still find myself there from time to time.

I found that the best thing was not to make it something I began to despise by putting too much pressure on myself. I worked out how many calories I would need to maintain without and exercise and how many with that way if I didn't feel like working out every day then I knew that I didn't have to so long as I stuck to my calorie limit. Fortunately I do like working out (about 4 days a week) and allowing myself a rest and treat every now and then has kept me doing this for as long as I have. It's the only 'diet' I have ever been on and it's made such a difference to my life I cannot even begin to describe!

Stick with it but make sure you're not being too hard on yourself. :flowerforyou:

small manageable goals that slowly add up to the big picture. Maybe it is logging every day for a week to then logging for 100 days. That all includes just doing it. Struggles are what make us human and why we are here in the first place. Decide it is your time and Just do it. and if you have a tough day, brush yourself off and start again !

Yeh I got bored with logging everyday too, was in a rut for almost 3 months. I have been back lately cos now I use the barcode scanner to log food with my phone MFP app. I'm a geek so it has kept my interest lol

After reading all the replies I feel like I can get remotivated and start again. I haven't been eating terrible but haven't been as good as I should be so staying the same. I was transferred at work and now drive a lot longer, family illness, additional obligations, you know how it goes. We can get back on track with a few changes. I intend to make those now. I will never give up again!! I know we all can do it. Thanks for the words of encouragement everyone!

This my friend is so understandable...I was at that point not to long ago...Been here a while and the same love that I use to have wasn't there no more...My list was huge and I soon found out I really didn't need that many pals or some pals....I soon deactivated and came back after realizing this journey was about who from the beginning(ME) and that is when I got my drive back and now pushing towards new goals in a positive environment...came back with limited, supportive pals and has been on-going...Sometimes life along with cyber world can be over bearing and you need to briefly step back...But don't leave...there is hope of getting it back...

P.S....routines change...just keeping track will help you in the long run...I am sure of this,,,trust me...I have lost up and down for years...this time I am staying put...and being here helps me!