Help me make sense of this ? (explination inside)

donyellemoniquex3
donyellemoniquex3 Posts: 2,384 Member
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Just for informational purposes, I'm 22 in december.

In 2nd grade (approx 1997-1998 school year), I met my bestest friend Danielle. We sat together in class, lived on the same street and sat together on the bus. We've even worn the same outfits on occasion. She moved in 5th grade a few towns away and we've ran into each other here and there. I consider her my soul mate; which is strange seeing how we're both straight christian females.

I met my BFF Amanda in 5/6th grade (2000-2001 school year) and we cheered together. Sure we didn't go to the same school but we were on the same squad, shared the same interests and dreams of performing on Broadway.

In 2003 Amanda died of osteo sarcoma and I took it... HARD. To the point where I was willing to take my life to be with her. Since then I've questioned my loyalty to the lord because things just kept happening and happening.

Just this year Danielle found me on Facebook and we shared lots of elementary school memories and old inside jokes.

Do you think that Amanda put Danielle back in my life so I can finally be happy and move on ?

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  • nz_deevaa
    nz_deevaa Posts: 12,209 Member
    Does it make you feel better about your relationship with God, if you believe that Amanda gave you back Danielle?
  • donyellemoniquex3
    donyellemoniquex3 Posts: 2,384 Member
    Does it make you feel better about your relationship with God, if you believe that Amanda gave you back Danielle?

    Yes of course
  • nz_deevaa
    nz_deevaa Posts: 12,209 Member
    So then keep on believin'
  • coliema
    coliema Posts: 7,646 Member
    Does it make you feel better about your relationship with God, if you believe that Amanda gave you back Danielle?
    ^ That.

    Everyone is going to have their own opinion, and not everyone believes in God or has the same beliefs. I believe in God, I don't know if he necessarily gave Danielle back in place of Amanda though. So sorry to hear about your friend.
  • JenniBaby85
    JenniBaby85 Posts: 855 Member
    Uh oh. You expressed your Christian beliefs! Prepare to be tortured until the mods take this thread down.

    At any rate, I am a Christian too (and have NO problems expressing it). I don't know if she was given back to you, or maybe your other friend is there to fill a void with her own personality and in her own way. I am sorry to hear about your friend though :flowerforyou:
  • TinaBaily
    TinaBaily Posts: 792 Member
    I would say that given how you were feeling, some kind of divine assistance might have brought Danielle back into your life to help you heal from Amanda's passing. I'm not a super religious person and don't attend church regularly any more, but I have seen miracles happen and honestly believe that there is power in prayer and positive thinking, if nothing else. I hope that having Danielle back into your life does help you heal, and that she brings you much happiness. I hope you do the same for her. Besties are the best!!!
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    I agree with the others. And enjoy your friendship because it's important to allow yourself to be happy!
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Not everything in life has to make sense. Just be happy that you have your friend back.
  • joanmarie64
    joanmarie64 Posts: 10 Member
    I believe that God cares more for us, than we do for ourselves., and that he will send people into our
    lives to help us, or for us to help them. Sorry for your loss.
  • Hmmcglothl
    Hmmcglothl Posts: 51 Member
    I believe that God put Danielle in your life from the very start because He already knew how instrumental she'd be to your life. He knew that you would need her and she would probably need you in some ways. Sorry for your loss of your friend Amanda. How heartbreaking to lose a dear friend. I find in my life that the trials that make me the most angry with God are the ones that lead me to needing Him in the most desperate of ways. I always end up closer to Him in the end because I get desperate to understand life and death. I try to learn and read everything I can until I'm absolutely certain that there is a God/afterlife..until I can understand again why people must die physically and on and on.. I deal with death a lot in my profession so it was a constant cycle of anxiety for me. The only way out for me was submerging myself spiritually in every way I could to better understand the world/God/death....

    Hang in there!! It's always darkest before the dawn!! :-) I'm happy you've reconnected with your old friend!!
  • jetscreaminagain
    jetscreaminagain Posts: 1,130 Member
    OP I'm sorry for your loss. I hope that you can find meaning and solace wherever you find it.
    Uh oh. You expressed your Christian beliefs! Prepare to be tortured until the mods take this thread down.

    At any rate, I am a Christian too (and have NO problems expressing it). I don't know if she was given back to you, or maybe your other friend is there to fill a void with her own personality and in her own way. I am sorry to hear about your friend though :flowerforyou:

    As a Christian, I have to say I get tired and I'm certain the non-christians do to of Christians in modern America posing as a persecuted group. We have it easy. Really easy. Try being a Christian in China or Afghanistan or pre-Constantine Turkey. Or a part of the world not as obscenely well off as us.

    Or. Try being a religious minority here. Like a seikh confused for a Muslim and having your temple shot up.

    I just think we do better showing the love of Christ to others when we aren't overplaying a poor me card.
  • onedayillbeamilf
    onedayillbeamilf Posts: 966 Member
    I'm sorry for you're loss. Believe whatever makes you feel good.
  • RumpusP
    RumpusP Posts: 163 Member
    As a Christian, I would say no. Your friend just happened to find you online.

    On Facebook, for goodness sake... Where, like, everyone is connected to people they know in common, can find people based on what town they live in, what schools they went to...

    It's kind of like going into a pet store and them having the particular breed of puppy you want.... It might involve a little luck, but it's not even slightly surprising.

    Let alone some type of miracle.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    I am so sorry for your loss.

    And I say dear, believe whatever makes you feel better and get you through this time.
  • KCoolBeanz
    KCoolBeanz Posts: 813 Member
    I think sometimes certain things happen that just can't be explained, and that they happen for a reason. :-)
  • 02tods
    02tods Posts: 126 Member
    I am a Christian also, and I believe that a need you have may have been filled by the Holy Trinity. So sorry for you loss and hope your friend helps in easing the pain.
  • magj0y
    magj0y Posts: 1,911 Member

    Do you think that Amanda put Danielle back in my life so I can finally be happy and move on ?

    No, I think God did.
  • AggieLu
    AggieLu Posts: 873 Member
    God works in mysterious ways. He gives us the people we need and takes those we do not. He took my brother, and gave me the discovery of the true meaning of life. Danielle is there for a reason. Appreciate her, and rekindle your friendship :) The best of luck to you. And most of all, believe. Miracles happen every day, but we are too blind to see them.
  • Cole114a
    Cole114a Posts: 24 Member
    All things work together for the glory of God, and He knows the plans He has for us, plans to prosper us Jeremiah 29:11. The Lord works in mysterious ways. Place your trust in Him and it will be OK.
  • georgie_lou
    georgie_lou Posts: 225 Member
    Why does God or Amanda have to have put her back in your life? Can you enjoy her friendship and appreciate her without looking for a reason as to why she's back in your life?
  • jg627
    jg627 Posts: 1,221 Member
    As a Pastafarian, I believe the flying spaghetti monster has led the two of you together with His noodley appendages for a reason. You should try to be happy and don't question His will.
  • bionicrooster
    bionicrooster Posts: 353 Member
    God is good
  • onedayillbeamilf
    onedayillbeamilf Posts: 966 Member
    One more thing....its been 9 years since your friend passed. I'm not saying get over it, but its been long enough for you to be able to "move on". She'll always be remembered by you, and there will always be a sad day here and there, but to rely on Danielle to help you move on is quite the burden to place on her. I think therapy might be something to think about looking into so you can learn coping skills. It's just not healthy to not be able to "move on" almost 10 years later.

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