Change isnt always good!!!!

shizz230
shizz230 Posts: 31 Member
edited January 1 in Chit-Chat
I hate when people are one way for years, and then all of a sudden because of a little change, just about everything you say or do is an irritation and you feel like you cant speak, comment, or even have casual talk because you know the person is going to out of the blue be irritated....that burns me up more than anything...just venting a lil

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  • MassiveDelta
    MassiveDelta Posts: 3,271 Member
    change is always good....In this specific situation it revealed something that has been buried and hiding. Fix the problem.
  • magj0y
    magj0y Posts: 1,911 Member
    change is always good....In this specific situation it revealed something that has been buried and hiding. Fix the problem.

    nooooo noooo nooooo!!! It's NOT always good!
  • DamnImASexyBitch
    DamnImASexyBitch Posts: 740 Member
    I wouldn't say change is good nor bad... it just is what it is. It's you're reaction that can be good or bad. That's up to you. You can only control your own actions.
  • shizz230
    shizz230 Posts: 31 Member
    I wouldn't say change is good nor bad... it just is what it is. It's you're reaction that can be good or bad. That's up to you. You can only control your own actions.

    Thats so true....excellent point
  • FelicityEliza36
    FelicityEliza36 Posts: 252 Member
    This reminds me of a friend (a best friend of almost 20 yrs)

    We started going to church together - just a non-denominational church to have a little more faith & help out with community events. It has been about 5 yrs now since our first session there. I no longer go but have a very true belief in God and just being a good person.

    But my friend is SO judgemental now. So contradicting. That I am afraid to tell her ANYTHING because she will try to tell me what is "right in the eyes of Jesus or God" and how wrong I am.

    But she will turn around & do the exact same thing and then ask for forgiveness. Its so irritating - and I try not to sound like a jerk by saying this but its gone too far .
  • mikejacobs1958
    mikejacobs1958 Posts: 128 Member
    Change can be good, depends upon how quick that change is and obviously what the change is all about.

    e.g Some people believe in these quick fix diets, I am the old fashioned school, take your time, long and slow and the weight will fall off and the muscle will develop. The Body will adjust properly over time.
  • raiderrodney
    raiderrodney Posts: 617 Member
    I wouldn't say change is good nor bad... it just is what it is. It's you're reaction that can be good or bad. That's up to you. You can only control your own actions.

    Well said ;)
  • mike_littlerock
    mike_littlerock Posts: 296 Member
    I wouldn't say change is good nor bad... it just is what it is. It's you're reaction that can be good or bad. That's up to you. You can only control your own actions.
    Very true and some personality types LOVE knowing they can push your buttons. When they realize they are now powerless and you have made a choice to not fall into those old patterns, it will drive them nuts to know they are now powerless over you, but the benefit for you is that it will bring you peace and eliminate the drama they are trying to add to your life. Keep in mind, this is not about you, its really about their desire to control others because they feel like they have so little control over their own life. Stay strong, Live your life according to your own rules. Those that really care for you will be there and be HAPPY that you are making positive changes in your life..
  • robin68562
    robin68562 Posts: 116 Member
    This reminds me of a friend (a best friend of almost 20 yrs)

    We started going to church together - just a non-denominational church to have a little more faith & help out with community events. It has been about 5 yrs now since our first session there. I no longer go but have a very true belief in God and just being a good person.

    But my friend is SO judgemental now. So contradicting. That I am afraid to tell her ANYTHING because she will try to tell me what is "right in the eyes of Jesus or God" and how wrong I am.

    But she will turn around & do the exact same thing and then ask for forgiveness. Its so irritating - and I try not to sound like a jerk by saying this but its gone too far .

    I can't stand self righteous, judgmental people.
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