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how do you know he/she loves you?

love4fitnesslove4food_wechange
love4fitnesslove4food_wechange Posts: 6,897 Member
edited January 1 in Chit-Chat
What does your S.O. do/say that lets you know you're loved? Put another way, how do you know he/she loves you?

For me it's that I have the same insecurities and fears that are reoccurring and he ALWAYS reassures me--without ever growing impatient or dismissive of my fears! He wants to be there for me and I love him so much for it! I feel so comfortable confiding in him and trust that he'll always tell me what I NEED to hear not necessarily what I WANT to hear! :)

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  • LuluProteinFueled
    LuluProteinFueled Posts: 261 Member
    If I'm still awake after he's gone to sleep, he'll wake up suddenly, still half asleep, look over and realise I'm next to him, grab me like it's the first time he's ever seen me, and tell me that I'm the most beautiful girl he's ever seen and that he loves me more than anything in this world. :blushing:
  • love4fitnesslove4food_wechange
    love4fitnesslove4food_wechange Posts: 6,897 Member
    If I'm still awake after he's gone to sleep, he'll wake up suddenly, still half asleep, look over and realise I'm next to him, grab me like it's the first time he's ever seen me, and tell me that I'm the most beautiful girl he's ever seen and that he loves me more than anything in this world. :blushing:

    AWW ...my heart just melted!
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    He hasn't run yet. Probably helps that he's chained to the bed.
  • ChitownFoodie
    ChitownFoodie Posts: 1,562 Member
    He doesn't lie to me. Even f it means it'll hurt my feelings, he tells me the truth. He pays the toll (hugs me) even when I'm being a spoiled whiny brat. When we fight, he still says he loves me and does things for me like cook or get things from the top shelf. When I think my whole existence is crashing around me, he's doesn't try to fix it....he is there to experience it with me.
  • PetulantOne
    PetulantOne Posts: 2,131 Member
    He adopted my son from another relationship. He treats him exactly like he were his own. (and he is besides the dna) There are a TON of other things he does all the time to show me he loves me, but whenever I start getting all crazy I remember that he must love me and my son to step in the way he has. :blushing: .
  • calichica35
    calichica35 Posts: 229 Member
    He puts down the toilet seat
  • Papabear0428
    Papabear0428 Posts: 63
    It's more than words, I can tell you that! It's a connection that I feel that what I am giving to her she is giving back to me and the cycle just continues. The best thing that tells me that she loves me is the fact that she and I have gotten to the point we anticipate the other's thoughts. I'll be thinking of something and she'll start talking about the very same subject that I was thinking about. We've been doing that now for the last fourteen years.
  • JerseyPook
    JerseyPook Posts: 135
    My bf is great about actions speaking louder than words...but, probably one of my most favorite things that he does is call my answering machine when he knows I'm not home and leaves me silly / cute / sweet messages...sometimes he sings (and he's not exactly Jon Bon Jovi - lol)...but, he knows I'm sitting there listening and smiling. We've known each other since we were 11 and 12 years old....but, he lives in NJ and I'm in FL. We've been doing the long distance thing for almost 4 years now....so, we def go out of the way to let each other know how we feel!!
  • DannyMussels
    DannyMussels Posts: 1,842 Member
    When I realize the amount of things she buys me, to make my happy, don't matter as much to me when Icompare them to the things she simply DOES, or SAYS that make me happy.

    I'm the same way. Got my gf flowers once...(i hate showing feelings with $$$), but the real 'gift' was me driving 50km both ways outta town to drop them off on her car late one night, before she got off work.

    It's the thought, and effort that mean it to me and her. Not necessarily how nice or expensive something is. If that makes sense.

    Also, bringing an extra snack, or piece of food to the other...showing up with coffee, suggesting a new activity we could do together.

    She also offers to pay EVERY time. She makes 4x what i do (waitress vs cook, go figure eh) but we end up basically spitting meals/coffee/groceries an even 50/50. But she always, always, always tries paying, and we almost fight about it sometimes, and the cashiers never know whos money to take first.

    I could go on for awhile.

    Maybe I'll sum it up with thoughtfulness and unselfishness. Simply doing things to make the other just feel fantastic.
  • pixietoes
    pixietoes Posts: 1,591 Member
    I know he loves me because when I woke him up in the middle of the night shaking the bed so badly he couldn't imagine what was happening he turned on a light and called 911.

    He let the EMTs take me to the hospital at 3:30 in the morning and decided to do what I have said in passing over the years I think was best, and stayed at home to take care of my daughter and help her get off to school, trusting that I would be okay in the best medical care available.

    He came to the hospital and heard the diagnosis before I was fully conscious and able to take it in and managed to not freak out. He managed to manage the medical care, the bill paying, the caring of our daughter, the caring of the house and occasionally manage his work, too.

    For three months he dealt with life with a wife who was barely conscious. I slept at least 20 hours a day, awake sometimes for as little as 15 minutes before falling asleep again and still managing to make the most of those minutes for our family.

    He dealt with my slow moving. He dealt with my inability to drive for six months, even if it meant he had to go buy tampons. He managed about hundreds of emails, phone calls and face book posts. He read to me when I couldn't read. Reminded me of things I forgot. Accepted mistakes I made.

    Ten months after the beginning of this journey he's still here, enjoying the fact that my life is back to almost normal, although I am weaker, heavier and more needy than I used to be. I hope to undo more of that damage as the year continues and he supports that completely.

    I know he loves me because he did not get taken care of this year the way he has for the past 15 and instead he responded by taking care of me and our daughter. I know he would love me even if things had gone differently, if I were still dealing with having a brain tumor instead of dealing with the consequences of treatment of a brain tumor. I know he's really glad that his wife is still living, and in fact is living remarkably well. There are some things about this part of my life he actually likes better than when I was not yet diagnosed. :)
  • LuluProteinFueled
    LuluProteinFueled Posts: 261 Member
    I know he loves me because when I woke him up in the middle of the night shaking the bed so badly he couldn't imagine what was happening he turned on a light and called 911.

    He let the EMTs take me to the hospital at 3:30 in the morning and decided to do what I have said in passing over the years I think was best, and stayed at home to take care of my daughter and help her get off to school, trusting that I would be okay in the best medical care available.

    He came to the hospital and heard the diagnosis before I was fully conscious and able to take it in and managed to not freak out. He managed to manage the medical care, the bill paying, the caring of our daughter, the caring of the house and occasionally manage his work, too.

    For three months he dealt with life with a wife who was barely conscious. I slept at least 20 hours a day, awake sometimes for as little as 15 minutes before falling asleep again and still managing to make the most of those minutes for our family.

    He dealt with my slow moving. He dealt with my inability to drive for six months, even if it meant he had to go buy tampons. He managed about hundreds of emails, phone calls and face book posts. He read to me when I couldn't read. Reminded me of things I forgot. Accepted mistakes I made.

    Ten months after the beginning of this journey he's still here, enjoying the fact that my life is back to almost normal, although I am weaker, heavier and more needy than I used to be. I hope to undo more of that damage as the year continues and he supports that completely.

    I know he loves me because he did not get taken care of this year the way he has for the past 15 and instead he responded by taking care of me and our daughter. I know he would love me even if things had gone differently, if I were still dealing with having a brain tumor instead of dealing with the consequences of treatment of a brain tumor. I know he's really glad that his wife is still living, and in fact is living remarkably well. There are some things about this part of my life he actually likes better than when I was not yet diagnosed. :)

    That was one of the most beautiful things I've ever read. I'm so happy to hear that you're almost back in full health. What a beautiful husband you have.
  • MattTheWaterRat
    MattTheWaterRat Posts: 167 Member
    She asks me if I love her... everyday.
  • Ruger2506
    Ruger2506 Posts: 309 Member
    What does your S.O. do/say that lets you know you're loved?

    She puts up with me and hasn't left yet. If that isn't love I don't know what is.
  • love4fitnesslove4food_wechange
    love4fitnesslove4food_wechange Posts: 6,897 Member
    I know he loves me because when I woke him up in the middle of the night shaking the bed so badly he couldn't imagine what was happening he turned on a light and called 911.

    He let the EMTs take me to the hospital at 3:30 in the morning and decided to do what I have said in passing over the years I think was best, and stayed at home to take care of my daughter and help her get off to school, trusting that I would be okay in the best medical care available.

    He came to the hospital and heard the diagnosis before I was fully conscious and able to take it in and managed to not freak out. He managed to manage the medical care, the bill paying, the caring of our daughter, the caring of the house and occasionally manage his work, too.

    For three months he dealt with life with a wife who was barely conscious. I slept at least 20 hours a day, awake sometimes for as little as 15 minutes before falling asleep again and still managing to make the most of those minutes for our family.

    He dealt with my slow moving. He dealt with my inability to drive for six months, even if it meant he had to go buy tampons. He managed about hundreds of emails, phone calls and face book posts. He read to me when I couldn't read. Reminded me of things I forgot. Accepted mistakes I made.

    Ten months after the beginning of this journey he's still here, enjoying the fact that my life is back to almost normal, although I am weaker, heavier and more needy than I used to be. I hope to undo more of that damage as the year continues and he supports that completely.

    I know he loves me because he did not get taken care of this year the way he has for the past 15 and instead he responded by taking care of me and our daughter. I know he would love me even if things had gone differently, if I were still dealing with having a brain tumor instead of dealing with the consequences of treatment of a brain tumor. I know he's really glad that his wife is still living, and in fact is living remarkably well. There are some things about this part of my life he actually likes better than when I was not yet diagnosed. :)

    That was one of the most beautiful things I've ever read. I'm so happy to hear that you're almost back in full health. What a beautiful husband you have.

    I actually cried. This is so sweet. I hope you recovery beautifully and your family comes out stronger from having had to endure this. Thank you for sharing.
  • Sasssy69
    Sasssy69 Posts: 547 Member
    He hasn't run yet. Probably helps that he's chained to the bed.

    OMG!!! HA HA HA! YES!!! I am right there with you, sister.

    And yes, seriously -the fact that he still comes home to me every night. That's how I know.
  • ashesfromfire
    ashesfromfire Posts: 867 Member
    I love meeting his new friends, or members of his family, or even employers because he always introduces me as his better half.

    He's not good at big grand gestures of affection, but never fails to slip a sandwich into my purse when he knows I'm working late and would be starving without something to eat.

    After all these years I still catch him checking me out across the room

    He makes me laugh every single day because, according to him, all he ever wants is to see my smile
  • trophywife24
    trophywife24 Posts: 1,472 Member
    He brags about me to his friends/coworkers/anyone that will listen.
    He tells me I look nice every day, even after I put on my pjs and my name on his phone is "Hot Wife"
    He takes care of me and our kids and never, ever complains about that, ever.
    He's a fantastic father to our boys.
  • Impy84
    Impy84 Posts: 430
    honestly can't answer this

    * goes off to cry*
  • mikeschratz
    mikeschratz Posts: 253 Member
    He doesn't lie to me. Even f it means it'll hurt my feelings, he tells me the truth. He pays the toll (hugs me) even when I'm being a spoiled whiny brat. When we fight, he still says he loves me and does things for me like cook or get things from the top shelf. When I think my whole existence is crashing around me, he's doesn't try to fix it....he is there to experience it with me.

    ^^^ This
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