Ashamed

I feel sad you feel ashamed of yourself, but I feel so glad you found MFP! It is such a wonderful site - hook up with some great folks for motivation and encouragement so the process is fun and rewarding!

Well things happen, people make mistakes. No need to be ashamed. Think how proud you'll be when you lose the weight!!!

Please don't be ashamed - we are ALL here to love and support each other as we go trough this journey together!

My wake up call was when my scale tipped past 300. I am 39, have two boys ( 7 and 10) who are the world to me - I too know what you mean as I was too ashamed of what I become - but - the friends here helped me though support drop 30+ pounds of my 100 pound goal in the first 30 days.

VR

Kevin

P.S. Please add me as a friend.

I totally understand how you feel. I lost 60lbs in 2010-2011 and reached my goal weight of 140 (I am 5ft 3in tall). As soon as I did...I stopped doing what I had been doing to loose the weight. I have gained 20lbs back and feel like I have just given up. I don't know it it was the sense of accomplishment and then not having something to look forward too that caused me to go backwards or what it was. We just have to regain the will power to do it again...and keep it off! Don't be ashamed...consider it a learning experience.

Brandy

I was ashamed too for a while.

I left the army at a decent weight, exited the army, and blew up to almost 270 lbs.

I was ashamed to call myself a veteran.

Good news is, with time and consistency, good diet, exercise, and you won't have to be ashamed anymore.

Just keep it up!

Same here - US Air Force Vet of 12 years and I was ashamed at how I was. In 30 days I dropped over 30 pounds.

dont be ashamed!! weight is just weight it comes and goes.. you should be proud of yourself you are trying to change your eating habits and live a healthier life..

I am proud of you!!!
:flowerforyou:

You don't have anything to be ashamed of!! You should be proud of yourself for starting this journey and I am sure it will be a success this time!

I am 5'9" and started this last journey of mine weighing 320 pounds. It's not something I am proud of either. I am 61 years old and I am still going to get this weight off. I am just sorry I waited so long. Don't get me wrong, I have been on diet after diet...even lost 76 pounds at one time...but gained it all back except 16 pounds. This time I will do it!!! (I'm running out of time, so I'd better get busy!!!)

Hang in there and be confident that you will and can do this!!!

I really appreciate your openness and vulnerability, and everyone else who's shared their shame in reply. I think your shame is incredibly common, for those of us on this site, and otherwise. I wish more of us admitted it, shared it, since "speaking shame" seems to be the best cure.

I'm 39, and have yet to "conquer" my food, weight, and exercise problems. Likely, these will stay with me as my "remaining issues" for some time. But what I have learned is that shame hasn't helped a single person change. When I'm ashamed of myself for having the extra calories, skipping the exercise, loving the carbs or gaining some weight... all I want is more damaging food. We can only continually make the healthy choices when we are wanting to love ourselves with each choice. Shame, of course, flies in the face of self-love.

That's what I would want for us all, and believe me I'm as shame-ridden as they come... but I know that shame paralyzes me. Self-love helps me move, plug, muster the effort. So if you can, when you notice shame creeping in, berating you for letting yourself "go," remind yourself that when you first started eating, it wasn't to punish or haunt yourself, but for comfort... an attempt to feel good. Now, it's gone awry, and you need to make different choices in love. But punishing ourselves, shaming ourselves, will only succeed in keeping us from changing.

Good luck all!

I was 135 just 2 years ago & now I'm 177. I was 184 just before joining MFP a few days ago. I love it! It really helps me to keep a check on things. I was never really calorie conscious until I joined. I had no will power & was quite miserable. MFP really does help with that. I hope you reach your weightloss goal. There's tons of people here for motivation & supoort.

I'm currently 189 lbs at 5'4, and I'm completely ashamed of myself. Just 3 years ago I was 140 lbs, and then I just let myself go. Lately I've had this overwhelming desire to change, and in the process of that I have lost 2 lbs (I was 191 two weeks ago). I just thought that having a Food Diary on hand would help me understand what I'm doing wrong, and so I'm here.

I hope everyone achieves the weight they desire, and I wish you all the best of luck on your journeys!!! :flowerforyou:

I felt the same way. I hadn't let my self go, I worked out hard bet the pounds kept packing. It didn't seem fair. We all have our own stories of being ashamed, that's why we are here now, either losing or maintaining to make sure it doesn't happen again.

Wishing you the best! Don't give up. I almost did and I finally achieved my goal at age 50 and I'm maintaining for over a year now at almost 52. You can do it. Anyone who sets their mind to it can do it.

Good for you taking charge of your situation! We are all here with the same goals in mind, to lose weight and/or get healthier.

I'm currently 189 lbs at 5'4, and I'm completely ashamed of myself. Just 3 years ago I was 140 lbs, and then I just let myself go. Lately I've had this overwhelming desire to change, and in the process of that I have lost 2 lbs (I was 191 two weeks ago). I just thought that having a Food Diary on hand would help me understand what I'm doing wrong, and so I'm here.

I hope everyone achieves the weight they desire, and I wish you all the best of luck on your journeys!!! :flowerforyou:

Look here, chickie-poo.... you can't be ashamed now. You are taking steps toward change, and getting back in shape. That is amazing, and difficult... and you're doing it! I'm proud of you!

Don't be ashamed. You are human, and you made some choices that didn't work out for the best. We are all here with you because of the same thing. I started my journey two years ago at 262 lbs and a size 22. Within a year, I was down to 192 lbs and in a 12. I was happy as hell, and since I carry weight in a way that makes me look smaller than I am...I relaxed. I stopped worrying about the calories. That coupled with leaving my high energy job, and I've managed to get back to 218. I think I will be forever scarred by having to go buy bigger pants. Sounds silly, I know. Anyway, the point of this ramble is that we are with you in this. If we can grow to these sizes, then we can shrink! :bigsmile:

I started about where you are now and am now at 167. No need to be ashamed, we are all human and we are capable of change, good or bad. Do what you need to do for your health and well being.

its great that you have lost 2 pounds just by putting your mind to it remember this is a journey you didn't get here in a day and it won't fix itself in a moment either. these are steps you should be proud of... most take a lifetime to figure it out and your on track Congratulations and welcome