guys, children?

I grew up in a big family so I always wanted a family, but waited till I was 31 to start. We have 4 daughters, 15 to 23 yo.

Maybe when I was in Jr High lol Kids were always part of my plan. I didn't want them while I was in HS or even in college but I always knew I wanted them.

I was never a no kids ever it's all about me me me guy .

I wanted kids when I was younger, late teens to late 20's. Then I found out all the obsticals I'd have to go through, made parenthood almost impossible for me. Also given the fact I'm going to be 35 in 2 weeks and singleish (meaning I have recently met someone and by the point we'd be ready and things happen I'll be too old) that hope is kinda gone.

I think there's a part inside everyone that has the desire to be a parent. I do think it takes guys longer to get to that point than girls. Guys tend to want to "live" life and then have a family. Girls tend to want to have families early and then "live" life. It took my brother until he was in his late 20's to want to have kids, now at 32 he his going to be a first time father.

I started wanting kids when I stopped working with delinquent children and their parents and started meeting more normal families. For me it was too late as cancer had stuffed any chances, so we had IVF, and Now I have a teenager daughter I was 36 when she was born.

I am almost 30 and still don't want any. I hate children more than I hate the word 'overtraining'. Too damned needy and all...affectionate and ****. Makes me feel ill just thinking about it.

I am almost 30 and still don't want any. I hate children more than I hate the word 'overtraining'. Too damned needy and all...affectionate and ****. Makes me feel ill just thinking about it.

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i've never really liked children. I have a legal obligation to kinda put up with my own

I really hope you are joking.

I never really wanted kids. So, I married someone who also was ambivalent about it. We both like kids-- we are the best "aunt and uncle" ever! When we spend time with our friends who have kids, we get to do all of the fun stuff! We get to play and hear about their day at school or what they saw at the park.... but we never have to wrangle a toddler into eating her vegetables or con her into taking a bath. And, should their be a bedtime "I don't wanna go to bed!" tantrum, we don't manage the chaos. It is bittersweet, because I will also never have a child that calls me mommy. But, I am happy with the choices that I have made in life.

I think whether or not to have children is an intensely personal choice.... and all decisions are valid. I just think that if you do have a child, you have to be prepared to be the best parent ever. Because that's what children deserve.

I come from a large family and knew I always wanted kids, but didn't have a desire to start at a young age. My husband and I got married when I was 28 (started dating him when I was 25) and had our first right after I turned 30.