Love Quiz

Ro0kin
Ro0kin Posts: 34 Member
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I found this interesting quiz about how you view love and relationships.

http://howwelove.com/love-style-quiz/

My results are...

Avoider: 49%
Pleaser: 61%
Vacillator: 70%
Controller: 26%
Victim: 43%

Which makes me a Vacillator...

"Growing up with an unpredictable parent, Vacillators’ needs aren’t top priority. Without consistent parental affection, they develop feelings of abandonment. By the time the parent feels like giving again, their child is tired of waiting and too angry to receive. As adults, Vacillators are on a quest to find the consistent love they never received as children. They idealize new relationships, but then get tired of it once life (and the relationship) gets less than perfect."

I found that to be almost spot on. What did you guys get?

Replies

  • mruntidy
    mruntidy Posts: 1,015 Member
    I'm a pleaser apparently at 73% avoider 66%
    Reading the write up, that seems to fit
  • paruls86
    paruls86 Posts: 188 Member
    Secure Connector...
  • Ro0kin
    Ro0kin Posts: 34 Member
    Secure Connector...

    I wish I was.
  • FadedFreckles
    FadedFreckles Posts: 81 Member
    That's not a love quiz, it's a spousal abuse quiz! :laugh:
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    That's not a love quiz, it's a spousal abuse quiz! :laugh:

    ^^^She's right. Took it anyway.

    Avoider: 47%
    Pleaser: 51%
    Vacillator: 30%
    Controller: 36%
    Victim: 21%
  • Bucky83
    Bucky83 Posts: 1,194 Member
    Avoider: 34%
    Pleaser: 52%
    Vacillator: 50%
    Controller: 22%
    Victim: 18%
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    Avoider: 50%
    Pleaser: 54%
    Vacillator: 43%
    Controller: 51%
    Victim: 21%
  • katamus
    katamus Posts: 2,363 Member
    That's not a love quiz, it's a spousal abuse quiz! :laugh:

    Yeah, I didn't know that being a victim was a way to love someone.. Who knew.
  • oberon0124
    oberon0124 Posts: 10,524 Member
    Avoider: 58%

    Pleaser: 61%

    Vacillator: 48%

    Controller: 21%

    Victim: 33%
  • atsteele
    atsteele Posts: 1,358 Member
    Avoider: 47%

    Pleaser: 50%

    Vacillator: 50%

    Controller: 58%

    Victim: 19%
  • coliema
    coliema Posts: 7,646 Member
    That's not a love quiz, it's a spousal abuse quiz! :laugh:
    Yes!

    I got halfway through it and then stopped because I already spent 20 minutes on the first half of the questions!
  • Legs_McGee
    Legs_McGee Posts: 845 Member
    49% avoider
    38% pleaser
    43% vacillator
    23% controller
    9% victim


    Hmmm... the description for Avoider doesn't match me. I have a very closeknit and openly affectionate family and we're all very close as adults. My parents have been happily married for 45 years. I guess it's because I don't cry very often and don't like being around overly emotional people.... I always hate that episode of Survivor when their families show up and everyone gets all weepy. I'd probably be the same way but I don't like watching other people do it.
  • dbanks80
    dbanks80 Posts: 3,685 Member
    It said I am a Secured Connector

    Avoider 20%
    Pleaser 32%
    Vacillator 30%
    Controller 11%
    Victim 11%

    My definition was very spot on
  • marmee66
    marmee66 Posts: 1
    Avoider: 57%
    Pleaser: 59%
    Vacillator: 55%
    Controller: 43%
    Victim: 56%

    Apparently I MIGHT be a pleaser. Typical me. Even tthese quizes show I don't know who I am! :ohwell: :frown:
  • PlushHyena
    PlushHyena Posts: 28
    Avoider: 32%
    Pleaser: 43%
    Vacillator: 45%
    Controller: 38%
    Victim: 18%

    It says I might be a vacillator.

    Growing up with an unpredictable parent, Vacillators’ needs aren’t top priority. Without consistent parental affection, they develop feelings of abandonment. - I grew up with one very unpredictable parent and seeing the other one only on weekends.

    By the time the parent feels like giving again, their child is tired of waiting and too angry to receive. - I don't think this is true, except that I don't want to spend time with my parents at this age (I did when I was little).

    As adults, Vacillators are on a quest to find the consistent love they never received as children. They idealize new relationships, but then get tired of it once life (and the relationship) gets less than perfect. - I often wonder whether a less-than-ideal relationship is good enough, or if staying together is a sign of weakness.

    My poor boyfriend is probably my victim. :S Nice test.

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