Why I can not do it alone

its so hard to self motivate...this is a great site for support. have you done any exercise today? get off your butt!! ha! i need a swift kick sometimes...losing weight is so hard, but its so worth it when you see results..we are all here to hold your hand..or kick you in the butt! maintain your food diary..it helps alot!

At first I had the same attitude. "Why bother?" "Ugh... I HATE exercising"

Then I realized that out of the entire day I'm only working out for 30min to an hour.
In the entire week this only equates to 6 hours AT MOST.

I'm not eating differently and exercising entirely for the sake of vanity. I'm doing it more for my HEALTH.

It's not about "I don't want to", "Why bother", "It's pointless", it's about "Just do it."

The amount of effort that you have to exert to maintain a healthy body is minimal. Once I realized this, it just became second nature. It became a priority instead of a chore. It's part of my life now. Every day, all day.

Oh and while I did have some support from my girlfriend, I was pretty much alone in my efforts. Everything I learned and researched I did on my own. I learned from my mistakes and kept pushing forward despite some pretty crappy setbacks.

When someone says something it is easily forgotten, when someone writes it down and prints it, it is not easily forgotten so writing down what you eat, drink, and your exercise gives you a record of behavior that can't be disputed if you are honest with yourself. I do it for weight training because it allows me to see my progress. With food, it holds you accountable to yourself for what you are eating. Remember, your goals are one day at a time and if necessary, one meal at a time. Make small daily goals and in time you will have achieved a bigger goal but be patient and work on it. It isn't going to happen all at once, nothing worth having does not include pain and sacrifice so just do it one day and every day.

Hello there,

who knows that feeling that you can't succeed in loosing weight. All theses ups and downs of personal scales.

It is so frustrating to disappoint yourself, but it is much more painful to disappoint your partner too.

Yes, for sure, I know that I should loose weight only for me and not for someone else. But it is hard.

My greatest problem is to get up my *kitten* without someone kicks me.

So, please get in touch with me, tell me about your success and how you manage to persevere.

Hope to read you soon.

Leyla

Hello Leyla,

This is a tough journey that is for sure. Build up your team around you. Build your environment for success. It can't be done on willpower alone. Sometimes you need help from others. I could not have gotten my success without the help of my husband and my awesome friends.

Best of luck to you!

Bobbie

I started at 200lbs. and got down to 165lbs (where I am now) in 6months. I exercised 30mins to 1 hour every day, and did weights at the gym 3 times a week. My major problem was food also. I don't really document everything I eat anymore but when I started it was really helpful because I didn't know how many calories I was eatting. You will be shocked when you see some of the foods you thought were good choices are not at all. For example, I used to get the chicken sandwich from Wendy's when my husband would get the burger and I thought I was being good, turns out the chicken sandwich is pretty much the same as the burger and is over 50% of my daily intake for calories ;/ And when you start seeing how vegetables (that you like!) are almost no calories it makes you look at food differently. Once you get an idea of what foods are really good for you and what is not then you can make more educated decisions. To me bbq ribs are worth and extra few hours of exercise, but pizza is not

I found that the sense of satisfaction from doing it on my own - without the help of a man or someone who could let me down eventually - was great. My husband works on his feet 11 hours a day, so he can handle four Oreos before bed. I cannot. So I just don't join him. I make a cup of tea to sip to stave off the temptation. I lost 20 pounds of baby weight in one year, and I did it slowly. I set five pound goals at a time. After five pounds, I'd take time to eat a little more but practice maintaining. Once I successfully maintained that for a month or so, I'd tackle the next 5 pounds. Little goals.

Once people start noticing the weight loss, it is easier to stick with it. The compliments really help. I also find that if I have a cheat night (like the spaghetti and bread I had two nights ago), I have a hard time not cheating over and over again. (Today I ate quite a few handfuls of chocolate.) It's best for me just to stick to the program I have set for myself. One good choice leads to another. One bad choice leads to another.

One reason I did this on my own was to show my parents that it IS POSSIBLE to get healthy. I only had 20 pounds to lose, they have a lot more, but they don't try. I wanted to get control of myself before it got worse, and show my family that self control and hard work is totally possible.

Hello there,

who knows that feeling that you can't succeed in loosing weight. All theses ups and downs of personal scales.

It is so frustrating to disappoint yourself, but it is much more painful to disappoint your partner too.

Yes, for sure, I know that I should loose weight only for me and not for someone else. But it is hard.

My greatest problem is to get up my *kitten* without someone kicks me.

So, please get in touch with me, tell me about your success and how you manage to persevere.

Hope to read you soon.

Leyla

i know you are looking for people to motivate but until you find it within yourself you will not succeed...

i hear dudes all the time saying that girl is pretty for a big girl i am going to date her and make her work out.. it doesnt work like that unless a person wants to do something for themselves they wont succeed.