polyamory

LosingWeight64
LosingWeight64 Posts: 33
edited January 2 in Chit-Chat
what are your thoughts? a good friend of mine has decided this is the lifestyle she wants, and is actively seeking a second man to be in her life..

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  • mavrick7
    mavrick7 Posts: 1,607 Member
    @losingweight - really? what does she look like :wink:
  • ChristineMarie89
    ChristineMarie89 Posts: 1,079 Member
    my thoughts are whatever floats her boat :P
  • avir8
    avir8 Posts: 671 Member
    SF looking for 2 Husbands. Must be able to cook and/or clean. Smokers need not apply
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,382 Member
    My son and his wife are advocates of this lifestyle. I am not exactly thrilled but its their life.
  • StinkyWinkies
    StinkyWinkies Posts: 603 Member
    To each their own. I have friends who are "Poly," it comes with its own set of relational problems, just like all other relationships do.

    There are some good, very good indeed, "Poly" groups out there. (sorry for the pun)
  • zenchild
    zenchild Posts: 680 Member
    As long as everyone involved is an adult and completely aware of (and cool with) the situation, that's fine. Not something I could do but not a big deal.
  • redheaddee
    redheaddee Posts: 2,005 Member
    I wouldn't mind two husbands...the one I have, and the one who is impotent, filthy, stinking rich, has no family other than myself, and is almost dead :laugh:

    Seriously, if all involved are on board, why the heck not.
  • nimuekl7
    nimuekl7 Posts: 2 Member
    Depending on who she attracts it could be good or bad. I tried living that way for a year and a half. It was nothing but misery and and being sought out by an endless list of men who just thought it meant free sex whenever they liked.

    I did my homework before trying it and went in with a clear plan and it still went to pot. After turning down many people who were nowhere near right for me and being frustrated at it I gave it up. If she confident and has good people in mind more power to her.
  • Ruthe8
    Ruthe8 Posts: 423 Member
    I am not a jealous person when it comes to sex, but I couldn't deal with sharing my spouse emotionally. I have no problem with people who do want that, though.
  • jus_in_bello
    jus_in_bello Posts: 326 Member
    Ya know, it's not really one of those "decisions" you can make, a lot is reveled about yourself in a poly relationship. A lot of people, in my experience, think they are into it and then realize their partner isn't as okay with it as they thought or that it is more complicated than they expected. I've never been a primary partner, I've never wanted to be, I really like being the secondary partner (too much pressure to be primary!) It can get complicated, I would not want to be the first secondary partner to a new couple though, it is really difficult to figure out which boundaries work best for the couple and the secondary partner and then for the three of them. It works really well for those who can do it, it is a giant cluster fvck for those who can't.

    Dan Savage (a realtionship/sex podcast-er and is a wealth of information if you are looking for ways to be supportive or to just educate yourself, he's on iTunes for free; I happen to be in love with him...and his life partner) always says that he's been to many Poly weddings but never to a Poly fifth anniversary party.
  • LosingWeight64
    LosingWeight64 Posts: 33
    i dont have any moral issues with it.. i guess it just kinda blew me away as i never saw her as someone that would be into that.. but then again, im sure there isnt a 'type' anyhow...
    i think there would be pros to it... 2 men handing you their paycheck, lmao jk.. honestly the companionship would prob be great... but i dont know if jealousy would get in the way with me anyhow...
    i'll be her friend regardless...and supportive.. hell, i may try it one day when i get thin and sexy lmao
  • Skyfire23
    Skyfire23 Posts: 37
    I don't know anyone who does, and I know I could never do it, but it doesn't bother me that people do.
  • GetFitCarly
    GetFitCarly Posts: 151
    I could never do that even if I was paid.
  • Impy84
    Impy84 Posts: 430
    I vote no
    *that's the nicest thing i could say*
  • Gallowmere1984
    Gallowmere1984 Posts: 6,626 Member
    It's definitely not for everyone, but I honestly don't see anything wrong with it. So long as all parties are consenting adults, who cares?
  • hendinerik
    hendinerik Posts: 287 Member
    If it works for them, so be it. For me aside from other reasons, I have trouble keeping up with balancing ONE relationship and the rest of my life, so that is plenty!

    I think it's a slippery slope in reality and in the society we live in. And if kids are in the picture, I don't think it's fantastic.
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