no hope for me...

It's not hopeless. Stressful, yes, but not hopeless. I was stuck at the same weight for nearly a month....actually I gained a pound. Now the weight is coming off again. And if I can lose weight after being nearly 300 pounds for over 10 years, then anyone can.

We didn't put the weight on in a short time and it shouldn't come off in a short time, not if you want it to stay off. How long have you at it?

I feel for you, but don't give up! Take it slow and steady and definitely go and talk to your doctor. Your body may be telling you something that you shouldn't ignore. I take a Complex B vitamin at about 3pm every day and that really seems to help me with my energy levels. I've heard B12 injections work really well too and they last for weeks. Maybe ask your doctor about that? Sometimes it helps me to log my food BEFORE I eat it. Then I can make nutritional adjustments to stay within my ranges before things go into my mouth. Sometimes I fall off and eat more than I should too, but I'm working on not letting that sabatoge my whole day, or week. Just that one meal and then do better the next one. Good luck to you and don't ever give up. You are worth it.

I've been told fat is actually better for you than carbs when losing weight. The reason is how the body metabolizes sugar, which makes up carbs. Carbs are burned first and if you have too much of those, then your body won't metabolize the protein and fat.
It doesn't mean you're going to get fatter, it is a common mistake for people who are new to nutrition.

perhaps walking on my treadmill for awhile until im better at running is a good idea, could anyone suggest a walking mph rate? like 2mph or 3 or whichever, and for how long, for a good healthy walk.

when i was JUST starting out, i went by my heart rate. back then it hurt to have my heart rate at 130 or above for over 5 minutes :laugh: so i worked my way up to being able to sustain that for 60 minutes. i think the pace was something like 3.2 or 3.5. i used to be an athlete so at first i was like :sad: but then i was like eff it, if i have to start over then i start over. that's better than doing nothing and i can only get better right?

as for the food, i think you're over thinking it just pick stuff in your calorie goal and eat it. i personally think that if someone is constantly worried about what they need to eat and if they are eating too much, then they have more than likely decreased their calories too much

I always take at least 1 day off to do absolutely nothing. Sometimes that's once a week - other times its once a month. Listen to your body. It will tell you - you just have to listen. I think that is why you are at where you are now, your body was tired and needed a break. I see no problem walking everyday as long as you are not going like 20 miles or something ridulously crazy like that - then that IS exercise and you should treat it as such. I alternate 3 days of cardio and 3 days of strength training; and one free day to either goof off or do whatever exercise I feel like working on (whether that is extra abs or arms, etc...and ONLY that - not a full days workout). But that is my regimen; not everyone will want to do that. :bigsmile:

thanks for your help. do you do this 7 days a week? or 5 ? or whats best, I hear its good to take rest days but then u also hear its good to not.. I have no idea , If its just walking it cant hurt everyday, right?

when i first started i did 30 days straight since they say it takes 30 days to start a habit and i wanted to get back into the routine of doing something active at least 5 days a week. it was just walking so i wasnt damaging my joints or anything. it also sometimes took me 90 minutes to finish 60 minutes of walking (because i had to stop ). i was also unemployed so i was made of time, otherwise i would have just stuck to 60 minutes total in the gym.

but you definitely want to pay attention to how your body feels. any paint in joints you want to pay attention to (i took advil and MSM to help with that).

now i definitely take rest days (1-2) because my workouts are a lot more intense and i definitely need the days off.

dont try starting too fast too soon since at first you just want to set up a habit and in order to be successful this should be a lifestyle change rather than something short term. same with your food, get into a habit of logging what you eat (even if it's a pan of brownies) and start coming up with different meal ideas that you can expand on as time goes on.

and like i said, dont sweat the bad days. you're setting up new habits so it'll be really easy to fall into an old one when you're first starting. just start the next day fresh

No one on this planet is useless. Ever. Saying it about yourself is giving other people permission to say it about you or others and its not ok.

And having a hard time or a bad couple days doesn't make it hopeless. The only thing in your post that sounds hopeless is your attitude. You have to believe you can do it or you won't. It isn't gonna be easy, but it'll be worth it. You can totally turn it around if you want it bad enough. These might sound cliche but truer words have never been spoken. Nobody can do it for you. Your strength has to come from within yourself. Diet buddies and support systems are great but at the end of the day it's your blood, sweat, and tears that get the job done. I can give you the sympathy pat on the back "tomorrow is another day" stuff but what you really to hear is that you are WORTHY of making it a better day and no one can tell you that better than yourself. So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and MAKE tomorrow better. Make every day count.

When you start exercising your body needs more calories. Calories=energy. If you're not eating enough, a workout can be hard to get through. IMHO myfitnesspal's recommended calorie intake for any person I've seen is EXTREMELY low. Especially if you are doing hard workouts. Also, I think you should incorporate weights into you're routine. It's the only thing that will change your metabolism, which is how you lose body fat and keep it off. It's also important to remember that fat is necessary and that you shouldn't be afraid of it....going over in calories is the same no matter what macro nutrient it is. Fat just happens to be the most calorie dense of all the macros. Lastly, remember that one day does not throw you off. Consistency is the only thing that works long run. It's what you do 90% of the time that matters. Just start back up on your routine NOW, don't wait until tomorrow...and if you messed up at dinner just start over at breakfast. Do something good for your body when you feel you messed up like drinking a tall glass of ice water. You haven't screwed up...it takes years to get in bad shape by not working out and eating poorly 90% of the time...it will take the same amount of time in the reverse scenario.

I have been new to all this, diet changes, excercising and such.
I was doing 10 flights of stairs down and up everyday, my treadmill for 5 mins at 5 mph , for a few straight weeks now,
all the sudden i just cant, today and yesterday i lasted 3 minuites give or take on my treadmill at 4.9 mph, and only done stairs once the other day.....

what is wrong with me....

Then i really messed up and had an awful dinner today,and it was way over and put me over in my fat, by negative 19.
i feel hopless and useless and stressed and upset, i just want to lose weight,and im trying but, its just hopeless......

OK stupid question here, is it your time of month or close to it?? That is usually a trigger for what you're going through.... just a thought. Dont' get down on yourself, EVERYONE has days like this even if they don't admit it. Chin up kiddo!!