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The end of long distance...

oregonzoo
oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
edited January 2 in Chit-Chat
For all my other folks who started out in a long distance relationship and went a few years before you were finally able to live with your significant other, how much of an adjustment is it? Was it difficult? Was it magical?

As excited as I am, it's surreal since we've been doing this for three years. I cannot believe I'll finally get to see him every day....

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  • ToughTulip
    ToughTulip Posts: 1,118 Member
    Congrats!

    I cannot wait to get to that point! Almost there :)
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    One thing I wish my husband and I had done when we moved in together was establish a plan for who was going to do what. Would've eliminated a lot of frustration. It's going to be awesome though. So excited for you!
  • luvJOJO
    luvJOJO Posts: 1,881 Member
    My boyfriend lived an hour & 1/2 away (which is not too bad) and we dated for a year & 1/2 before moving in together. We just moved in together in August and I have to say it took some adjusting. I have just been by myself for many years and I was so used to doing things the way I wanted them done and just being in control of everything in my house period. It definitely takes some adjusting but if you love him you just have to be willing to compromise, let some things slide, and work through things and talk about them. I am happy to have him there every night to snuggle up to and to come home to in the evening. But I won't lie about getting irritated by some of the little things, haha!
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Never done it. My wife says she wants to try it, though.
  • SuperSexyDork
    SuperSexyDork Posts: 1,669 Member
    My Love and I were together 6 months before we moved in together. We lived 600 miles away from each other.

    I moved to be with him 2 years ago now and I can tell you that it's been an incredible 2 years.

    However, to make things more smooth in the transition, I can tell you that it would have been better to have stayed in the same house with each other for longer periods of time beforehand. It's really hard to go from the complete excitement of you just being there to settling into a routine and some things becoming mundane.

    I would also suggest that whichever one of you is moving should try to find a job in the new area beforehand. I saved myself so much headache by doing this. I never knew how much of a headache moving so far would create and if I hadn't had a job lined up, I don't think I would have been able to handle all of the stress.
  • tlv1201
    tlv1201 Posts: 4 Member
    It is definitely one heck of an adjustment. Hubby was in the navy in CT for the first 3 years of our marriage, while I was back home in WI. Longest we had ever been together was about 30 days. We took a 2-week to road trip back home with all his worldly possessions the day he got discharged and had a great time. Basically took the honeymoon we didn't get to have while he was in the service.

    Getting home and settling in was a little stressful. We seemed to communicate better when we were in different states 1,800 miles apart. Definitely took some getting used to, and a lot of compromising on both our parts. It's been 18 years and counting.

    Good luck, and just remember to keep the lines of communication open. It will make things go a lot smoother if you let you partner know your wants, needs, and intentions. Don't just assume that they will automatically know what's on your mind.
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    That's when you start hating each other and the blinders come off ;)
  • jeepyj93
    jeepyj93 Posts: 392 Member
    After about 13 years of marriage DH and I were forced to live in different cities due to circumstances. I had the 3 kids and he would come home every 10 days for 4 days , we did that for 7 years then were able to move back together full time. That took some getting used to the kids and I had our routines and lives on a daily basis and he was the visitor.
    It takes adjustment on both parties but if you really love each other you can make it work.
    We are on number 40 this year and I am glad we had that time it really makes us glad to see each other everyday.
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