Should I feel guilty?

myiceisonfire · October 2012

Okay so I started MFP at the end of March 2011. I didn't have to deal with losing weight in winter because I got pregnant.

In summer I like salads and raw vegies, in winter I like casseroles and soup, still healthy foods but more calories.

I have made a decision.. During the winter/cold months I'm switch to "Lose 1lb a week" instead of 2lbs.... I feel like I'm totally slacking by doing this though because before I was pregnant I was always at 2lbs, ever since the day I joined MFP. Should I feel guilty only setting self to lose only 1lb a week.

I'm also the mother of a 2yr old and a 2month old and the 2month old isn't sleeping through the night yet, so I don't feel like kicking myself in the butt just yet at the lose 2lb a week. Do you think that's just an excuse or a logical reasoning with having to wake up at least once or twice in the middle of the night still.

Cyngen · October 2012

Nope, don't feel guilty. During the week of Christmas I will be moving down to 1 per week as well for a bit... just want to enjoy the family time.

CkepiJinx · October 2012

I think if you feel like 1 lb is more manageable then that's what you should change it to. This is a marathon not a sprint, if you force yourself to stay at two and give up that is much worse than changing your goal, at least you are still trying! Congratulation on the new baby enjoy it!

strawberrytoast · October 2012

Just because you put down to lose 1lb per week doesnt mean your going to do that, you could lose 2lbs one week even 3 or maybe none! Stick with what youve got on it and any extra lbs off are going to be a bonus

Mummyadams · October 2012

broken sleep is the worst! It's a lifestyle change and one that you want to maintain. 1lb sounds pretty good, especially with a newborn.

klbruce317 · October 2012

I agree with the above 100%^^^

sallysuze · October 2012

So you are dealing with sleep deprivation, post birth hormones, and probably bfing, and dealing with a toddler learning to deal with a new sibling.
Are you trying to be supermum or something? Why not relax, enjoy your new family, and keep logging at maintenance or 1lb loss if you can, when you can.
If you can't give yourself a break at this important and exhausting time of your life, then who will? What exactly are you doing this for?

FixItDuck · October 2012

Hey, you've got a brand new baby and a toddler, you are doing well to even contemplate loosing weight! If you are breastfeeding, then your calorie need will be greater and it's probably better to focus on nutrition rather than weight loss - I found my baby weight came off really easy by doing this (shame I got a bit slack and gained some back but I've nearly lost that again). It takes months for your body to recover from pregnancy and child birth so cut yourself some slack - if you can achieve a 1lb/week loss then that's blimmen fantastic, but if not remember you body just grew a baby!

myiceisonfire · October 2012

Thanks. Sally I'm doing this because I'm at 220lbs and I want to be 160. I want to be healthy again. Look and feel smaller than I am. I don't want my stomach hanging over my pants, or my thighs rubbing together when I walk. Overall I just want to feel and look more attractive and that involves being healthy as well.

I guess I feel bad because after having my 1st son I got down to the 180s but then got pregnant and gained it all back. I feel like I need to get back down to the 180s asap in order to feel better about myself. But just too exhausted to be working out and eating so little right now.

I have a fear of getting stuck where I am & not finding the motivation again to lose it all over again. I was at 1200 calories a day and burning 5k calories a week before I got pregnant. I'm not use to just "relaxing" unless I'm pregnant.

Edit: I feel like now that I'm not pregnant I'm suppose to get right back to burning 5,000 calories a week and eating 1200 a day again. But I just dont feel "ready" for that yet.

Mummyadams · October 2012

Not sure if your BF or not but if you are then I would have thought 1200 would be too low? Don't be too hard on yourself, start easy and incorporate your kids in your lifestyle (walking with pram, running around the park etc). Give your body a chance to heal first so that you have the energy to look after your family and as important - you! Good luck!

myiceisonfire · October 2012

Sorry, forgot to answer that one. No, he's on formula. I'd like to go for walks with them but it's cold out of that now =P I try to do Zumba when they're both down for naps at the same time.

sallysuze · October 2012

Thanks. Sally I'm doing this because I'm at 220lbs and I want to be 160. I want to be healthy again. Look and feel smaller than I am. I don't want my stomach hanging over my pants, or my thighs rubbing together when I walk. Overall I just want to feel and look more attractive and that involves being healthy as well.
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Edit: I feel like now that I'm not pregnant I'm suppose to get right back to burning 5,000 calories a week and eating 1200 a day again. But I just dont feel "ready" for that yet.

It is only the celebs that get back down to prebaby weight in 10 mins flat.
They also have a nanny or three, a chef, a personal trainer, and various other hanger onners - all they have to do is do the exercise and eat the meals provided.
Back in reality land it ain't that simple or that quick. If you are determined to be back where you were in terms of fitness and size, then just keep logging it, and when you have more sleep and less stupid hormones and more time to get your head around planning healthy meals then you will be right at the right place to take off again.

Your body is amazing, it has grown a whole new person, give it some credit, and yourself some credit too. There are enough people to give you guilt trips, why on earth do it to yourself.

Should I feel guilty?

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