Peer pressure from none other than the boyfriend

blsipma
blsipma Posts: 8
in Health and Weight Loss
How do I say "no" when this is a typical day:

Me: Where do you want to meet for lunch??

Boyfriend: TACO JOHNS!

: |

I'm doomed.

Me: uhh....something SLIGHTLY healthy?

Boyfriend: Finnnnnnne...let's get a gyro.

Seriously?!
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  • niki87lewis
    niki87lewis Posts: 147 Member
    Don't ask? Tell him where to go?
  • twingirlsmommy
    twingirlsmommy Posts: 111 Member
    Say "awesome, you can grab your lunch from there, I'll grab mine from (insert choice) and we can eat in the park together!"
  • theMrsisGonnagetFit
    theMrsisGonnagetFit Posts: 23 Member
    Maybe try packing a healthy lunch for the two of you?! Then instead of meeting somewhere to go out to lunch (spending more $ than necessary and packing on the unwanted calories) you could meet at a park or coffee shop (or anywhere really) to eat your "picnic" "brown bag" HEALTHY lunch from home!! :D just a thought, hope he'll compromise!
  • theMrsisGonnagetFit
    theMrsisGonnagetFit Posts: 23 Member
    Say "awesome, you can grab your lunch from there, I'll grab mine from (insert choice) and we can eat in the park together!"

    We had the same concept at *almost* the exact same moment, great minds think alike, lol :D
  • ggcat
    ggcat Posts: 313 Member
    What I wouldn't give for Taco Johns! lol

    I agree with everyone above- pick up your own (and meet him there), or picnic!
  • duniep
    duniep Posts: 4 Member
    If you have to go to a place like Taco John's, or Taco Bell, or whatever, you can always modify an order so that it is healthy. I am used to doing this. I am a vegan and my husband is a carnivore. I go to whatever restaurant I want or he wants and always find something healthy and vegan appropriate. Good luck!
  • skylark94
    skylark94 Posts: 2,036 Member
    It's not really fair to ask him what he wants to eat and then criticize his choice. Make a suggestion if you want something healthier.
  • avir8
    avir8 Posts: 671 Member
    1.eat your "healthy" lunch before you go out to eat.:huh:

    2.You pick the place:glasses:

    3. don't go out for lunch and cook something:wink:

    4. get new BF:sick:

    5. pick a salad off the menu:happy:

    6. Keep doing the same but stop complaining:cry:

    7. Drink a protein shake before and/or instead of eating lunch and make a healthy dinner at home:drinker:

    8. stop eating out so often and make it a "once in a while " thing so that it doesn't matter where you go:bigsmile:

    9.No Means No!!!:explode:
  • AshleighTaylorXOXO
    AshleighTaylorXOXO Posts: 14
    My boyfriend is the same wayyy. And that's usually what we do. He gets Taco Bell or something and I'll grab Subway. :)
  • theskinnylist
    theskinnylist Posts: 286 Member
    Don't give in! My boyfriend is one of those guys who'll eat anything (although he's recently given up red meat and beef, woohoo). You can go to most of these places, just find the healthiest alternatives (even if it means altering it to make it healthy) ... :)

    P.S. Never heard of Taco John's - don't think we have them in LA. But if it's fast food, pack your lunch!
  • Danardeener
    Danardeener Posts: 255
    I say take control and tell him where you want to go for lunch, instead of asking him.
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    http://www.tacojohns.com/images/data/files/Nutrition_Info.pdf

    Look at the above link and find something to fit into your macros.
  • TheCaren
    TheCaren Posts: 894 Member
    Go to Taco John's website ahead of time and see what your more healthy options are and see if they fit in your calorie scheme for the day. Do some exercise and earn more calories? If so, go there, and tell your sweetheart that tomorrow (or whenever you go out next) you get to pick something a little better for your lifestyle change. Compromise!
  • FabMrFox
    FabMrFox Posts: 259 Member
    how about instead of complaining to the forum. focus on the positive: he wants to spend time with you.
  • SofaKingRad_
    SofaKingRad_ Posts: 276
    Just break up with him. He clearly isn't being supportive :angry:
  • cmcollins001
    cmcollins001 Posts: 3,472 Member
    How the conversation REALLY went:

    Her: Where do you want to eat?
    Him: I dunno. Where do you want to eat?
    Her: I don't care. Where do you want to eat?
    Him: I don't care either. Where do you want to eat?
    Her: I don't know, I asked you first. Where do you want to eat?
    Him: Ummm...I don't know. I guess, maybe, Taco Johns.
    Her: Really? THAT place? You KNOW I'm trying to watch what I eat. Why would you pick that place?? You know it's hard for me to pick something that's not like 1 bazzillion calories from there. Geez. You're supposed to be supportive of me!!!
    Him: Uhhh...ok, ok! My Bad!! Sorry!!! So, Where do YOU want to eat?
    Her: I don't care, you pick, I asked you first. Where do you want to eat?
  • nikilis
    nikilis Posts: 2,305 Member
    im single...ish lol
  • DontStopB_Leakin
    DontStopB_Leakin Posts: 3,863 Member
    Because you totes have to eat what he eats.


    Yup.
  • MisterGoodBar
    MisterGoodBar Posts: 157 Member
    Don't ask? Tell him where to go?

    this is the best answer. eliminates expectation and failure.
  • DontStopB_Leakin
    DontStopB_Leakin Posts: 3,863 Member
    How the conversation REALLY went:

    Her: Where do you want to eat?
    Him: I dunno. Where do you want to eat?
    Her: I don't care. Where do you want to eat?
    Him: I don't care either. Where do you want to eat?
    Her: I don't know, I asked you first. Where do you want to eat?
    Him: Ummm...I don't know. I guess, maybe, Taco Johns.
    Her: Really? THAT place? You KNOW I'm trying to watch what I eat. Why would you pick that place?? You know it's hard for me to pick something that's not like 1 bazzillion calories from there. Geez. You're supposed to be supportive of me!!!
    Him: Uhhh...ok, ok! My Bad!! Sorry!!! So, Where do YOU want to eat?
    Her: I don't care, you pick, I asked you first. Where do you want to eat?
    ^^Oh, and what he said.
  • nikilis
    nikilis Posts: 2,305 Member
    How the conversation REALLY went:

    Her: Where do you want to eat?
    Him: I dunno. Where do you want to eat?
    Her: I don't care. Where do you want to eat?
    Him: I don't care either. Where do you want to eat?
    Her: I don't know, I asked you first. Where do you want to eat?
    Him: Ummm...I don't know. I guess, maybe, Taco Johns.
    Her: Really? THAT place? You KNOW I'm trying to watch what I eat. Why would you pick that place?? You know it's hard for me to pick something that's not like 1 bazzillion calories from there. Geez. You're supposed to be supportive of me!!!
    Him: Uhhh...ok, ok! My Bad!! Sorry!!! So, Where do YOU want to eat?
    Her: I don't care, you pick, I asked you first. Where do you want to eat?

    looooooooooooooooooooooooooooool! :laugh:

    the truth.
  • 1Fizzle
    1Fizzle Posts: 241 Member
    How the conversation REALLY went:

    Her: Where do you want to eat?
    Him: I dunno. Where do you want to eat?
    Her: I don't care. Where do you want to eat?
    Him: I don't care either. Where do you want to eat?
    Her: I don't know, I asked you first. Where do you want to eat?
    Him: Ummm...I don't know. I guess, maybe, Taco Johns.
    Her: Really? THAT place? You KNOW I'm trying to watch what I eat. Why would you pick that place?? You know it's hard for me to pick something that's not like 1 bazzillion calories from there. Geez. You're supposed to be supportive of me!!!
    Him: Uhhh...ok, ok! My Bad!! Sorry!!! So, Where do YOU want to eat?
    Her: I don't care, you pick, I asked you first. Where do you want to eat?

    BWAWHWAAAAAAAHAHA!!! LOLOL!!
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    How the conversation REALLY went:

    Her: Where do you want to eat?
    Him: I dunno. Where do you want to eat?
    Her: I don't care. Where do you want to eat?
    Him: I don't care either. Where do you want to eat?
    Her: I don't know, I asked you first. Where do you want to eat?
    Him: Ummm...I don't know. I guess, maybe, Taco Johns.
    Her: Really? THAT place? You KNOW I'm trying to watch what I eat. Why would you pick that place?? You know it's hard for me to pick something that's not like 1 bazzillion calories from there. Geez. You're supposed to be supportive of me!!!
    Him: Uhhh...ok, ok! My Bad!! Sorry!!! So, Where do YOU want to eat?
    Her: I don't care, you pick, I asked you first. Where do you want to eat?

    /endthread
  • Ezada
    Ezada Posts: 207 Member
    I would try suggesting something healthy from the start, that way you don't end up shooting down every single one of his suggestions, which will frustrate you because he can't read your mind, and it will frustrate him because he just "can't do anything right." in the end no one will be happy.

    He can't force you to eat unhealthy, you need to take control and plan ahead, if he doesn't like your food choice ideas I would go with what someone said earlier, you pick what you want, he gets what he wants and you go to a park and eat.

    It probably wouldn't hurt to sit down with him either and explain that you are on a diet and list the places that you are ok with getting food from for yourself, that way he can also plan ahead and on day's when he just doesn't want anything you want then you can both agree to disagree and get separate lunches.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    Don't ask? Tell him where to go?

    Yes and every now and then let him look in your purse and seen his nuts.
  • blsipma
    blsipma Posts: 8
    It was meant to be a humorous jab at my boyfriend who always picks the most unhealthy places to eat. I wanted Subway, he wanted TJs, we compromised on a soup/salad/sandwich place.

    Boyfriend went for the cheeseburger, fries and soda, I opted for a chicken wrap and water. ;)
  • Dub_D
    Dub_D Posts: 1,760 Member
    Just break up.
  • blsipma
    blsipma Posts: 8
    Thanks for everyone who was positive and supportive to this, like i said, it was meant to be humorous, but I do struggle with temptation. It wasn't mean to be whiny or complaining, I realize this is something I need to take control on my own and not blame others.
  • schell81
    schell81 Posts: 187 Member
    My husband has no idea what healthy or low calorie food is. He's tall and slim and thinks that making nachos with extra veggies is helping me with my diet. Sometimes you have to spell it out for them.
    Here's what I do:
    Where do you want to go for lunch? Subway or pita pit?

    He's still getting the choice but either is good for you.
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    Tacos are healthy.

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