Must be nice??

Cindy873
Cindy873 Posts: 1,165
edited January 2 in Motivation and Support
I don’t usually discuss my weight loss efforts with other people, for various reasons. Recently, though, the subject of clothing came up with an acquaintance and I mentioned that I hate shopping, but I really need new clothes because I've lost weight and none of my pants fit me anymore. The response? A very snarky, “Must be nice.”

Must be nice?? Do people realize how patronizing and demeaning that sounds? Do they think the weight just magically fell off? Thanks to not having a thyroid, it took me 10 months to lose a mere 15 pounds. Ten. Months. Ten months of a strict diet at 1200 calories. Ten months of clean eating and drinking gallons of water. Ten months during which I taught myself to run, increased yoga and Pilates, and worked on strengthening and toning muscle. Ten months of hard work and frustration while I watched friends and co-workers going out to lunch every day and dinner every weekend.

So no, my weight loss is not “nice.” It’s FAN-FREAKING-TASTIC and every time I have to wear a belt to hold up my baggy clothes, it’s like a little victory for me. My pedestal may be a small one, but please don’t knock me off of it simply because you have chosen not to work towards a similar success.

Rant over! :smile:

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  • Pedal_Pusher
    Pedal_Pusher Posts: 1,166 Member
    "Must be nice?? Do people realize how patronizing and demeaning that sounds? Do they think the weight just magically fell off? Thanks to not having a thyroid, it took me 10 months to lose a mere 15 pounds. Ten. Months. Ten months of a strict diet at 1200 calories. Ten months of clean eating and drinking gallons of water. Ten months during which I taught myself to run, increased yoga and Pilates, and worked on strengthening and toning muscle. Ten months of hard work and frustration while I watched friends and co-workers going out to lunch every day and dinner every weekend.

    So no, my weight loss is not “nice.” It’s FAN-FREAKING-TASTIC and every time I have to wear a belt to hold up my baggy clothes, it’s like a little victory for me. My pedestal may be a small one, but please don’t knock me off of it simply because you have chosen not to work towards a similar success." <~~~~~~~~~~~~~~WHY NOT SAY THIS TO HER?
  • mlclarke22
    mlclarke22 Posts: 551 Member
    good for you!! it compoletely sucks when you have medical issues that hold back your weight loss!! you are doing amazing and dont let anyone derail your success! hard work pays off!!
  • niftyafterfifty
    niftyafterfifty Posts: 338 Member
    Congratulations on your success! It's hard for some people to be happy for someone else's success, whether it's weight loss, a new car, a better job, or anything else. Don't let those people bring you down.
  • tdotali
    tdotali Posts: 181 Member
    Negative people are always going to be negative. Its ****ty, but know that you're right...you're accomplishments are fantastic!!!
  • Zomoniac
    Zomoniac Posts: 1,169 Member
    You sure it was meant sarcastically? Maybe they were being congratulatory.

    Otherwise just have a rant at them. Not quite sure why you'd stand there and let someone undermine your achievements.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    I have said this on occasion: "I worked hard for this. I'm allowed to enjoy it!"
  • Cindy873
    Cindy873 Posts: 1,165
    Thank you to all of you! This was actually the second time someone has said that phrase to me (and part of the reason I just don't talk about weight issues with people). My response depends on who I am talking to. Some people are worth taking the time to clarify the hard work I've done. For others, it's not worth wasting my breath. :smile:
  • KaseyC0711
    KaseyC0711 Posts: 18
    You'll never escape those who envy what took you so long to achieve.... And the sad part is, they'll never truly understand the struggles because they haven't done it or tried it themselves. Try not to let their negative comments get you down.... people will be cruel out of pure jealousy. You have so much to be happy about!!! Go out and buy yourself some new clothes!! It's liberating!! You've achieved a goal that many others can't, and that alone is something to CHEER about!!!
  • scapez
    scapez Posts: 2,018 Member
    You: "I need to get some new clothes because mine don't fit since I've lost some weight."

    Them: "Must be nice!"

    You: "You bet your sweet *kitten* it is!"

    Enjoy your success... :drinker:
  • LeenaRuns
    LeenaRuns Posts: 1,309 Member
    I get you--I've worked hard for my body too and if I hear one more person tell me I can eat more (cake, cookies, chips, whatever) than I've already taken because I'm "so skinny," I'm going to scream.
  • sevsmom
    sevsmom Posts: 1,172 Member
    I'd politely say something to the effect of "nice . . yep. Hard work. . . Oh. My. Word!" There's nothing wrong with letting folks know how hard you work at getting fit because a lot of it is done out of their sight/awareness.

    I get beat up by an overweight friend any time I talk about my racing AT ALL. She glares at me. Since she told me it hurts her feelings to hear me talk about my endeavors, I guess I'm supposed to keep my mouth shut all the time. I try to be sensitive, but if one of our friends asks a question. . .I'm gonna answer it.

    I think you should be proud, and politely let folks know you work hard at this!!
  • bluefox9er
    bluefox9er Posts: 2,917 Member
    I don’t usually discuss my weight loss efforts with other people, for various reasons. Recently, though, the subject of clothing came up with an acquaintance and I mentioned that I hate shopping, but I really need new clothes because I've lost weight and none of my pants fit me anymore. The response? A very snarky, “Must be nice.”

    Must be nice?? Do people realize how patronizing and demeaning that sounds? Do they think the weight just magically fell off? Thanks to not having a thyroid, it took me 10 months to lose a mere 15 pounds. Ten. Months. Ten months of a strict diet at 1200 calories. Ten months of clean eating and drinking gallons of water. Ten months during which I taught myself to run, increased yoga and Pilates, and worked on strengthening and toning muscle. Ten months of hard work and frustration while I watched friends and co-workers going out to lunch every day and dinner every weekend.

    So no, my weight loss is not “nice.” It’s FAN-FREAKING-TASTIC and every time I have to wear a belt to hold up my baggy clothes, it’s like a little victory for me. My pedestal may be a small one, but please don’t knock me off of it simply because you have chosen not to work towards a similar success.

    Rant over! :smile:

    you deserve this!! its awesome to buy new clothes after losing weight. you should have told your acquaintance it's beyond NICE, it's freaking awesome and she should try it, too!!
  • harvo
    harvo Posts: 4,676 Member
    Bobby Knight once said "Everyone has the will to win, but few have the will to prepare to win."
  • mem50
    mem50 Posts: 1,384 Member
    I still get that. It IS hard work. Don't let them forget it. I just keep my mouth shut now because of the snarky comments I get at work.

    My "favorite" one? "Girl, you gotta eat more.....you're getting to skinny!" Right, sure.
  • tcunbeliever
    tcunbeliever Posts: 8,219 Member
    Congratulations on your awesome hard work!!! My mother lost 16 pounds while battling thyroid issues, so I can appreciate how much extra effort it takes when facing other physical obstacles as well!!! Some people just don't know how to be supportive. Others just don't care to be. I think most of the time it's not malicious in nature they are just too wraped up in their own life problems to take much notice of anyone else. The only positive thing you can do is be a better example. Accept the statement as if it were the grand compliment it should be, thank them, and move on.
  • OddChoices
    OddChoices Posts: 244 Member
    I usually retort with a "yeah its more than nice because my quads are still singing from my 4 spin sessions last week". I get the last laugh whenthey don't know what quads are.
  • Meg_78
    Meg_78 Posts: 998 Member
    LOL, I don't know what/why it is...Most people are generally happy for others when they make positive changes..I know I am, but there are some *kitten* out there who just seem to not be able to do it....be glad for others I mean.
    Its usually jealousy...

    I get the "must be nice" or "lucky you" too...but because I am a gainer an I have to really focus on my diet make sure i get enough in (translate, I eat A LOT) that seems to be and even bigger twist of the knife for some...but that doesn't mean I don't work hard on my body too.

    You are awesome for making changes, if they say it must be nice, you say yepp, it suuure is!!!
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