Coping with a miscarriage

Omg. I'm so sorry dear. I never had a miscarriage, but I have gone through that type of insane depression in the past where I just did not eat for days (not one bite). You just have to will yourself to keep going and I know a lot of people who have miscarried. I don't know if you would be interested, but I also am a part of a group on fb for women who miscarried (or parents, I'm sure dads could join if they wanted to). I didn't lose a pregnancy, but my cousin did and it really affected me because we are very close and I got pregnant with my daughter the same day and then my son was born that same day 2 years later. It made me feel guilty, so I joined a support group. Maybe it would help you to talk to people with similar experiences. Prayers.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I had a miscarriage in 2009, and it was one of the worst experiences of my life.

My only advice to you is to give yourself time to grieve for the loss. Don't think you need to just "move on" and get over it. You don't. Rely on the people who love you and are supportive as much as possible. Let them be there for you.

I also find that setting weekly achievable goals (non-scale) helped a lot to keep me focused and not dwelling on it.

I am so sorry for your loss. I suffered a m/c in June 2008 @ 9 weeks along. I ended up having to have 2 D&C's a week apart. I know how you are feeling. I gained a fair amount due to emotional eating. Through the support of my friends and family, I have pushed through the pain and sorrow. I get a peaceful feeling when I think about him looking down from Heaven.
**Elliott Andrew 6/17/09**

I am here for you any time you need me.

Hi. I'm so sorry for your loss. I've had one too and its tough. Just take each day as it comes, talk about it as much or as little as you want with people that are close to you or on forums (www.askbaby.com is a brilliant one and has a section for miscarriages).

If you see that your eating is not improving over the coming weeks, maybe you should try and set yourself a food goal (menu) for each day and do your best to eat it, just so that you are getting food and nourishment in.
Big hug. xxx

There really is no easy way to deal with it. I was similar to you, always an emotional eater, but when I had mine, I just shut down. Don't be hard on yourself, give yourself permission to feel however you need to, and allow yourself to grieve. When you're ready, you'll come back to the world.

Many hugs to you.

So sorry for your loss

So sorry for your loss. I've suffered two miscarriages, and there is no easy way to deal with it. For me, I didn't begin to come out of it until after my EDD. I also suffered from clinical depression in the months following. A miscarriage is both a hormonal trigger, and an emotional one. If you find yourself having trouble coping as time goes on, please consult your family doctor. Post-partum depression is now talked about much more, but in my experience post-miscarriage is much worse. One of my worst fears in those days, was that I would never have the children I longed for, but take heart, I've gone on to have 4 healthy, happy children, and your future may well hold similar happiness.

I am so sorry. I haven't been aware of being pregnant before (it was suspected I miscarried once when I didn't realise I had been pregnant) and so I can't have any idea what you are going through, but I have several friends who have been through this and it is just awful. I think there is a support group called Faces of Loss, Faces of Hope or something like that, Face2Face groups being involved, one of my friends works hard for them. If you want more information I can ask her for more details.

Again, I am so sorry for your loss.

Hi, I am so sorry for your loss and the pain that you are going through.

I lost a baby boy at 7 months pregnant, also suffered a number rof miscarriages in early pregnancy. I have also carried my miracle little boy to full term and he is now 4.
I carry one little boy in my arms and the others in my heart and soul.

Happy to listen to any feelings you are having but if your Dr provides counselling then I would suggest investigating it. As for emotional eating, MFP is a wonderful resource for any food issues you have. It will take time but your eating will return to normal and MFP will help you track and montor it.

Best wishes and take the time to heal your body and emotions. S x

I'm very sorry for your loss.

I havent been through this but I know a great place where ladies (and affected men) can anonymously talk through the whole thing and support each other. Its part of a bigger site about saving money but it has evolved within to become a good source for moral and emotional support. http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=2236699

I just looked at my post and saw a glaring error! I lost my angelbaby in 2008, not 2009! This is what I get for early morning typing!

I understand about the comments that people make that are unintentionally rough on your heart. I had put up a memorial sheet at the cubicle at work. It was just an angel w/ his name and date on it. A week later, my boss stopped by to "ask" me to take it down, that it had been up long enough. I tried to not take it the wrong way, but it was hard( and still is to this very day).

You'll start out hating every pregnant woman and believe me, they will suddenly be EVERYWHERE. Then, you'll start to feel more hopeful for yourself and maybe you won't hate pregnant women as much, lol. I'm at the stage where I don't hate pregnant women anymore, but nothing makes me cringe more than girls saying "we're going to start a family", "we're going to have X number of kids", "can't wait to have babies"...because I wish I could still be that naive.
I remember the plans: I was going to get pregnant in my second year of vet school and have the baby in the summer...then it changed to getting pregnant in my fourth year and having a baby by graduation. Now, I'm 4 months past graduation, 2+ years past deciding to start a family and what do I have to show for it? One miscarriage over a year ago and still not pregnant.

You'll learn to get through each day, but I don't believe the pain ever goes away. Every year you'll remember the day you got your BFP, the day you miscarried, the day your baby was due...it never goes away.

My advice: don't be embarrassed to tell your story - I've heard hundreds of inspiring stories in the last year that have helped me to cope, because I shared my own story. Join an online support group and talk about it.