Spouses argue about cleaning?

jillica
jillica Posts: 554 Member
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The #1 thing me and my husband argue about is cleaning! Anyone else?

My blood is boiling after the last converstation! Obviously, I feel like I do most of the cleaning and of course, he feels like he really does. Does this sound like your relationship? What is the answer?

Do I really hire a cleaning lady?
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  • Colonel_Brandon
    Colonel_Brandon Posts: 256 Member
    If that's your biggest argument, then feel good. That means financially, sexually, spiritually, and philisophically, you're sound.
  • Colonel_Brandon
    Colonel_Brandon Posts: 256 Member
    And yes, hire a cleaning lady if you can afford it. I have one. And I'm single!
  • vtmoon
    vtmoon Posts: 3,436 Member
    like lefty said that is a good thing that is the only thing you argue about. You can stop cleaning for a couple of days or a week to send a message, I did that and stuff piled up real fast around the house. So needless to say people realized how much I did real quick.
  • alvalaurie
    alvalaurie Posts: 369 Member
    We don't really argue but have vastly different tastes in music. I am open minded to know what he likes, I can't stand but it doesn't bother me if we go somewhere & he plays one of his CD's. He, however, goes all crazy if we get in my car & a song of MY type is playing. Literally he won't stop ranting & raving until I turn it off! I don't understand why he can't be more open minded & understand that it's not going to kill him to listen to a piece of a song until I can get my damn seatbelt on & change it!?!?
  • alvalaurie
    alvalaurie Posts: 369 Member
    like lefty said that is a good thing that is the only thing you argue about. You can stop cleaning for a couple of days or a week to send a message, I did that and stuff piled up real fast around the house. So needless to say people realized how much I did real quick.

    I tried that with my ex & all that happened was the trash overflowed onto the floor so he started piling it on the counter! He's an ex for a reason!
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    We have set chores. His jobs: trash and making sure that the brewery hasn't overflowed into my laundry area.

    My chores: Everything else.

    He cooks all of the meals so I don't have to :drinker: that works for us.
  • Ivy_leaves
    Ivy_leaves Posts: 103 Member
    Meh, I do the the dishes and clean the bathroom and kitchen. He vacuums because I HATE vacuuming.
    If I'm tired and don't wanna do dishes I just say "Aww you wanna do the dishes for me? Wow that's so sweet of you, thanks!" And he's always good enough to do it for me. :)
    We fight about other stupid stuff but not chores.
  • Cyngen
    Cyngen Posts: 557 Member
    I'm fortunate to work from home. I typically take care of the cleaning between tasks for work, doing laundry and most of the cooking including the prep work. I love to make great healthy meals for us.
  • Corryn78
    Corryn78 Posts: 215
    We have set chores. His jobs: trash and making sure that the brewery hasn't overflowed into my laundry area.

    My chores: Everything else.

    He cooks all of the meals so I don't have to :drinker: that works for us.

    lol, this cracked me up. My bf is def in charge of all the brewing equipment, which occasionally makes its way across the entire house. We have enough empty cleaned bottles to open a brewery!
  • katamus
    katamus Posts: 2,363 Member
    Yup, we argue about cleaning. Know how I solved that? I stopped cleaning up after him and made it a point to ONLY clean up after myself and the cat. I cleaned MY car, I washed MY dishes, and did MY laundry.

    Three weeks later.. "omg can you PLEASE go back to doing both of our laundry? :("

    Sure, when you acknowledge the fact that I clean F**KING EVERYTHING and stop trying to act like I don't.


    I win.

    I don't work, so I do most of the cooking and cleaning.. But when he tries to say I don't do any of it, I want to throw things.

    He takes care of picking up the dog poo and mowing the lawn. And whatever other man-things come up, like fixing the toilet or pressure washing or getting the leaves out of the gutters.
  • Dub_D
    Dub_D Posts: 1,760 Member
    We argue most about blankets and bed space. It gets pretty intense at 3am.
  • Dub_D
    Dub_D Posts: 1,760 Member
    Oh and...

    Just break up.
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    Oh and...

    Just break up.

    There it is.
    :flowerforyou:
  • Jenny_Taylia
    Jenny_Taylia Posts: 540 Member
    Here is how our arugment starts...

    Hi honey...here is the cleaning list for the day..
    You- sweep and take out garbage.

    Me- entire kitchen top to bottom, same with both bathrooms, Living room, under the couch and behind the TV, vacuum both sets of stairs, at least 4 loads of laundry, mop, spot wash the walls and baseboards and tidy up out front and out back.



    And he still complains like a child.
  • _skittybang
    _skittybang Posts: 970 Member
    If that's the worst you guys argue about then you've got it seriously made.

    deal_with_it.gif
  • hullchris
    hullchris Posts: 16 Member
    Haha! This is probably the only thing we argue about too but with a twist. My husband acknowledges that I do all of the cleaning however he says that he doesn't have to clean because he doesn't care about it. If I want to worry about it then that's my business because it doesn't bother him... We have this discussion probably once a week when I've finally had enough and decided to pick his dirty socks up off the kitchen floor.

    We're hiring a clean lady.
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    I do 99% of the house stuff. I do all the laundry, cleaning and most of the cooking. On occasion I'll ask him to help fold clothes and he does. But then he feels like he has cleaned the entire house. He claims to do the dishes but last week I wash dishes in the sink in the morning, lunchtime and evening everyday.

    It's annoying. I work 9 hours a day and he works 4, and goes to school for like 3 hours in the afternoon and then comes home and sits on his computer or plays video games. He has a bad habit of leaving stuff around. Trash, clothes, shoe, crumbs.... GRR!

    At least he mows the lawn.
  • weeblex
    weeblex Posts: 412 Member
    My wife is currently unemployed so we struck a deal.

    She does stuff around the house till noon, then the rest of the day is hers, but at the weekend if there is still stuff to do we both do it.

    Since she is organized it never takes her till noon and there isn't stuff left over at the weekends so she just sits on the deck watching me cut the grass or change the oil in the car, etc.

    Do any of the ladies out there use the ride on lawnmower or change the oil, I need to know how to convince my wife to? :smile:
  • nonstopper
    nonstopper Posts: 1,108 Member
    id get a hot cleaning lady
  • mistressfaye
    mistressfaye Posts: 232 Member
    Luckily my hubby's mama raised him to know that men should clean too lol He pretty much does all the cleaning and laundry and takes out the garbage without being asked :) I take care of anything that involves the kitchen (cooking and cleaning) and the litter pans. (this is not to say I don't pitch in and help...he has herniated discs in his neck and at times is flat on his back in the bed...I don't let stuff pile up when he's physically unable to do stuff...and big spring cleaning type jobs we do together, but its just the two of us so there really isnt a whole lot to do most of the time)

    I bless his Mama every day lol
  • prjoy98
    prjoy98 Posts: 250 Member
    like lefty said that is a good thing that is the only thing you argue about. You can stop cleaning for a couple of days or a week to send a message, I did that and stuff piled up real fast around the house. So needless to say people realized how much I did real quick.

    LOL...i would do this if only i wasn't as annoyed as I am with the dog hair on the hardwoods and the fact that men (some..not generalizing here) could care less about the way their floors/counters look
  • want2belean
    want2belean Posts: 124 Member
    I don't argue about it anymore...I know it ticks US off....but try to work it out, even if you have to give a little more than him..Think about it is it worth it...Don't get me wrong..don't be his slave, but there must be a happy middle somewhere....
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
    We hired a cleaning lady. Just try to find a local one you trust. We fight less now about cleaning. Now its just money, kids, jobs, and mfp.
  • ahviendha
    ahviendha Posts: 1,291 Member
    My BF and I argue a lot about cleaning. He actually came up with the solution.

    I hate cleaning the kitchen, but don't mind bathroom or vacuuming.

    He hates cleaning the bathroom, and doesn't see a point to vacuuming.

    He suggested he clean the kitchen exclusively (except for when I feel like it/he has exams/finals) and I clean the bathroom exclusively and vacuum. We do the laundry together.

    It has worked out very well, for the most part. I often have to remind him to clean the kitchen, but as long as I ask nicely and hug/kiss him afterwards, he'll do it with no complaints. I usually ask him to clean it as I'm making dinner, or just after dinner.
  • laserturkey
    laserturkey Posts: 1,680 Member
    Cleaning services are worth every penny! It's a relatively small investment to promote peace and harmony at home and to give you more time to do other things.
  • want2belean
    want2belean Posts: 124 Member
    like lefty said that is a good thing that is the only thing you argue about. You can stop cleaning for a couple of days or a week to send a message, I did that and stuff piled up real fast around the house. So needless to say people realized how much I did real quick.
    [/OMG.....I have the same problem..dog hair is every freaken where...we may need to check this guy out...we maybe married to the same guy....lol.]

    LOL...i would do this if only i wasn't as annoyed as I am with the dog hair on the hardwoods and the fact that men (some..not generalizing here) could care less about the way their floors/counters look
  • Jimaudit
    Jimaudit Posts: 275
    I clean the bathrooms and the kitchen (including dishes and dishwasher)....also responsible for taking out garbage and maintaining the pool and cutting the lawn.

    She does the laundry for the house (except me), cooks, dust and vac

    Works for us.
  • 2012asv
    2012asv Posts: 702 Member
    Yes, we fight about doing the dishes.. he's demands to do them himself. I gave in.....
  • Scarlett_S
    Scarlett_S Posts: 467 Member
    I have a cleaning lady. I've been married almost twenty years. It took about ten years for me to just let things go. My husband rarely cleans but likes a clean house. I work just as many hours as he does and we have three kids. What I discovered was, when things got bad enough, he'd pitch in and help because it HAD to be done. Much like my children -- they figured out they can actually operate a washing machine when they run out of underwear or jeans.

    Cleaning lady comes every other Tuesday. So that Monday night, everyone takes an hour and puts everything in its place, puts all laundry away, and preps stuff for her. Then she comes in and does counters, appliances, floors, carpets, dusting, changes bedding, cleans all the bathrooms and kitchen and mirrors, etc. Empties trash.

    It certainly doesn't stay clean for two weeks but it keeps us on top of things, knowing we have to get ready for her.
  • momofthreesons
    momofthreesons Posts: 162 Member
    Nope doesnt sound like my house. I argue I want help cleaning he says "its woman's work, I work hard at work, blah blah blah" thats where I quit listening. He has a manual job and I have an office job. I just do it normally and leave him be.. better not to hear the mouth. Sad huh? LOL He does help on the weekends though so not so bad.

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