Have you ever had a crush on an online friend?

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  • maria_elaina
    maria_elaina Posts: 53 Member
    I did! Years ago but it still meant a lot. I asked her out and she turned me down and I was gutted...we stayed great friends though even though we live miles apart and have had some great times together.

    It all came out about 2 years ago that actually she fancied me too but panicked so turned me down...and when the secret came out we'd both moved on and got partners. But we're still good friends and that's definitely worked out better!
  • JennaM222
    JennaM222 Posts: 1,996 Member
    I would be more worried that they were actually a crazed baby eating serial killer
  • BuckeyeBoi
    BuckeyeBoi Posts: 233 Member
    Yes, it was a timing issue. I guess it was just that a crush. I think it s a good way to break the ice doing an online meet, then however you need to be totally straight with all info and pics! I did meet a gal once from online and lets just say she said all the right things and posted to best angles as well as pics. When I meet her it was nothing like she portrayed and I told her straight up that I didnt think that was very truthful of her and I excused myself. Im not against it because of that situation.
  • Jenny_Taylia
    Jenny_Taylia Posts: 540 Member
    I get pssed off at how many good looking guys are on this site. errrr

    WAHA! Am I to assume their good lookingness causes a perpetual crush that you cannot shake?
    :drinker:
  • vypeters
    vypeters Posts: 475 Member
    My once online friend = my now husband.
  • BeeElMarvin
    BeeElMarvin Posts: 2,086 Member
    Just once:

    skitty.jpg
  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
    I get pssed off at how many good looking guys are on this site. errrr

    Yes...we are a curse...Oh wait, you weren't talking to me..:)

    Crushes, sure, but nothing crossing any lines. Moral or state!


    yep, I just admire from afar and giggle to myself every now and then. Nothing even in private message
  • astrylian
    astrylian Posts: 194 Member
    My second relationship, and first relationship with a man was with a boy I met over World of Warcraft. I lived in Kansas, he lived in Virginia, and I moved across the country to stay with him for about a year and a half. Our relationship ended over completely unrelated issues.

    Our guild had been together for years, and thus many of us consider each other very close friends. We all send each other birthday and Christmas gifts, visit each other every so often, and basically function as any other group of friends would, the only exception being over an online realm rather than the physical one. We all chipped in to buy one of our guildmates a new computer, send each other ordered cakes for birthdays, have dinner with each other for those who have traveling jobs. I consider them to be extended family. There is no reason why a relationship couldn't occur online as well. However, long distance relationships can be quite difficult and heart wrenching at times.
  • penrbrown
    penrbrown Posts: 2,685 Member
    Yes, it was a timing issue. I guess it was just that a crush. I think it s a good way to break the ice doing an online meet, then however you need to be totally straight with all info and pics! I did meet a gal once from online and lets just say she said all the right things and posted to best angles as well as pics. When I meet her it was nothing like she portrayed and I told her straight up that I didnt think that was very truthful of her and I excused myself. Im not against it because of that situation.

    This is my concern. Not because I have been deliberately posting misleading pictures for him to see (he's on my Facebook) but because I DO photograph well. In person I don't look the same (I've been told that many times).

    Eh.

    So for you appearance IS important? Clearly. Even though you liked her personality you were willing to dismiss her because her pictures looked better then she did?
  • penrbrown
    penrbrown Posts: 2,685 Member
    Just once:

    skitty.jpg

    I can't figure out if you're peeing on ME or just marking this thread as your territory...
  • Stacyplus5
    Stacyplus5 Posts: 493
    Not really crushes but have enjoyed some eye candy, that made me feel dirty haha
  • ChantalD75
    ChantalD75 Posts: 680 Member
    I met my partner on line... I had the same worries...I kept telling him on the phone that if you meet me you will run... (I said that because of my weight)... he never ran and we have been living together now for 3 years... :happy:
  • loserbaby84
    loserbaby84 Posts: 241 Member
    I met the "online friend" I have a crush on.

    I went to the States and he's been here to Canada..

    We are two worlds apart and that's the sad thing or it may have turned into something serious. But he has his life there and mine here so all in all I think it's unfortunate if you meet someone you really like that's so far away from you. Not that I regret or will ever think meeting him was a mistake <3

    However, in your case he's moving close to you so that's awesome!! Don't get too wrapped up in "what if he doesn't like me because I'm fat". Firstly, you're here to change that, aren't you? Don't you think he should be happy that you are doing something great for yourself and your health? That answer is, only if he cares about you at all. Also, who wants to be with someone so superficial if he doesn't like you? Not me!

    Be proud of who you are and what you're accomplishing :)

    Cheers!
  • sexybeast1998
    sexybeast1998 Posts: 137 Member
    I have a crush on my of my female friends on here.

    true almost all
  • loserbaby84
    loserbaby84 Posts: 241 Member
    Yes, it was a timing issue. I guess it was just that a crush. I think it s a good way to break the ice doing an online meet, then however you need to be totally straight with all info and pics! I did meet a gal once from online and lets just say she said all the right things and posted to best angles as well as pics. When I meet her it was nothing like she portrayed and I told her straight up that I didnt think that was very truthful of her and I excused myself. Im not against it because of that situation.

    This is my concern. Not because I have been deliberately posting misleading pictures for him to see (he's on my Facebook) but because I DO photograph well. In person I don't look the same (I've been told that many times).

    Eh.

    So for you appearance IS important? Clearly. Even though you liked her personality you were willing to dismiss her because her pictures looked better then she did?

    Don't take this the wrong way but I agree. Not because you have to look a certain way or make it sound like we're being superficial but you DO have to be attracted to someone! Also, in this case it sounds like she was being misleading and who wants to get involved with ANYONE on those grounds? Trust is absolute!
  • arosegeo
    arosegeo Posts: 254 Member
    I get pssed off at how many good looking guys are on this site. errrr

    ugh right!
  • Jenny_Taylia
    Jenny_Taylia Posts: 540 Member
    I get pssed off at how many good looking guys are on this site. errrr

    Yes...we are a curse...Oh wait, you weren't talking to me..:)

    Crushes, sure, but nothing crossing any lines. Moral or state!


    yep, I just admire from afar and giggle to myself every now and then. Nothing even in private message


    Exactly. I havent really ever developed a crush but there has been a bunch of times that Ive seen a pic and thought daaammnnn why must you be so scrumtious! But as far as messaging, nope... Only if they just happen to set me a message and Ill reply kindly and they will never know if I was checking them out or not bwahahahaa
  • madeofcake
    madeofcake Posts: 14
    It's really easy to fall in love with people you meet online. They're supportive, they're always around, they're funny...

    Researchers call it "hyperintimacy" - you're dealing with them face to face, so it's easy to confide in them.

    I've known a lot of relationships that started this way, and it's pretty neat to know someone knowing almost everything about them. My sister married a guy she met online, and that went -terribly-, but many people have success with it.

    Just go in realizing that the other person is a real human with real imperfections, meet in a public place at first, and - if you can avoid it - try not to talk too much about sex, otherwise you end up sitting across from someone at Starbucks and it's pretty awkward :P
  • Amberonamission
    Amberonamission Posts: 836 Member
    I had an online crush. We met. He thought my big *kitten* was beautiful. But, it turned out he was married. We got together 3 times before it fizzeled. Strangely it caused me to go into a serious depression.

    I try really hard to not think of internet people as any version of sexy. No more relationships in my head.
  • BEAUTY4UBEAST
    BEAUTY4UBEAST Posts: 372
    YES... this is a gr8 board!!

    Became friends with a gr8 man on here.. actually developed major feelings for him... ( him having the perfect body and ability to stay in shape 24/7 becus of his profession) Myself not so much...My job is more mental than physical... Longstory short... we met was gr8 at first... but later found out I wasnt fit enough for him.... Sad but true... lost a gr8 friendship becus of a few pounds... But im back on track and know someday....I'll meet the right 1 and will nerver have to worry about this situation again... So would I do it again?? NO NO NO!.. better to meet in person b-4 emotions develope.... :)
  • sexybeast1998
    sexybeast1998 Posts: 137 Member
    I had an online crush. We met. He thought my big *kitten* was beautiful. But, it turned out he was married. We got together 3 times before it fizzeled. Strangely it caused me to go into a serious depression.

    I try really hard to not think of internet people as any version of sexy. No more relationships in my head.
    the problem is my name is sexybeast
  • Amberonamission
    Amberonamission Posts: 836 Member
    I had an online crush. We met. He thought my big *kitten* was beautiful. But, it turned out he was married. We got together 3 times before it fizzeled. Strangely it caused me to go into a serious depression.

    I try really hard to not think of internet people as any version of sexy. No more relationships in my head.
    the problem is my name is sexybeast
    No worries. I have no clue if it is a true story or not.
  • sexybeast1998
    sexybeast1998 Posts: 137 Member
    I had an online crush. We met. He thought my big *kitten* was beautiful. But, it turned out he was married. We got together 3 times before it fizzeled. Strangely it caused me to go into a serious depression.

    I try really hard to not think of internet people as any version of sexy. No more relationships in my head.
    the problem is my name is sexybeast
    No worries. I have no clue if it is a true story or not.
    hahaha gud one
  • AmyBeth719
    AmyBeth719 Posts: 184 Member
    Um yes I do...lol
  • rachietuk
    rachietuk Posts: 308 Member
    In 2006 I had a crush on my online friend. I lived in UK, he lived in USA.
    I remember when I realized that we were going to meet, I told him that I was not a skinny girl, that I had some wobbly bits.
    That didn't stop him flying to London for a weekend to meet me.
    It also didn't stop us getting married exactly 1 year later.
    We are still married, very happy and both living in USA.
  • datgnat
    datgnat Posts: 14 Member
    I crush relatively easily, which, as a *responsible* married guy, is not a good thing. I've never acted on online/offline crushes since an incident back in the mid-80s that came too close to bad to be good. I like banter and double-entendre, but I keep myself in line by being hyper-aware of the fact that nobody knows as much about the less-than-charming things about me as my DW, and it's extremely unlikely that anyone else could bear me as well as she does!
  • penrbrown
    penrbrown Posts: 2,685 Member
    In 2006 I had a crush on my online friend. I lived in UK, he lived in USA.
    I remember when I realized that we were going to meet, I told him that I was not a skinny girl, that I had some wobbly bits.
    That didn't stop him flying to London for a weekend to meet me.
    It also didn't stop us getting married exactly 1 year later.
    We are still married, very happy and both living in USA.

    :) My guy is coming from the UK as well. We're 'just friends'. Not sure how this stupid crush developed but it probably has to do with that hyper intimacy someone else mentioned.

    My cousin also met her fellow online. Through Facebook. She moved to the UK to marry him. :)

    I have mad respect for people who are willing to hop countries to be with the one they love. <3
  • silver_arrow3
    silver_arrow3 Posts: 1,373 Member
    I've had a few of those. When I would get bored writing papers in college I would turn to chat rooms and just talk to anyone that popped up as my way of procrastinating. I've met a few. I dated one for a while which was probably the biggest mistake of my life and a few months I'll never get back. Another, I found out was married. One was only interested in a "friends with benefits" relationship and while he is gorgeous, I'm not really interested in that kind of relationship. Another one became a little too clingy. I clearly don't crush on the right kind of guys.
  • spikedkanji
    spikedkanji Posts: 43 Member
    Yes, Have even met my online crush! Traveled to her in another country, and her to me. I enjoy every moment I've spent with her, either in person, on the phone, or online (except in the gondala). Its a tough thing to handle, and balance. As much as you want to always be there for that person though they are far away, you have to realize they do have their own life to live. With different people and places that you don't know, and they don't know you. Sometime schedules don't always mesh, so that makes it even tougher. I consider myself a very very lucky person to have met such a wonderful person, who supports what I do, gives me **** when I deserve it, and cares for me so much. (Cheese Factor Lvl 10 coming up) Some days I think I what could I have possibly done to receive such a wonderful gift? I thank the internet for putting us together.

    Other side of it though.....
    I have met other online crushes before. Didn't turn out so hot. Either we didn't mesh together cause that 4th wall had been broken, or we didn't know what to say to each other cause we were not typing it. Sometimes the online camera does put people in a different light. And when you see them in person, your like whoaaaaaaaaaaaaaa that's not what I expected and you can be put off. The main key to any online relationship/crush is to be honest, as honest as you can be with each other. Cause when/if you do meet, it'll be one less thing to have to worry about, and you can just be yourself (I have a tendency of being a real dork sometimes, but thats ok with my crush)

    Good luck!!!
  • rachietuk
    rachietuk Posts: 308 Member
    In 2006 I had a crush on my online friend. I lived in UK, he lived in USA.
    I remember when I realized that we were going to meet, I told him that I was not a skinny girl, that I had some wobbly bits.
    That didn't stop him flying to London for a weekend to meet me.
    It also didn't stop us getting married exactly 1 year later.
    We are still married, very happy and both living in USA.

    :) My guy is coming from the UK as well. We're 'just friends'. Not sure how this stupid crush developed but it probably has to do with that hyper intimacy someone else mentioned.

    My cousin also met her fellow online. Through Facebook. She moved to the UK to marry him. :)

    I have mad respect for people who are willing to hop countries to be with the one they love. <3

    Good luck, its exciting!!!

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