Kind (?) neighbor

Your neighbor sounds quite nice. She's encouraging your dedication. Any negative connotation is coming from you. Let it go, smile at her and enjoy the compliment.

That's just your own insecurities. She has her own too, being a mom. Just smile and say it back to her. It is a good job. Hell, I can't do it! Well, i could, but I'm not. LOL!

Sorry, but you asked. Yes, you are being unfair. Count your blessing that somebody is giving you thumbs up and motivation instead of criticizing you, like so many people post in this site.

Next time that she says that, say "Thank you for your support," and hit the pavement harder and with all your heart.

Good luck!

I doubt she means anything bad by it. You're running, she's walking, it doesn't make sense that she would be doing it in a patronising kind of way. Unless you have previous negative history with her, I'd just take it as friendly encouragement. Maybe she wishes she could do that too.

she's doing what we do here...encouraging. Its just a hang-up of yours. we all have them.

It doesn't matter what you look like- anyone exercising regularly is doing a "good job." Maybe she looks at you and thinks, "I'm just walking, maybe I should be running like she is. I admire her dedication." Regardless of how she meant it, all that matters is how exercise is making you feel, not what other people may or may not be thinking.

I used to run before my i had my son..daily...1-2 hours at a time. (well of course there was walking involved LOL) but there was always one neighbor guy that you could tell he wasn't creepy or anything, i never got any negative vibes from him. But everytime he would see me he would be like hey keep up the good work. or great job, or would wave when i passed or honked when he passed me, just acknowledging me and letting me know he supported my dedication (even though it was completely un-needed). I would quite often get ppl who saw me developing a routine that would wave or smile or say looking great after they realized i was jogging for health and not running from a stray dog or something LOL. I guess it's so rare around our area to see ppl just out exercising for their own benefit that they were just happy FOR me. Not being judgemental.
Once I had my son I of course stopped jogging. I ran into said neighbor guy and he was like hey! I said hey he asked if i still jogged and i said no i wasnt since i had my son and he encouraged me to stick with it. telling me hey thats alright you can always get back into the swing of things. And before I knew it, I was back out there jogging, this time with my son. I just view the encouragement as motivation. Next time you're out and you see her, stop for a second and thank her for motivating you. Let her know you recognize the hard work she is putting into as well. You never know, you may end up with a new workout buddy.

Edited to fix spelling errors :bigsmile:

I don't think she is mean or anything. Looks like she is trying to encourage you like people on here do.

If you can't give someone a thumbs up for doing something you think is good the world is worse off than I thought.

I teach fitness classes, and I know for a fact that, for many people, just walking in the door might be the hardest thing they do all day. That kind of commitment deserves to be applauded. And SO many people fail to exercise because they are too insecure to be seen doing it. The thing is, that most of us have struggled with our weight at one time or another, and the sight of an overweight person working out tells the world that you are confident, you believe in yourself, and you are a role model for others who are in your position.

NEVER be insecure about exercising. Maybe you feel like you are "the chubby girl" right now, but if you keep it up, you won't be for long.

She sounds lovely.

I have a suggestion. Next time you meet on a run, if you have the breath, why not ask her if she'd like to walk together sometimes? As a new mum, sometimes I get really lonely, I'd love for someone to make friends with me like that.