anyone else have starving and bingeing issues?

don't allow the compensatory starving when you do binge. that's the first step. constant intake of sufficient calories will diminish the need/desire to binge (in time) but I think having this "way out" (for lack of a better term) is making it easier to rationalize the binging. No starving allowed--period. Plan a lunch out with someone--surround yourself with people so that you can't hide in order to get away with starving. Anything that's going to keep you from engaging in the act (of starving--or binging for that matter) is what you need to do. The starving is easier to control--I feel--so it's best to just remove that completely from your repertoire of compensatory behaviors. You will eat anyway. Tell yourself that when you're binging, after you're done, and the next day--you will eat anyway. you might be shocked at how that thought will change the binge itself. There's no way out--so that means you're stuck with those calories and yes, weight gain. But starving and binging needs to be fixed before you'll ever earn the healthy body that I'm sure you want.
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You have to stop the starving. You're trading one illness for another--is this about getting healthy or completely about what you look like in the mirror?

Okay, i've had an eating disorder since 14 (anorexia with bulimic tendencies once I got older), i've been in clinics/treatment centres for it, i'm 5'11 and my lowest weight was 110 (which is very thin for my height). it is hell, and I genuinely can empathise with you. However this isn't what your life has to be like, and that's the good news It's not easy, sometimes it is, but you will have days where you panic, want to give up, make mistakes and eat too much or too little. But you can be healthy and lose weight at the same time. The best thing about losing weight the 'healthy way' is because you'll maintain keeping the weight off, as supposed to putting it all back on again and more as soon as you start eating. It's about adopting sensible habits. Especially because you have children, you can be a positive role model for them but it's about getting real with yourself.

My fitness pal has actually REALLY helped me with controlling me e.d. I prelog my day every single morning before I eat a thing, and can feel comfortable knowing i'm controlling the situation but in a healthy way. Have a search for the 'eat more to weigh less' threads, I struggle to reach my calorie target some days but hell do I try, and I feel better/am losing more when eating at least 1000 a day than I ever did eating 300. I make sure to get my fruits and veggies in, even if i'm not hungry I live for my smoothies! I would suggest (if you don't already) tracking every bite of food you eat, be honest, and make sure your food diary is open. Try and make a network of friends on here because honestly I wouldn't be in the mindset I am now without mine- for the encouraging words when you're doing well as well as encouragement when you're not doing so well. People in these forums are so full of knowledge and can inspire you to make positive changes. It's all in your mind. YOU can be healthy if you want to be, you can say no to a binge, you are strong enough.

It's a vicious cycle. You 've been given some great advice! Have you thought about making your diary public? Helps being accountable if you do it right. Also, make sure you are eating enough protein to help keep you full and to not lose muscle. This will decrease your metabolism even more and make it even harder to lose weight. I know we all want it off RIGHT NOW, but slow and steady wins the race. You have a lot of support here!:flowerforyou:

i used to do this. i forced myself to stop by not having any bingeable food in... like chocolate/cakes/crisps etc, but now i found i got more confident because i'm not doing it, which stops me feeling the need to do it. and now i plan what i'm going to have for dinner, enjoy looking forward to it, cooking it, and eating it, and that lets me not feel the need to binge anymore. and as starving would always lead to a binge and the bingeing lead to guilt, so more starving, i make sure i don't starve myself so i can be in control. and exercise also has made me feel better about myself, which i think is really the key to stopping bingeing. it's when i feel insecure that that kind of thing tend sto happen.

I can totally relate. This is how my day to day life has been for awhile. I had a healthy relationship for awhile, went vegan, was enjoying the food I was making and then went into a downward spiral that i'm still fighting my way out of it. Eating disorders can be easy to fall into. I would starve for a week or two, just eating 100-200 cals a day. Drop 15 lbs, then start binging and not stop until all the weight was back on It's sad and can make you feel even worse. NOT starving is the biggest step you can take to stop this behavior. Good luck to you.