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goldair23
goldair23 Posts: 160
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So I wouldn't normally do this, but I was just wanting a general opinion/objective point of view seeing as all my friends are one-sided and unhelpful at the moment haha.

I just broke up with my boyfriend of a year this afternoon. Neither of us wanted to break up, we love each other so so much, but we couldn't see each other in our plans for next year (travel).
So my boyfriend, being ever the logical *kitten*, said we might have to break up because of that. Now that makes sense I know. But he wants to break up now. Not in 6 months when these plans actually come into fruition. And even then, I'm starting to think he'd be amazing to travel with, even my parents said he'd be the best possible person to travel with. Anyway! He wanted to break up now because obviously there would be no real future for us with us parting ways in 6 months.

Does anyone have any kind of ideas/advice/whatever to try and show him that things can change in that time and that I want to travel with him?

Thank you and sorry for such a lame post haha xxx
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  • WeekndOVOXO
    WeekndOVOXO Posts: 779 Member
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    Let him go and move on.
  • jerbear1962
    jerbear1962 Posts: 1,157 Member
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    If he doesn't want to be there I'd say let him go and look for another.
  • mightymice
    mightymice Posts: 2 Member
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    "Neither of us wanted to break up"

    Apparently, one of you wants to break up.
  • djsupreme6
    djsupreme6 Posts: 1,210 Member
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    yes..one of you did indeed wanna break up....best to just let him go...and go on about your business
  • Rachlmale
    Rachlmale Posts: 640 Member
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    If neither of you wanted to break up, you'd make it work.
  • melaniecheeks
    melaniecheeks Posts: 6,349 Member
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    It would be impossible to have a relationship knowing that there was an end date at some time in the future. Better to end it now.
  • SeaRunner26
    SeaRunner26 Posts: 5,143 Member
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    "Neither of us wanted to break up"

    Apparently, one of you wants to break up.

    Sadly, I think this is closer to the truth. Sorry to hear about your break up though.
  • Dave198lbs
    Dave198lbs Posts: 8,810 Member
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    It would be impossible to have a relationship knowing that there was an end date at some time in the future. Better to end it now.

    a lot can happen in 6 months

    a lot can change

    living in the future is wasting today

    we will all die someday, with your logic, should we die now?
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
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    I hate to tell you this, but I think you're overestimating your boyfriend's feelings for you. He's trying to be nice and let you down easy.
  • nikilis
    nikilis Posts: 2,305 Member
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    long distance can work! come on skype later and ill show you. lool. I know. too far. still. I'm laughing. hahaha.
  • MStanford336
    MStanford336 Posts: 68 Member
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    "Neither of us wanted to break up"

    Apparently, one of you wants to break up.

    ^^ This. Sorry. ^^
  • melaniecheeks
    melaniecheeks Posts: 6,349 Member
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    Well, no, I'd want to be doing things that I knew had a future, not ones that I knew didn't.

    I wouldn't want to go travelling with someone if I knew he might be looking for his next partner, and likewise, would I not be wasting the time that I could be finding someone who DID see me in his future?
  • SeaRunner26
    SeaRunner26 Posts: 5,143 Member
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    So I wouldn't normally do this, but I was just wanting a general opinion/objective point of view seeing as all my friends are one-sided and unhelpful at the moment haha.

    Out of curiosity, what is it that all of your one-sided and unhelpful friends are saying? Is it possible that they are being honest and you just don't like the answer?
  • talamer
    talamer Posts: 516 Member
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    "Neither of us wanted to break up"

    Apparently, one of you wants to break up.

    ^^ THIS, you should move on! and let it go!
  • fittertanme
    fittertanme Posts: 259 Member
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    why now I would be asking and is there someone else as it dont make any sence to breakup I think your better off without the hassle and heartbreak in time
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
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    Get pregnant with him, problem solved,
  • caldon4523
    caldon4523 Posts: 227 Member
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    Your statement doesn't make sense. He's traveling. What's the big deal? Is he going off to Jupiter and going to be away for about 90 years? Is he "traveling" or moving? If he's traveling, when will he come back? And you mentioned you may want to travel with him.

    Now he wants to break up. I think he's just tired of you. Maybe you should travel on or move on or what ever you call it.
  • Trudyr777
    Trudyr777 Posts: 573 Member
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    If niether of you "wanted" it you'd still be together. Love knows no bounds and would have at least tried. IMHO, someone was looking for an out and used this as a crutch. Smile, acknowledge, move on.
  • laurenz2501
    laurenz2501 Posts: 839 Member
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    If he wanted to be with you at any time whatsoever, he wouldn't want to break up with you NOW. it's clear as day to me. he doesn't want to be with you, period, regardless of why. :( definitely start moving on asap! sorry this happened.
    IMHO, someone was looking for an out and used this as a crutch

    Precisely.
  • tdbad1
    tdbad1 Posts: 87 Member
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    Get pregnant with him, problem solved,


    WHAT!!!!! NOO DONT!!! that is the worst thing you could do. Seriously i can't believe someoen would post this.

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