hello..hoping to make a change

hi everyone! im hoping to make a healthy change in my life...i have 4 girls- all but one thats grown up and moved out or moving out..my youngest is 2 and i spend most of my day cleaning and chasing her around so i get plenty of exorcise ...however ...stress is my biggest culprit! by the end of the day i feel im entitled to that glass of wine (or 2) or snack ! why should life be only about work and no play? dont we all deserve happiness? im just trying to figure out the best way to de-stress at the end of the day without over doing it... withought adding the calories ...just trying to live healthier and still feel like ive given myself something