My sister is harsh. But right.

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  • notsosimplyabby
    notsosimplyabby Posts: 138 Member
    Make her words your motivation. I know that next time you see her, you will look slim, healthy, and BETTER than she does! Good luck and feel free to add me if you need kind words of encouragment!
  • butterflyqueen1984
    butterflyqueen1984 Posts: 141 Member
    Yes it was very harsh for your sister to say that! But when my mind changed it was also because of my sister. My sister had always been fatter than me, when she had her last baby she started loosing weight, she was getting smaller and smaller and I thought if she can do it with 2 kids then so can I! So thats when I started, I am also doing this for myself but sisters even though they can be a pain in the bum and nasty to you, they can also help you change your life! Good luck, you can do this!
  • BeautyDoll
    BeautyDoll Posts: 100 Member
    Her delivery may have not been the best but she loves and cares about you. Otherwise she would have just thought it to herself. She wants you to look and feel better and be healthy. Take it as that and don't read into it or make it that you are less than. This is your opportunity to say, I can make a change because someone cares enough about me to tell me. She told you what you knew and it hurt because you had to face how you feel about yourself and how you may have let yourself down. Use this as fuel. Use us as support. We're all in this together and want to see you succeed! You can do it!
  • Kimaw65
    Kimaw65 Posts: 74 Member
    Maybe that was just the wake up call you needed. Mine was finally looking at myself in the mirror one day. I mean REALLY LOOKING and I hated what I saw. Feel free to add me

    Kim:)
  • Poeticmoe
    Poeticmoe Posts: 176 Member
    Her delivery may have not been the best but she loves and cares about you. Otherwise she would have just thought it to herself. She wants you to look and feel better and be healthy. Take it as that and don't read into it or make it that you are less than. This is your opportunity to say, I can make a change because someone cares enough about me to tell me. She told you what you knew and it hurt because you had to face how you feel about yourself and how you may have let yourself down. Use this as fuel. Use us as support. We're all in this together and want to see you succeed! You can do it!

    ^^THIS!^^ I'm sending you a buddy request. With support, you can do his!
  • DrMAvDPhD
    DrMAvDPhD Posts: 2,097 Member
    In some cultures, pointing out "fatness" isn't considered rude. I don't know how long your sister has lived with you in the US, but maybe visiting Europe has brought that side of her upbringing out. I'm sure she didn't mean it to be hurtful.

    However, good for you for taking the kick in the @$$ and doing something with it! Add me if you'd like support as you get fit!
  • pjsayler
    pjsayler Posts: 5 Member
    Hey there, chin up and get busy. You are not alone here and may call on me any time for support. I do not agree with how harsh she was. Your sister wasn't merely harsh she was cruel! No wonder you are crying. She should be honest with you but there are better ways. She could have been more tactful and much kinder~but you said this is not her way. She should have asked you if you had stopped working out or other questions that would give you the opportunity to take a closer look at yourself. Do what you need to do to but be happy with yourself. Have you told her how her comments have affected you? She didn't need to be so hurtful and needs to know that....:heart: I'm sorry that she hurt you...
  • aliwitt82
    aliwitt82 Posts: 41
    If you ever feel like giving just remember how you felt at the moment when she was harsh with you and let her being harsh be your inspiration to better yourself! Just remember you can DO IT!! It may be hard at times and trust me there will be days when you want to give up but just remember how you felt when someone called you "fat" and that will be just enough for you to get up and do something! We are all here and in the same place! Oh and feel free to add me as a friend and GOOD LUCK YOU CAN DO IT!!
  • MrsVR
    MrsVR Posts: 13 Member
    Let this motivate you....you can do it...one day at a time! Good Luck!
  • D1one
    D1one Posts: 7 Member
    Hi, I notice you have lost 104lbs. I am need of some support and need to get over the addition of sugar. I have been working on losing weight and it hard when you want to eat what others eat but you can't. I have been working out since Sat. I need some help with eating foods with sugar. I do know that working out is the key, but I am a busy mom that works and doesn't get home til 6pm then help with homework while i am cooking dinner then it's about 9 and time to get the kids off to bed and ready for the next day.

    It 's hard trying to make the time to workout when i don't want to neglect my family at the same time and I have a goal that I want to accomplish.

    I need support.
  • yaomihaha
    yaomihaha Posts: 21 Member
    dont worry. It will getting better and you will feel yourself much better in no time. I will invite you as friend. Lets support each other.
  • Jamie_Lauren
    Jamie_Lauren Posts: 211 Member
    The funny thing is, I've heard so many people complain when no one told them they were getting fat. Like people don't realize their clothing sizes going up, or their waistline expanding...

    Denial is a powerful thing! I honestly never saw myself as big as I really was when I was fat, it's only now that I've lost weight that I look back at photos and say "is that really what I looked like?"

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