Names Nicole :] (i wrote alot sorry

Hello, feel free to add me! I'm vegan so my food diary may or may not interest you. I can relate with putting on weight in a relationship, exactly the same thing happened with me, you just get too comfortable once you're with someone don't you haha):
Also nothing wrong with pasta just watch the portion sizes!

Hi-

I have the same problem. I am 32, with 3 kids and lets just say they played a toll on my body. When I got prgenant with my first I was 142 pounds (which docs still say is to high for me but I am comfortable there). Now I am 178 pounds and want to get down to at least 150. My biggest problem is Pepsi. I have a huge addiction. The other problem I have is not eating enough. I dont eat breakfast, have something small for lunch and then eat like a man at dinner...:-) My husband has bought me an elliptical, countless videos, heavy weights, light weights, everything I need but I do it for a week and then stop when I get too sore...Feel free to add me maybe we can help each other.

My wife and I did the same thing. When we met, we were both at peace with being single and were enjoying our lives. once we got together, we shared good times and good food, and I love to cook. so we put on weight. I actually got married at something north of 265, not sure how much actually as I avoided the scale like the plague. I do know that the tailor measured me with a 52" waist and I wore size 49 pants (with some belly overhang) tux pants on my wedding day. after about a year of marriage, we both decided to make a change and jumped in with both feet. between the two of us we are down over 100 lbs, and we notice that our circle of friends is becoming more and more filled with gym friends, biking friends, etc.. Its ok that you put on some weight in that new relationship if it is because you are enjoying time together and perhaps just over eating. its great that you realize that its going in a direction you do not like, and want to make a change. My wife and I try to eat clean 80-90% of the time, get in consistent workouts (high quality), and the remainder of meals we are OK with "cheating" and eating what we want (within reason).

you can do this.. small consistent changes and you will do great. feel free to add me or PM me or my wife if there is any way we can help you on this journey!

Mike

thank you soo much, thats awesoem that you guys have each other.. doesnt help that my bf is trying to gain and im trying to lose =/

but that is OK.. I assume if he wants to gain, that he would prefer to gain lean mass and not get fat. lol..

if so.. the main thing that would change is the portion size. still eat lean meat sources and lots of veggies, some (good) fat should be there from olive oil, avocado, etc.. sugars and starchy carbs should be minimized and we find that they are best saved for cheat meals and within 1 hour after a hard workout.

he will also need to hit the gym, and you can probably do pretty much the same workout (unless there is an injury or doing some very specific workout for a sport, etc.). My wife and I actually rarely workout TOGETHER.. i go to a bare bones olympic lifting gym, she does rachel cosgroves (great book) workout at a local box gym. she supplements with biking with two of her friends.

at meals, we eat exactly the same things, except my portion sizes are bigger.. Doing it as a team, eating right and working out, gives you a higher chance of success in getting to your goal, and more importantly of maintaining your fitness going forward.