Handling people who are jealous/sabotaging

I remove them from my life because I don't need people like that surrounding me.

Don't have this problem, or maybe I'm oblivious to it.

I would take them w/a grain of salt. I know though it is hard when it is directly affecting you. I remember that when I had lost a 25 lbs. a couple of years ago a lot of my co-workers were jealous to the point of starting a rumor that I had an eating disorder. I felt horrible because it stole my success and made it ugly. The funny thing is I was eating more food having a healthy/clean diet. I found that the best method is just to ignore them. If they are not going to be happy for you and your success they aren't worth it.
Are they doing anything particular to treat you bad out of jealousy?

I remove them from my life because I don't need people like that surrounding me.

This. And that's not just for weight loss related issues. That's for everything in my life. Don't waste time having people who bring you down in your life.

its funny because my sister is back on her healthy diet which is good, she lost 10kg before but then went back to eating badly.

she makes minor comments about me not getting enough variety in my diet, or not eating enough, and thinks I shouldn't spend money on a fitbit or aria scale / heart monitor cause its "a lot of money" when she goes to a nutritionist who tallys her food diary, weighs her and checks her bodyfat % for $150 a pop. <

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also includes a pat on the head.

I don't make comments when she takes a whitebread bun, puts cheese and pesto on it and eats it.

my sandwich / burger is vege sausage, fried egg, lettuce, sprouts, tomatoe, avocado, mustard and bbq sauce.

but yeh. totally struggling with diversity with 20g of protein, 2-3 serves of vegetables in a wholemeal bun.




i think if they are true haters (my sisters not really, probably shes annoyed because I've learnt a lot and i talk about it a lot) you should just stand up for yourself.

I agree with the removal comment above.

if they're your family and wont listen, take up kickboxing.

Ignore them *****es. The only person who acts like that towards me is my sister lol, everyone else just tells me I need to stop.

For me it's my Mum. I know it's not malicious, she does genuinely want me to succeed. It's actually been kind of funny lately, a real role reversal. My mum has always been very skinny and ate like a bird while I've always been really big and ate atrociously. My whole childhood and adolescence she was constantly scolding me for food choices and trying to get me to "just have an apple" etc.

She's just moved back in with me recently due to her circumstances and in the past few years has gained 15-20kgs. Now she's the one constantly saying "I can't be bothered, I'm too tired, I just want a pie" or "do you really have to go to the gym tonight? It's so late and it's cold outside!". It's weird but I'm the one who's now making all the healthy food choices and fighting her discouraging / sabotaging impulses. So far I've been determined enough to ignore her, but I hope she stops soon because I'm sure I'll cave at some point!

Ignore or use it as a motivator.

Prove them wrong, or push them out of the way(and/or punch them in the face).

Pretty much this. Well, except the fist to the face part. :laugh: I have a few friends who tease me about certain food choices when we go out. "Oh you should be eating a salad and not that burger! All your hard work is going to to go waste!" It doesn't work like that. If I did that EVERYDAY then sure, but I don't. I tried to encourge them to join me at the gym and some have! But they last at most 3 weeks and then the excuses start. I do have 1 really good friend who is dedicated as me but she lives across the water so I rarely get to see her. I wish I lived on her side of the water, she would be a awesome workout buddy! :frown:

I ignore it mostly. Whenever I'm around a certain person I overeat. Every single time. But that's only been 4 times in the whole 135+ days I've been on here, so I just ignore it. If it were more often then I'd probably decide something to do about it... I just don't know what.