flatmates

Go girl! Show her who's the boss here!

If you don't communicate then they won't know what your expectations are

You'd think adults would live by basic rules of hygiene but you'd be surprised.

For months I *****ed to my Mom that none of my roommates ever took out the trash to the point here we had fruit flies because it was OVERFLOWING after not being taken out for over a week while I visited my parents. It as disgusting and smelly and shocking that not a single one of my 3 roommates took out the trash in the entire week I was gone and instead kept piling things in to the point where you couldn't even close the trash can anymore.

I took it out when I got back and the same thing happened again this week. I decided enough was enough and shot the a nice email today just saying that we need to get better about taking on the trash BC it will attract bugs. An hour later someone had taken the trash out.

I didn't want to seem like a witch with a B but something needed to be said. We are all adults after all so we should be able to discuss household things such as that

I don't own my house, I have landlords so I don't get to decide who lives with me, so I don't have the power to tell them they'd have to leave. But I would tell her that she needs to start being cleaner and just give her a warning that you need to live with someone who keeps things neat.

In the future you should try and put things like this in the lease you have your tenets sign. I've lived at lots of place that have rules like that

Flatmates are the bane of my life. I'm in my final year of university and after living with with some horrors in 2nd year, me and a close friend decided to go back into university accommodation (private rather university-owned) and live in a 5-bedroom flat and take a chance on 3 random people.

Cue RIDICULOUS coincidence. We found out in July that one of the "randoms" is actually my housemate (and birthday twin) from 2nd year. We were devastated, but thankfully he was the lesser of the 3 evils, but he was also bringing with him another girl who is a renowned gossip and has a lot of problems with a lot of people. We looked on the bright side and in the beginning it was fine - the girl professed to be OCD about cleaning, insisted that we wash cupboard handles before she touched them etc etc. Now on a scale of OCD to filthy, I'd prefer OCD.

Unfortunately she's a pretty big hypocrite and is actually pretty disgusting. She refuses to "lower herself" to taking the trash out, has really regular (TOO regular) parties in our kitchen, doesn't invite my friend and I, and then refuses to clean up afterwards. After 4 days of nagging one time she finally cleaned, but then moaned and complained to my friend that "she didn't see why she had to clean up" and that she was being taken advantage.... GIRL, YOU (or your guests) MAKE THE MESS, YOU CLEAN IT UP.

Instead of taking 2 seconds to scrape food into the bin she leaves half-eaten meals on plates all around the kitchen, she leaves horrible old rice in her rice cooker for days on end, she leaves stagnant water in the sink... but worst of all, she constantly complains to anyone who'll listen about how dirty we are, how unreasonable etc etc. And to make matters worse, she had a huge falling out with the guy we live with (my ex-housemate) and now all she does is follow me and my friend into the kitchen to sit and complain and moan and *****. I literally dread going in there because its gotten to the point that I can't even fake being interested in what she's saying.

HOUSEMATES - URGH. I can just about deal with them being filthy in their own room, but bringing your stuff into it? NOT ON AT ALL.

The worst part is how awkward you feel saying something too, even though you're in no way in the wrong!

Don't worry you're not the only one.. I live with a girl who used to live in a 600 euro a month flat in Paris and her parents STILL give her money (?!). Our flat only costs 175 euros a month, meaning she has a good 400+ extra than she used to, but she constantly claims she's poor and tries to wriggle out of paying her way in bills etc. It's exhausting. She's also the most uptight person I've ever met, however much you scrub the flat, you've done something wrong.

But this girl is new to living with others, if your housemate is in her 50's you'd hope she'd have learnt how to share a living space with someone successfully by now! Send her your thoughts; make a friend read over them first so they come across in a cool, composed way and talk to your landlord about it. Then be thankful you have a 2 month break without her! I hope things get better for you!