I need support....please!
fitforlife34
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Can anyone shed some light on how to be successful at getting support on this site?? I am so depressed, I am the heaviest I've ever been, and I"m also an emotional eater. Sometimes I feel I am the only one in this fight, although there are so many. A guy this week told me no man wants me because I'm too fat, and it hurt so deeply I can't even explain. I need support!!! Thank you.
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Hey, I'm so sorry you are in so much pain. That person you spoke with is wrong, by the way. I met my husband when I was 'fat' and he has loved me despite it. You are absolutely worthy of love, no matter your size.
As for support, you have mine. This is a challenging journey, as we all know, and it is nice to have others who get it.
Add me as a friend if you's like. And just do this one meal at a time.0 -
We're the same age so we have that in common and I'm happy to help! Can you start filling out your food diary so I can get an idea of what you're eating? How often do you exercise?
I watched a wonderful documentary called Food Matters (you can rent it from netflix) it recommends taking a B vitamin (niacin) for mood elevation and that eating cashews everyday is the same as popping a prozac. The brand of vitamin matters, they are not all equal, this one doesn't have to be taken with food.
http://www.drugstore.com/garden-of-life-vitamin-code-raw-b-complex-vegan-capsules/qxp381751?catid=1831570 -
You should have told the guy, "I may be fat, but you're a jerk. I am going to lose the weight and look awesome, but you'll still be a JERK!"
You don't want negative people like that around anyway!
Feel free to add me as a friend. I'm a guy, but I can relate to the emotional eating thing. For guys, we call it the "Screw it" attitude where you get lazy, stop working out, stop caring about eating right and before you know it, you're in a giant hole that feels too big to climb out of. It becomes overwhelming, like climbing Everest or something.
But we CAN climb out of it! 6 weeks ago I was the heaviest I've ever been, but I've lost 16 pounds in 6 weeks and feel great. I'm getting stronger and leaner every day. I'm on my way to my goal weight and I'm NEVER going back. Just get started today and make tomorrow a really good day. Stay under your calorie limit and get some exercise, even if it's just a relaxing walk. Take a look at my diary to see how I'm eating (except for Sunday, my "free day").
If I can do it, you can too!0 -
you are a beautiful woman and that is based on looks because I do not know you...You can send a friend request if you like...0
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OMG that guys should be slapped. I too struggle with my weight and I such an emotional eater as well. It's very hard to lose weight when you dont have the support... just know your not alone. First thing you need to recognize what your triggers are that make you eat. Once you realize what they are then you can stay away from the triggers or deal with them in another way. I'm figuring mine out now. Pls don't be depressed...life can be so fun if you allow it to be. 0 -
Can anyone shed some light on how to be successful at getting support on this site?? I am so depressed, I am the heaviest I've ever been, and I"m also an emotional eater. Sometimes I feel I am the only one in this fight, although there are so many. A guy this week told me no man wants me because I'm too fat, and it hurt so deeply I can't even explain. I need support!!! Thank you.
As I mentioned in the other thread. Stop being sensitive and do something about it.
Crying, whining and complaining is not accomplishing anything. Take action.
That is what is wrong with most women. You want everything sugar coated and handed to you on a fluffy pillow until reality smacks you in the face.
You all that are man bashing this guy are NOT helping her. You are merely feeding into her pitty party, woe is me attitude. :sad: :sad: :sad:0 -
you should ignore the a holes and concentrate on the positives0
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This makes me think of something my dad says to comments like that.
"I'm fat yes, but you're ugly. I can lose weight, you're **** out of luck.'0 -
who ever said that to you is obviously a mean, shallow individual...(cut him out of your life) have you ever noticed that most of the holywood hotties partners are not that hot just take a look at kate hudsons ex. Now that being said I think you look great. I know were you are coming from, once had a boyfriend tell me he hoped our kids had his looks and my brains.............seen him a few weeks ago, thankfully I did not marry him and my sons look nothing like him, he is totally bald!
I am def an emotional eater and owe much of my weight gain to listening to negative comments. Irecently joined here, have lost 3.5 stone since march and am now getting a lot of positive feedback especially from people who haven't seen me in a while.............keep trying to loose it gets easier and as the weight comes off you will feel better
feel free to add me to your friend list
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I'm sorry to hear of your pain...it's one thing to be honest and it's another to be mean & what that guy said was just mean & hurtful. I went through a similar situation & used the hurtful words as motivation [i deceided that no one would no longer be able to throw my weight in my face in such a hurtful manner, so i needed to do something about it].
I will be glad to support you on your journey...you just have to take it one day at a time. :flowerforyou:0 -
Hey, I'm so sorry you are in so much pain. That person you spoke with is wrong, by the way. I met my husband when I was 'fat' and he has loved me despite it. You are absolutely worthy of love, no matter your size.
I too meant my husband while i was overweight and i've gained some weight since then. he loves me and tells me i'm beautify. your mr. right will be right for you. steer clear of the people who do not treat you the way you need/want to be treated.0 -
Can anyone shed some light on how to be successful at getting support on this site?? I am so depressed, I am the heaviest I've ever been, and I"m also an emotional eater. Sometimes I feel I am the only one in this fight, although there are so many. A guy this week told me no man wants me because I'm too fat, and it hurt so deeply I can't even explain. I need support!!! Thank you.
As I mentioned in the other thread. Stop being sensitive and do something about it.
Crying, whining and complaining is not accomplishing anything. Take action.
That is what is wrong with most women. You want everything sugar coated and handed to you on a fluffy pillow until reality smacks you in the face.
You all that are man bashing this guy are NOT helping her. You are merely feeding into her pitty party, woe is me attitude. :sad: :sad: :sad:
First off, what that guy said is unacceptable and hateful and anyone that loves themselves wouldn't tolerate such disrespect from another. It doesn't help anyone to kick them when they're down. She is taking action or else she wouldn't be tracking calories and working through the emotional eating. Second off, he is wrong. There are plenty of men that don't focus on the perfection of where you are in your journey, but where you came from and where you are going. I'm not a fan of man bashing and don't consider myself a feminist, but it's YOUR comments that are NOT helping her. It's clear you don't see a difference between being honest when someone SEEKS your opinion, and forcing your conditioned views on another.
To the original poster, I just want to say that there are jerks everywhere, but ignore them. It's your life, not theirs. It's your journey and struggle, not theirs. People love to be hateful to cover their own insecurities, but realize that's what it is. Confident people don't feel the need to assume that they have it all figured out. And if you actually believe what he says, then that is another issue. Find your faith, unwind your pain, and surround yourself with people that believe you are more than a number on the scale.0 -
I looked at your pictures. You are totally hot at your current weight - pretty, curvy, sexy. If I was a single guy and saw you at the bar, I would hit on you. So there, this week, a guy told you that you are hot.0
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That guy is a ****ing idiot. Period. End of story. If you want to lose weight or get in shape, do it for you, not because some pecker head made a comment like that.0
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^^^^What he said.I looked at your pictures. You are totally hot at your current weight - pretty, curvy, sexy. If I was a single guy and saw you at the bar, I would hit on you. So there, this week, a guy told you that you are hot.0 -
I just looked at your profile pictures. I think you are cute as a button.
Guy is an *kitten*. Why would anyone need to be so hurtful toward someone else? That boggles my mind.0 -
Thanks for the compliments. I know I am overweight, (according to BMI calucaulator) but I think I put it on the places the women wish they could (ie chest area lol) but I realize opinions are just that...opinions. He says that in men's standards I'm "fat" but is he talking about the men he knows, or all men? He's a jerk, I dont' care what he said.0
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I hope I don't sound like a stalker, or anything...
But you (judging from your pictures you have up) are a very attractive woman. A little overweight? Maybe. But I wouldn't use the word, "fat" for you.
So there - that makes three (I think?) votes of confidence from guys this week.0
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