"Sobering" stat about my alcohol consumption...

Holy puns! Nyuck Nyuck Nyuck!

Anyway, I am not losing any weight for two reasons: I am drinking a lot again, and subsequently bingeing my *kitten* off to keep from being hung over.

Not a fantastic strategy, if I do say so myself.

I just used an Alcohol Usage tool to see how my drinking stacks up to others, and the results were pretty clear:

Only 8% of American men drink more than I do.

Wow.

I have been better for stretches of time since I started myfitnesspal, but overall a cheat day becomes a cheat week, which has become a cheat month. How the hell do I do this?!

What are some strategies for quitting booze AND binge eating... Work out whenever I get the inkling to drink or eat? To stop complaining and be a more disciplined person? All of the above?
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  • sarahharmintx
    sarahharmintx Posts: 868 Member
    Why are you drinking so much? Is it to deal with stress? Or relax with friends?
  • julimonster
    julimonster Posts: 243 Member
    What do you want the most?
  • carebear7951
    carebear7951 Posts: 404 Member
    Maybe it's time to get help?!? IDK if you are partying or self medicating but either way it sounds like if you can only control the drinking for a short amount of time that you might have a "problem". Best wishes!
  • VelociMama
    VelociMama Posts: 3,119 Member
    If you're having trouble quitting, I'd recommend something like AA or an outpatient alcohol treatment program. These programs offer a lot of methods for coping with the need to binge and will help you learn why you're doing what you're doing. They aren't just for stereotypical "addicts" anymore.

    I hope you can find some relief soon and best of luck to you!
  • ashleyh3156
    ashleyh3156 Posts: 177 Member
    that is a hard one!! lifestyle change for sure...and unfortunately sometimes group/friend change :( now I have 2 children, but was young when I had the first. I drank a lot before getting pregnant, unfortunately I lost a lot of friends during pregnancy/post pregnancy. Have you asked yourself why you are drinking too much? Stress, boredom, or other reasons? I would try to get conrtol of the culprit of your binge drinking. Hope this helps!
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
    I would love the link to this "tool"...I want to see if I need to increase my consumption.
  • WarriorReady
    WarriorReady Posts: 571 Member
    Maybe for every drink you are having you have a glass of water in between. Eat a healthy balanced dinner before said alcohol binge. Then when you get home before going to bed take 2 ibeprofen and at least 16oz of water before sleep. When you wake up hung over load up on an omlette with tons of veggies. Just some thoughts. Make it a scheduled event that only happens once a week - plan the rest of your meals and days out at least a day (preferably a week) in advance. And above all stop your self-sabotage!
  • ericjustin1977
    ericjustin1977 Posts: 9 Member
    HAHA!

    http://www.alcoholscreening.org/Home.aspx

    I definitely self medicate. I have a lot of anxieties in my life, be it from two jobs, to things at home, and honestly it has just become a really comfortable routine. I can go a night without, but once I really say "OK, no more" I get anxious about it.

    My life is a little complicated right now, and I don't have a whole lot in the way of solutions, so I really need something more constructive to give me the same satisfaction being ****-canned does. haha.

    Thanks for the kind words everyone!
  • Chari_Jan
    Chari_Jan Posts: 157 Member
    I have been sober since 5.3.10. Your story is very familiar. I highly suggest hitting up an AA meeting or contacting a rehab center. If only to better educate yourself...you might hear something that you need to hear. I ask that you keep an open mind and look for the similarities instead of focusing on the differences between yourself/situation and others in the room. If you need to talk or have any questions...do not hesistate to ask me.
  • jrsey86
    jrsey86 Posts: 186 Member
    I think a better question is why are you drinking so much? There really isn't enough information here for us to really help or advise you. Do you have friends who like to party? Do your coworkers go out after work for drinks frequently? Are you stressed, and therefore looking for a way to cope/escape/whatever? Or, if we really wanna go there, do you have alcoholic tendencies?

    The long and short of it is this: at one point, you had this under control. Now, it's out of control. You know yourself best.

    My best advice is to just be honest with yourself about the reasons and work towards change. If you are *not* an alcoholic, here is my suggestion: cut yourself off completely from alcohol. When you think you want it, do something else: exercise, go for a drive, whatever it takes. Then, once you've gotten the parts of your life back into control, reintroduce it in moderation.

    Every now and then a drink is awesome. I probably have a drink twice a week. However, when it's a constant and it dominates your life like it has been, you need to step back, assess, and change.

    Best of luck to you! :smile:
  • tracymat
    tracymat Posts: 296 Member
    Only 9% of females drink more than I do. :(

    I'm struggling with this same thing - as horrible as it sounds. I live in Wisconsin - we DRINK!!!! Everything we do revolves around drinking. I do the same thing.... drink... hungover... eat... auuugggg I'm getting no where. Even though I only do this once a week - on the weekend, it's ruining my progress.

    I did decide after this past weekend that I have to be done. For both my weightloss, health and a relationship I'm trying to salvage.

    How I'm going to deal with social situations - I'm not sure yet. But I'm curious to see who will be standing by my skinny self in the end!
  • crystalflame
    crystalflame Posts: 1,049 Member
    It depends how much motivation you need. Try pre-logging your calories so you know how many drinks would fit in your goal - it won't be many. Don't go over your allotted amount. Also, go do a hard workout the day after you drink. If you're like me, you'll be panting as you run, lifting badly, and generally feeling like crap. Then plan to work out every day that week, and you'll think twice before reaching for a beer or few.

    It's really about what you want more - boozing it up, or being healthy? I still have the occasional weekend binge, but it's certainly not a daily thing. You have to take care of yourself, that liver's gotta last a long time!
  • I am very familiar with your story. I stopped one month ago today and it's been great. But really I had to just make a decision. AA isn't for everyone, you may find what you need there you may not. I suggest breaking up the old routines, that may mean saying good bye to some old friends, or at least turning them down for certain activities.
    Since I stopped drinking I don't remember a day that I missed accidentally on my workouts. In other words, if I take a day off it is always intentional. before I would miss days all the time, claiming a cheat day or whatever, but now I am in such better shape than before. I may be overtraining a bit, but that's okay.
    Make a plan for your workouts or diet and then stick to it, think of that everytime you want to drink. That's what I do. My plans usually include getting to they gym at 4 AM so I can't even drink the night before or I'll never make it.
    Oh, and I do enjoy NA beer, some might think it's a gateway but that is not the case with me. It's actually like a bridge to get me from feeling like I want to drink to realizing I don't.
    Good luck.
  • laurenellenmarie
    laurenellenmarie Posts: 331 Member
    I come from the same lifestyle.
    Things that are helping me: Not having as much in the house, pre logging it and not going to the bars for no real reason.
    So far, so good.
    Although when we went out for Halloween, I still drank until I blacked out.
    Am I doing better? Maybe. Am I doing it as often? No.
  • ooshlet
    ooshlet Posts: 18 Member
    me too. i only drink socially so dont think of myself as having a problem, but increasingly i've realised every time i go out it becomes a binge, and i wake up shameful and hungover. i went out on friday and was so hungover on saturday that i missed the gym and lunch with my friends, so ended up alone all weekend, feeling miserable and beating myself up over it. realised after some soul searching that enough is enough.

    thing is, i've always socialised with drinks, and after 20 years of doing this, i'm not sure how you do it otherwise. but i've told myself no drink till christmas day, when i can have a glass of champagne. possibly the worst, so therefore the best, time to stop!
  • SaLandrum
    SaLandrum Posts: 141 Member
    When I sat down and evaluated my life, I realized that I did not need the alcohol - what I really wanted was something to do when enjoying a relaxing evening watching tv.

    Now, instead of a glass of wine (that was really 2 glasses of wine) I have either water or tea...... and save my liquid calories for a margarita or draft beer when I go out for dinner with my wonderful husband.
  • GeekyGirlLyn
    GeekyGirlLyn Posts: 238 Member
    Have you tried slowly tapering back the drinks. One less every week or day or however you think you can handle it? The most immediate change I can suggest is to change up the kind of food you binge on. Have some healthier foods to hand to help with the alcohol after effects. Deli meat wrapped around cheese sticks. Peanut butter and apples. Depends on how you eat and what you eat. Best thing in the world for hangovers is to chug tons of water the night before after you finish with the booze and pop some aspiring BEFORE you go to sleep. Sounds silly but worked for me in college. If you cant change the alcohol then the food is the next choice. Better food choices, things you can binge on but binge on without overdoing eat. Drink tons of water before bed and pop those aspirin.
  • Calantorntain
    Calantorntain Posts: 172 Member
    HAHA!

    http://www.alcoholscreening.org/Home.aspx

    I definitely self medicate. I have a lot of anxieties in my life, be it from two jobs, to things at home, and honestly it has just become a really comfortable routine. I can go a night without, but once I really say "OK, no more" I get anxious about it.

    My life is a little complicated right now, and I don't have a whole lot in the way of solutions, so I really need something more constructive to give me the same satisfaction being ****-canned does. haha.

    Thanks for the kind words everyone!

    Sounds rough.

    Don't say "I'm done with booze!" and create anxiety. Just start to cut back. It's easy to drink when there's a bunch of beer (or whatever your poison of choice is) at home. Find ways to trick yourself into buying less. Bike to the booze store so you can only carry so much, perhaps? This would be a great choice because biking is exercise, and it will help you relax! Don't be a ***** about the weather; it's 26 degrees here, and I biked 5 miles to work!

    Also see if you can tackle the things that are causing you stress. If you keep drinking, that's probably not going to solve anything. Instead, see if you can figure out what at work is stressing you out (can you re-examine your budget, and work fewer hours?). At home, have a talk with your loved ones. Say you are working to change, and that you will need their support. Discuss what you find frustrating, but also be willing to find out what frustrates them, and work together to have a more harmonious home. Are you living with a partner? Perhaps buy some massage oil. Then, when you feel stressed and feel like drinking, you can instead give each other massages. Sounds way better than alcohol, if you ask me!

    Good luck! You can do it!
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    I simply don't buy any beer. That keeps me from drinking it. Or I might buy *one* tall boy and just drink that one, so I can't drink more.


    http://www.alcoholscreening.org/Home.aspx

    My Results
    Your answers suggest that alcohol is not likely to be harming your health because you don’t drink more than the USDA Recommended Guidelines.
  • krystina_letitia9
    krystina_letitia9 Posts: 697 Member
    Only 9% of females drink more than I do. :(

    I'm struggling with this same thing - as horrible as it sounds. I live in Wisconsin - we DRINK!!!! Everything we do revolves around drinking. I do the same thing.... drink... hungover... eat... auuugggg I'm getting no where. Even though I only do this once a week - on the weekend, it's ruining my progress.

    I did decide after this past weekend that I have to be done. For both my weightloss, health and a relationship I'm trying to salvage.

    How I'm going to deal with social situations - I'm not sure yet. But I'm curious to see who will be standing by my skinny self in the end!

    I got this same stat as well. I don't think they ask enough questions to be accurate. What if I'm the person who has ONE glass of wine everyday with dinner? That's healthy enough. It said on a "drinking day", how many drinks do I generally have... 5. But how often do I do that? It never asked me that. Once a month - IF that. Maybe once every 2 months. Happy hour, anyone?
  • chicadejmu
    chicadejmu Posts: 171 Member
    I think a good question is - is drinking affecting the rest of your life besides just keeping on the weight? If the answer is yes - seek help! And you will have to REALLY look hard at your life to get an honest answer.

    If drinking is a stress reliever - try a hard workout. If you focus all your energy into that workout, you will have less stress and a sense of accomplishment. Plus, you'll have burned calories and moved toward your weight loss goal.

    If never having a drink again scares you - then don't say that (unless after evaluating my question above you determine yes). There is nothing wrong with having an occasional drink. Just limit yourself to 1 or 2. Don't drink to get drunk and you won't have to binge to prevent a hangover.

    Best of luck to you!!
  • cwag_afw
    cwag_afw Posts: 45 Member
    If you are self medicating, it's time to get help. I had wonderful results going to counseling. If you can find a good counselor, he or she can direct you, whether it is an inpatient or out patient rehab. You have to get to the bottom of your issues in order to help you stop drinking. Hang in there and Good Luck to you!!
  • Find a healthy habit to replace it. [Easier said than done.]
    I miss the social aspects and often weaken when out with friends. Also like you I still find myself "self medicating" to the "comfortably numb" stage on occasion. But I have found that need to do that has become less often since seeking [getting] professional help in dealing with stress, anxiety and depression I was self medicating. Getting professional help has given me better tools to cope with my busy life.

    It is a process and the first step is coming to those sobering facts and really wanting to do something about it.
  • TinaBean007
    TinaBean007 Posts: 273 Member
    I had a similar experience when I started MFP... it wasn't binge drinking so much as social events over the course of a week amounted to over 3000 calories per week. (We're talking 2 at each weekday event and more on the weekends.) While I'm in the beginning stages of learning how to handle it, the first thing I did was stopped drinking completely for 2 weeks. It was really hard, especially watching college football with my friends. (I'm a huge Texas fan and even skipped a week of tailgating!) *Did I mention this was really hard?

    This is what is working for me so far: 1) Planning my alcohol intake ahead of time and trying to stick with Mich Ultra and red wine 2) limit myself to 2 because I know for me, 3 is the threshold when I start to rationalize "just one more" or "let's order a healthy appetizer". (FYI- There are no healthy appetizers in Texas.) 3) I don't normally drink soda, but I do at social functions just to fill the habit of having something in my hand 4) I arrive late and leave earlier than I would before- less time around the temptation.

    Good luck!

    PS- I actually made it through an entire day of Beer Olympics (8 hrs) and only had 3 beers! (That was big accomplishment.)
  • TinaBean007
    TinaBean007 Posts: 273 Member
    One month ago, my results would have been: Only 8% of the adult female population drinks more than you say you drink.


    Today my results: Your answers suggest that alcohol is not likely to be harming your health because you don’t drink more than the USDA Recommended Guidelines.


    I agree that there are not enough questions, but definitely "sobering" statistics.
  • floridagirl7264
    floridagirl7264 Posts: 318 Member
    I've been sober for 4 years. I was doing it because I was self medicating due to bipolar disorder. The only way I was able to stop the cycle of drinking every day was to take a medication called Campral. It took away my cravings. I wasn't able to stay on it longer than 3 weeks because one of the side effects but it was enough to break the cycle. I have been sober ever since. If you can't break the cycle on your own (I had tried so many times but just couldn't stop) then I would seek help from your physician. I sought help from my psychiatrist when I told him how much I had been drinking. I kept it to myself for so many years. I wish I had done it sooner. I did so many things drunk that I would NEVER do sober. I cringe at the things I did. Don't let it go until you bottom out. Hope this helps. :flowerforyou:
  • DoingItForME724
    DoingItForME724 Posts: 130 Member
    I have an addiction to food.....it is my shoulder to cry on and it is my alcohol to celebrate. Everything in my life revolves around eating. I know there isn't anything a person or program can do for me. It's all in my hands....I will stop when I have finally had enough or end up near dead for it.

    I use to drink alot.....blacking out was normal for me. After I had my first son i got really drunk once and woke up the next day and couldn't find him. I can't decribe the feeling but i almost couldn't walk from the thought that something had happened. I was crying, screaming, throwing up......my parents had shown up and taken him because they did not feel he was safe with me.

    Then I thought that must be how these babies end up dead because their parents are too s*** faced to take care of them or the lose control and beat them. Needless to say I haven't gotten drunk since (2yrs). Alcohol is really just not worth it....i don't want to wake up one day to a prison cell or a life of regret because i just couldn't control my consumption.


    Goodluck
  • ErinBeth7
    ErinBeth7 Posts: 1,625 Member
    This is what is working for me so far: 1) Planning my alcohol intake ahead of time and trying to stick with Mich Ultra and red wine 2) limit myself to 2 because I know for me, 3 is the threshold when I start to rationalize "just one more" or "let's order a healthy appetizer". (FYI- There are no healthy appetizers in Texas.) 3) I don't normally drink soda, but I do at social functions just to fill the habit of having something in my hand 4) I arrive late and leave earlier than I would before- less time around the temptation.
    This is all great advice! I have to plan my drinks too. Although, I have cut down significantly not just because of my weight loss, but because it really affects me personally the next day. It really is a depressant and I noticed it's effects days after consumption.
  • anybeary
    anybeary Posts: 188 Member
    Here's the thing: you need to find friends who will hang out with you and NOT drink. Get with some people who are going to support your lifestyle choice and not drink with you and stick with those people. That is the only thing that works. If you're dating someone, and she drinks END IT. Seriously. You can't go on like this, or you're gonna end up under a bridge drinking out of a paper bag someday, and I am sure you have more to offer the world than that.

    Another peice of advice: try Amoryn. It's an all-natural anti-anxiety med. You will need this to be successful. When you decide not to drink and the anxiety creeps up on you, you need this to take the edge off. It sounds to me like you're a person who can't just have a beer or two. You go whole hog and get wasted. This is the number one clue that you're an alcoholic and you need to quit cold turkey and stay that way. It gets easier after a month or so, and one day you'll wake up and say, "Hey, what the hell was I doing to myself? And, where in the heck did I get all of this MONEY?"
  • ericjustin1977
    ericjustin1977 Posts: 9 Member
    Absolutely! A few times my wife has said "Why don't you pick up a six pack and have one or two"...

    Because one or two does nothing for me. I want to be buzzed. I plan my eating around it so ill feel it more.