First dance & Husband and Wife & FIRST KISS
Have you heard the story on Collin Klein? The quarterback from Kentucky State, who is also up for the Heisman trophy, was 23 when he had his first kiss, which just so happened to be to his wife after they said their vows. It's a thing called "courting" that he practiced as a devout christian. Have you heard of this? People still do it now a days, how crazy is that. If you had to choose only kissing your spouse for the rest of your life or being intimate, which would you do?
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While I respect it.. no no no not for me.0
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How woud you have kids if you only kissed?0
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While I respect it.. no no no not for me.
This. I didn't have my first kiss until I was 19, but thank the lord jesus I did not marry that person.0 -
Truthfully I can't imagine being married to my red headed neighbor who looked like the kid on the cover of Mad magazine.While I respect it.. no no no not for me.
This. I didn't have my first kiss until I was 19, but thank the lord jesus I did not marry that person.
PLUS I'm happy to have kissed all kinds of frogs. It was fun, and I know I like my frog the best.0 -
The question was phrased rather oddly--I'd choose only kissing/being intimate with my spouse.0
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Nah...I find that sheltered and backward.
You spend your whole life building up to that one person...How can you be so sure of yourself, lacking the experience necessary to differentiate between good and great?
What's the divorce rate statistic for our age group? Oh...right.0 -
Truthfully I can't imagine being married to my red headed neighbor who looked like the kid on the cover of Mad magazine.While I respect it.. no no no not for me.
This. I didn't have my first kiss until I was 19, but thank the lord jesus I did not marry that person.
PLUS I'm happy to have kissed all kinds of frogs. It was fun, and I know I like my frog the best.
Lol while mine did not look like the kid on the Mad magazine cover, mine was completely financially irresponsible and since that is the complete opposite of me, a few years being less then broke made me nuts. No thanks.0 -
Nah...I find that sheltered and backward.
You spend your whole life building up to that one person...How can you be so sure of yourself, lacking the experience necessary to differentiate between good and great?
What's the divorce rate statistic for our age group? Oh...right.
What's the promiscuity score of today's generation vs the past?? Greater--guaranteed. Divorce rates have nothing to do with being a prude.0 -
Have you heard the story on Collin Klein? The quarterback from Kentucky State, who is also up for the Heisman trophy,
Kansas St.0 -
Have you heard the story on Collin Klein? The quarterback from Kentucky State, who is also up for the Heisman trophy,
Kansas St.
I was thinking to myself, of all the Heisman contenders in my head... never had I heard of a Kentucky State one.0 -
so the options are just kissing or sex (without kissing)?
anyway, he's more than welcome to live his life however he wants. if it made him feel better by waiting, then great. I am happy for him, and wish him well. It's not the way I went about things, but to each his/her own.0 -
Nah...I find that sheltered and backward.
You spend your whole life building up to that one person...How can you be so sure of yourself, lacking the experience necessary to differentiate between good and great?
What's the divorce rate statistic for our age group? Oh...right.
I would assume that if one chooses to do something like this they would be with a like minded person, meaning their partner is more than likely not having sex with others as well... and the greatness would come from being with someone who is a like minded individual that has the same values, and morals in faith. Which means even if the sex is not good by the standards of someone else who has been around a few times their sex would be great for them because it would be something that they are doing with the one person that they feel is completely worthy. Intamacy has very little to do with the actual act of sex and more to do with the connection a person has with another person. At least that is my understanding of it from having friends that have decided to do similar things.
To the OP while I can give the person props for doing this it is not for me.0 -
It's a very romantic notion, but it wouldn't be for me either.0
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I think it's awesome. If that's how they want to live their lives, who are we to judge? I didn't have much experience with guys at all when my husband and I got together. We had been friends since I was 15 and got together the day after I turned 19. Been together since.. I'm glad I did have those couple of guys before him though. lol0
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I also think it is awesome.
What an AMAZING gift to give you your Husband/Wife. I didnt know you then, but I waited for you. Le Sigh0 -
It is very romantic that he's never been with anyone else in an intimate way other than his wife, but not for me. If that were the case I'd be married to someone I was, and still am, terrified of.
If I could have it so that I'd never been intimate with anyone apart from my fiance, I would like it, but wouldn't wish it - as I wouldn't have my son.
To me, knowing you are compatible with someone must have some link to an intimate relationship. You may get on great with someone, love them, but if you lack a spark or connection that extends to an intimate level, then it's just not going to work.0 -
Imagine how many frogs would be left unkissed if you only kissed your prince - poor frogs!0
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Do what floats your boat. It's sweet and all, and I respect his decision, but it's not for me. Like others have said, can't find your prince until you kiss a few frogs!0
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Fair play to them if that's what they believe, but its not my way of thinking. Don't need someone to tell me I am married to know who I want to be with, or that I am allowed to be with them.
Having said that I was older than that for mine, but not out of choice sadly!!!0 -
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Nah...I find that sheltered and backward.
You spend your whole life building up to that one person...How can you be so sure of yourself, lacking the experience necessary to differentiate between good and great?
What's the divorce rate statistic for our age group? Oh...right.
I would assume that if one chooses to do something like this they would be with a like minded person, meaning their partner is more than likely not having sex with others as well... and the greatness would come from being with someone who is a like minded individual that has the same values, and morals in faith. Which means even if the sex is not good by the standards of someone else who has been around a few times their sex would be great for them because it would be something that they are doing with the one person that they feel is completely worthy. Intamacy has very little to do with the actual act of sex and more to do with the connection a person has with another person. At least that is my understanding of it from having friends that have decided to do similar things.
To the OP while I can give the person props for doing this it is not for me.
Mu cousin and her husband shared their first kiss about a week before their wedding - only because they didn't want the one everyone saw to be awkward.
I would not refer to her or her husband as sheltered or backward. I would call them devout. They both have degrees in divinity. He is working on his doctorate and plans to be a minister.
It works for them. Not me though.0 -
If this was true - I ould had ended up marrying a girl as alot would who practised with their best friends first
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While courting was certainly not for me, there is a part of me that really hopes my little girl will do the whole courting thing. LOL.0
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I know a few people that have done this! I think it's sweet - and SO nice! I'm a Christian myself, but I also don't think that it's for me. I will not "court", so to speak - I'm going to date. But I also think giving my first kiss to the guy I marry would be great - but not the day we're married.
I'm 19 and I have never been kissed - and I plan to wait until the right guy comes along.
As for waiting 'til after we say our vows to do that, I doubt that'll happen.
But purity 'til marriage is DEFINITELY something I'll do.0 -
On another note Its real
Your meant to marry your soul mate your true love and someone you could spend rest of your life with
This person would of had 'dates' but never found someone who they 'click' with enough to kiss
I'm guessing their wife they dates, found that connection without having to kiss and be intimate to get one another.
as looks will fade but if you have that connection and love eachother just for being yourself then you found 'the one'
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Nah...I find that sheltered and backward.
You spend your whole life building up to that one person...How can you be so sure of yourself, lacking the experience necessary to differentiate between good and great?
What's the divorce rate statistic for our age group? Oh...right.
I would assume that if one chooses to do something like this they would be with a like minded person, meaning their partner is more than likely not having sex with others as well... and the greatness would come from being with someone who is a like minded individual that has the same values, and morals in faith. Which means even if the sex is not good by the standards of someone else who has been around a few times their sex would be great for them because it would be something that they are doing with the one person that they feel is completely worthy. Intamacy has very little to do with the actual act of sex and more to do with the connection a person has with another person. At least that is my understanding of it from having friends that have decided to do similar things.
To the OP while I can give the person props for doing this it is not for me.
Erm. Have you had bad sex? Its... Bad.
Edit: to say, I'm not dogging their own personal choice, I just have had bad sex and good sex and couldn't imagine being stuck with bad sex forever. I think it should be more about intimacy and babies but fun for both parties as well.0 -
Nah...I find that sheltered and backward.
You spend your whole life building up to that one person...How can you be so sure of yourself, lacking the experience necessary to differentiate between good and great?
What's the divorce rate statistic for our age group? Oh...right.
What's the promiscuity score of today's generation vs the past?? Greater--guaranteed. Divorce rates have nothing to do with being a prude.
Subjective statistic at best...but let's just say you're right. What about the free love movement of the 60's-70's? (Don't answer that, the answer is superfluous anyway.)
That wasn't the correlation I was trying to link.
I was speaking more to the tune that the odds are already stacked against lasting marriages. I don't believe limiting your exposure to the natural, developmental, 'trial and error' phase of romantic engagements is the right direction.
Practice makes perfect. More experience/resources are required to comprehend the gravity and complexity of a relationship than your first time at bat.0 -
The irony is, that during the time and culture of Jesus and the New Testament, it was a common greeting to kiss on the lips. Especially between friends.0
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Nah...I find that sheltered and backward.
You spend your whole life building up to that one person...How can you be so sure of yourself, lacking the experience necessary to differentiate between good and great?
What's the divorce rate statistic for our age group? Oh...right.
What's the promiscuity score of today's generation vs the past?? Greater--guaranteed. Divorce rates have nothing to do with being a prude.
Subjective statistic at best...but let's just say you're right. What about the free love movement of the 60's-70's? (Don't answer that, the answer is superfluous anyway.)
That wasn't the correlation I was trying to link.
I was speaking more to the tune that the odds are already stacked against lasting marriages. I don't believe limiting your exposure to the natural, developmental, 'trial and error' phase of romantic engagements is the right direction.
Practice makes perfect. More experience/resources are required to comprehend the gravity and complexity of a relationship than your first time at bat.
I just don't think that sex and intimacy are the times at bat that we need to be counting--relationships are. I do understand your point though--very interesting perspective.0 -
How woud you have kids if you only kissed?
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