Been here for a year ... and feel ....

So what are you going to change this time to make it work?

Make a plan - and write it down! What is your first step?

Ok. So what does motivate you? Why are you here? What are you trying to accomplish? Trying not to have a heart attack? Are you trying to LGN (look good naked) Figure out what you want and then make a plan. Is your goal too far out, too much. Try a smaller goal. Or something that is not weight based. Try a sport or race. My goal is to fit comfortably in a roller coaster seat. Next May I am riding every single ride at Six Flags. Not weight based at all.

Yes,you are the only one who can control it. Start today, and take baby steps. Make a few better choices, drink a little more water, move more. Over time the little changes add up, and they become habit. You can do this!!!

Well said ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^Deb3129

Having a flick over your diary I'd say stick to your calorie goal and make it over 1200 every day.

Being honest with yourself is hard but it's how you make head way, I'm afraid.

Try planning ahead as well, for example, if you know what you're going to be eating the day (or even week) before, plot that into MFP. That way you know what it's going to add up to so you can add or take away anything to keep to your goal. If you're not using a HRM to monitor your exercise you may want to only eat half of them back, I find that MFP (and even the machines) may give you overly optimistic read outs.

I'm sure you can do it!

I'd been in your situation for years....never really committing and always saying" I really should" or "tomorrow I will".

At the beginning of this I got 2 good simple pieces of advice - one for eating and one for exercise.

1] Eating.
List EVERYTHING you eat and DO NOT go over your daily allowance tailored for weight loss. MFP makes that simple.
My friend suggested that consistently cheating meant that you didn't want it enough and failure was inevitible....harsh but probably true.

2] Exercise.
I complained that I didn't have time for exercise. My friend asked me if I had showered and brushed my teeth that morning. I said yes, of course. Well exercise needs to become just like that. An essential part of your day that you just can't conceive of skipping. And they were right - and I did have time after all! And now I love it.

Work out if you want to do this....really. And if you do, agree to take no prisoners and dedicate yourself to the challenge. Only then will it work for you. It's all about self belief I think.

log, log, log. Everything you put in your mouth. That makes you accountable and you will begin to see what's happening. Make one small change at a time. When you see you can do that you will become motivated to do more. It takes time and dedicatioin, but seeing just one small change makes you want to do another one, and another one. Pretty soon you've got it! Good luck!

Believe me, I know how hard this is. It's not like you can just stop eating (like an alcoholic could stop drinking). Food will always be a part of our lives. If you find it overwhelming to make changes, try doing one thing at a time. Like, this week up your water intake. Next week, cut out fast food. You need to find some way to sustain the changes you make otherwise it's not going to work. Good luck!

Worst thing you can do is wallow about it. Time to find some incentive. It's easy to be the hound-dog lying on the nail bellowing because it hurts...it's when it hurts enough that action will be taken to get off the nail.

My moment was when I went to Moms & Muffins day with my daughter and I could hardly get to the front door. When I did, I had to sit down and catch my breath. I was the only mom there in that bad of shape, and I was embarrassed and humiliated, mortified that my daughter had to wait for me to catch my breath because I was in that bad of shape. It was then I decided that something had to change, and it was going to have to start with me.

Like others have said, what are you willing to do now, today, to help you get to where you want to be tomorrow?

You have to be ready mentally. You can't sit and feel sorry for yourself...you have to just do it. I've done it several times and this time I've kept the weight off over 2 years...I just have a few I need to lose...you can do this! It is a lifestyle change though, not a diet...it has to be forever.

You will feel so much better....and will enjoy life more! This is a great place for support...these people are wonderful!

Again!!! YOU CAN DO THIS!!!! Be ready mentally! Ready...set........go!!!!!!!

Is there something else going on? Are you depressed?