Am I right or wrong in this situation

Oh to be 19 again...

I wouldn't go back to 19 if you PAID me! Beyond the effed up relationships we all got ourselves into.... I like drinking, legally, WAY too much.

Me and this girl were talking and she tells me about how some guy just told her that he loved her then I was like wow that's crazy then a few nights later I asked what she is thinking about and she says guys I just say right on then out of nowhere shes like "wth is wrong with you i told you some guy said he loved me and im thinking about guys you act like you don't even care." What am I supposed to do talk about how I wanna kick the guys *kitten* or tell her im the only thing she can think about idk just seems like she is trying to make me jealous

You say, "You're right, I don't care that you're thinking about guys because I'm thinking about girls." Then you get up, put on a coat, and say, "I also think that I should go out and find girls who don't try to make me jealous and are fun to be around."

Then you leave... and never come back.

Ask her if she knows what you're thinking.

When she says, "no" - tell her you're thinking about guys, too.

That ought to take the fire off a bit.

Ask her if she knows what you're thinking.

When she says, "no" - tell her you're thinking about guys, too.

That ought to take the fire off a bit.

TR0berts for the win!!!!!! :drinker:

Could someone please post a link to *her* post of this whole ordeal. I'd like to read it to better understand what's going on here.

OP, she has some issues with feeling secure. Everyone has issues. If you like her and can see yourself with her sometime in the future, then be nice to her. Take a deep breath and remind her that you do like her and that you do trust her.

At some point, you may want to ask her what you can do in that specific situation to help her feel more secure and then negotiate something that works for both of you.

If she gets too intense or you start feeling upset, take an hour or so apart to clear your mind...and then do something fun together before bringing it back up again.

All good relationships require work, lots of it and from both sides. She can change and become more secure, but she has to want to and you have to be patient. This works both ways, whatever your flaws are (perhaps being empathetic is one) she will need to be patient while you improve.

Enjoy each other and let her know how you feel, kindly. I would highly suggest not abusing her trust by ditching her without explanation or sleeping with her and then leaving. It will only scar you both and add more layers to deal with later on.

Lastly, please, next time you post, use punctuation. It's really hard to get meaning and understand what you're saying without grammar.

Best to you in your decision. Oh and don't take advice from idiots on the web....they lack objectivity and connection to the issue. Guaranteed, many of them would not take their own advice in this situation because we lack understanding of the entire situation. Instead, find a couple who is in a HEALTHY long-term relationship and ask them specific questions. If you can't find that, get a good therapist or someone who can guide you correctly.

Anyway, there is my opinion, "take it or leave it."

Could someone please post a link to *her* post of this whole ordeal. I'd like to read it to better understand what's going on here.

You want a fair and balanced assessment of the situation? Where do you think you are?

This just seemed like a more mature response than, "I have no idea what you're telling or asking us." I was hoping maybe she could clear up some of the confusion.

She must be young.

Yup

Young and crazy........leave the drama......

Correction... if you're from England then American is your 4th language :laugh:

Ask her if she knows what you're thinking.

When she says, "no" - tell her you're thinking about guys, too.

That ought to take the fire off a bit.

I may or may not have spit water through my nose after reading that.

ME TOO BWAHAHAHA!