personal hygeine
Ok so I have a bit of a dilemma with a girl that has befriended me at the gym.
She is a lovely, nice girl, but she really has a problem with BO (body odour) smells not just from when she has been working out, but from when she arrives!!
She is such a nice girl, do I say anything, if I do what do I say?????
She is a lovely, nice girl, but she really has a problem with BO (body odour) smells not just from when she has been working out, but from when she arrives!!
She is such a nice girl, do I say anything, if I do what do I say?????
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Any advice ???0
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It's hard to say anything without hurting her feelings. Are you sure her odours are due to lack of hygiene? Maybe allergy to deodorants, or some kind of infection 'down there' or whatever? I wouldn't say anything unless the smell makes it unbearable being around her. I would open my mouth only if i was a very close friend of hers.
If you're looking for more than a friendship you'll get the chance to say something sooner or later, once you get her trust and once she knows you well.
She's probably as worried and ashamed of it as you are disgusted, who knows?0 -
That is tough..I feel like you kind of have a small window of opportunity for these things, if you leave it too long, it gets almost impossible to say...I personally would really want to know if I had an issue like that...but yeah it is embarrassing, and really tough to bring up...Cause you just don't know if she knows about it and cant do anything to help it, or she doesn't know
hmmm, I would look at her gym hygiene first...If she takes care of her self after working out with showers and deo etc, but then it comes back anyway then its possible she knows she has an issue but its not something she can help...
Have you seen her outside the gym?...Cause it could be that she rushes to the gym and gets sweaty on the way, and figures there is no point worrying as she is just going to get worse with the work out and she can fix it up after....
I think I would only comment if I saw this person out side gym time in a social occasion and they still had this problem...And then honestly I'd still be stumped on how to bring it up...
Sorry, so not helping here!!!0 -
I don`t know her outside of the gym or before she came in, we just got chatting and she seems a really nice girl.
She doesn`t go to the showers after training.
I have said to her that I have some really nice shower gel that I got as a present and gave her the bottle, but it stayed unopened in the locker room.
The next time I took some perfume to ask what she thought of it and said she could keep it...I really don`t know what to suggest or offer next???
Do I just let it go and not try to help her?0 -
Yeah, I think just let it go, you did try, she just doesn't seem interested...perhaps she has other body issue that makes her uncomfortable having showers in locker rooms, so she does it at home...0
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Twinketta, i assumed you were a guy for some wrong reason XD if you see her in the locker room you must be a girl xD sorry fir the confusion.I don`t know her outside of the gym or before she came in, we just got chatting and she seems a really nice girl.
She doesn`t go to the showers after training.
I have said to her that I have some really nice shower gel that I got as a present and gave her the bottle, but it stayed unopened in the locker room.
The next time I took some perfume to ask what she thought of it and said she could keep it...I really don`t know what to suggest or offer next???
Do I just let it go and not try to help her?
Maybe she showers at home, i never shower at the gym.
Maybe you can use some excuse to tell her that she smells bad, like saying that her clothes aren't smelling too well (instead of saying that it's HER who just doesn't smell clean)...but i wouldn't say anything unless as i said, the smell is absolutely unbearable.
Looks like she's not caring about hygiene at all. Maybe she has some sort of hormone imbalance or skin condition that prevents her from showering?0 -
does she show up in workout cloths? I sometimes run outside, then come to the gym to lift weights, elliptical or swim? I'm pretty sure on those days I walk into the gym smelling bad0
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say a comment like "OMG i smell really bad" and take out your deodorant spray and offer her some. And after your work out say "That was a great work out, lets go have a shower" But if its bearable don't worry about it. You don't see her everyday and she just might use her smelly clothes for the gym0
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"That was a great work out, lets go have a shower"
Hmm that could be taken as a pickup line.:smokin:0 -
I NEVER shower at the gym. And I never will. It makes me icky feeling.
If she's uncomfortable with that, why push it.
What might be fun is for you two to go to Bath and Body works so she can get some nice smelling lotions or gels or something?
If it's not presented to her at the gym maybe she'd use it at home.0 -
That is a tricky situation. I know that my sports bras tend to stink after a lot of use...so I tend to buy new ones every few months...which is annoying...but you do what you gotta do!0
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Next offer her some lotion. Tell her "it rubs the lotion on its skin or else it gets the hose". :devil:I don`t know her outside of the gym or before she came in, we just got chatting and she seems a really nice girl.
She doesn`t go to the showers after training.
I have said to her that I have some really nice shower gel that I got as a present and gave her the bottle, but it stayed unopened in the locker room.
The next time I took some perfume to ask what she thought of it and said she could keep it...I really don`t know what to suggest or offer next???
Do I just let it go and not try to help her?0 -
Perhaps make conversation about something you "just learned". "I just learned that vinegar in the wash or used as a pre-treatment helps remove B.O. from clothes/work out gear. How did I not hear about this sooner?"
"I just bought this new deodorant/anti-perspirant and I hope it works. What do you use?"
Other than that I would have no clue how to bring this up
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Here's a thought: There actually is a perfume that smells like dirty hair. Some women love it. The first time I smelled it was when I was working with an old lady who was a heavy smoker. I just thought she never washed her hair. She always had one of those old-lady perms.
About a year later when walking at a mall I smelled it again. I turned around and only saw women around me but that lady wasn't any where around. It took me several years before I made the connection. I would smell it on some women. Why would a perfume maker bottle that horrendous smell? Can any of you women please answer that question? And why would anyone even think of buying a perfume that smelled of dirty hair?
Maybe that's what your friend is wearing.0 -
Do I just let it go and not try to help her?
I think you should.
I can put on deodorant right before working out, and I still reek. Outside of the gym, I smell just fine. Until you see its a problem in everyday life, just ignore it and become a mouth breather.
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Perhaps make conversation about something you "just learned". "I just learned that vinegar in the wash or used as a pre-treatment helps remove B.O. from clothes/work out gear. How did I not hear about this sooner?"
"I just bought this new deodorant/anti-perspirant and I hope it works. What do you use?"
Other than that I would have no clue how to bring this up
I like this idea. Especially the "what do you use" part.0 -
Provided this is a grown woman and not a little girl she probably already knows. Maybe she doesn't wear deodorant, not everyone wears it (for a variety of reasons). Leave it alone unless she asks. If her smell is offending you don't hang out with her. It's a gym, people get sweaty big deal.0
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Provided this is a grown woman and not a little girl she probably already knows. Maybe she doesn't wear deodorant, not everyone wears it (for a variety of reasons). Leave it alone unless she asks. If her smell is offending you don't hang out with her. It's a gym, people get sweaty big deal.
Yep, this.0 -
This is a very tricky question. I would personally tell her in a way that won't hurt her feelings and not in front of a crowd of people. I remember I was a manager and had to tell a young lady that she smelled. It was difficult and she was a very emotional person but coming from me not just a manager but a personal friend it helped her and she tried different soap and pretty soon her body odor seem to be un noticable. Here is an example what you may say to her:
"Hey (insert name), I noticed since we been working out before you get here, I have been smelling an odor. I don't know if your deodorant gave out but try using (insert name brand here). I am not trying to say this to hurt your feelings and your really awesome to talk to. I have been trying to help you out without saying anything but I want to say this to you as a friend because I care for you and don't want you to be embarrassed when you go out in other places. This is hard for me to say but as a friend, I want to be honest."
Then after that give her suggestions. If it is a female problem, tell her to get it checked out. Offer to go with her to the appt not the exam. Give her suggestions of hygenine products you use. In the end she will thank you because its better if a conversation like that comes from a friend than from a stranger. It will still hurt her feelings but show her that your there for her then maybe after a workout and a shower, go get your nails done!
Hope this helps.0 -
I worked with this guy that had some kind of disease that gave him an odor even right out of the shower. Even though we knew that many people would make fun of him...I actually had to fire one guy.0
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Tell her that you read some deoderants cause cancer. (I guess this is kinda true from what I have read) Tell her you had to switch from so and so kind, and ask her what kind she uses.
My husband sweats something awful. He takes normal showers and wears deoderant, but I can still smell him when he sweats.
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Any advice ???
What does she smell like after the gym? Maybe she showers at the gym, home, bed, work, workout
You always meet her at her smelliest?
You looking to hit that? Meet her for a drink some evening, if she is still stinky, leave it at that. Not for you0 -
I'm sure she knows, it can be just the way she's made, I bet she also sweats a lot more than normal people. I know someone like her, but it's no problem for me.
personally, I don't think you should tell her unless you're that straightforward as a person. to hang out or not to hang out, it's up to you.0 -
Some people have medical conditions where they will have a bad odor no matter what. I'd leave her alone, it's not like you have to get up close and personal with her or anything.0
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i'd wear a clothespin on my nose.
It's subtle and would save my olfactories.0 -
Safegaurd antibactiral soap is what we finally got my son, it has worked wonders for him!0
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sniff sniff, holy crap i stink...sniff sniff...oh wait its you
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