Bouncing back from depression

JerseyGirlHeart
JerseyGirlHeart Posts: 133 Member
edited January 4 in Motivation and Support
There was time where I was almost 15 pounds away from my goal weight, I thought that was impossible, and now I am 50 pounds away from it! Wow! The past few months I have had a lot of crises go on and I threw away my diet and all exercising. I have been active my whole life and never thought I would ever be overweight. When I saw a 26.6 BMI my eyes popped out of my head. I can't live like this any more. I been on and off for three years now but enough is enough. Has anyone else had this? Where you were in the best shape of your life, then BAM!, life happened and you just spiraled downward. I gained 20 pounds in one month. That is disgusting. Joining a gym here soon shortly, I just moved from 5,000 miles away. Thoughts? Advice? Thanks.

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  • wibutterflymagic
    wibutterflymagic Posts: 788 Member
    Well, I think realizing that you need to change is the first positive step. I had been at a point where I was fairly comfortable with my weight(not thin but ok with my weight) and then my mom died and sent me into a spin. I gained 25lbs over the following couple years and that is where I'm currently at. From experience, I know that you aren't going to accomplish anything until you set it in your mind that you really want to change. The point in my life went things started to change was when I also took on a more positive outlook on life. It doesn't have to be just about our weight. Positivity about everything. It is so easy to ***** and moan because something bad or just irritating has happened but that attitude also just puts a dark cloud over you and keeps you fenced in. If you get into a fender bender, be thankful that no one was hurt. Be thankful you have a job, a roof over your head and food on your plate. Don't sweat the little stuff....and everything is little stuff. When I took on this positive thinking everything changed and really helped be dig out of my depression. Celebrate the little victories.
  • ParkerH47
    ParkerH47 Posts: 463 Member
    While I've never been there - neither clinically depressed nor ever at a happy weight - I think that exercising and eating well will absolutely help you heal from your depression. I hope everything turns around for you super soon!

    Good luck, and feel free to add me :)
  • chnkydnknmomma
    chnkydnknmomma Posts: 258
    I've struggled with depression and weight loss/weight gain for many years.
    I lost 17lbs last year, I had joined MFP and a gym and I was looking and feeling great. Some things in my personal life went wrong, and I gave it all up, and now I've gained back 24lbs. I have been eating a lot better, usually under my calorie goal, but I still haven't gone back to the gym because I'm embarassed. Part of me knows that's silly, but part of me just doesn't want to face the women there who were so supportive of me.

    Right now, I'm just trying to stay positive and gain inspiration from everyone here on MFP.

    Good luck to you, and feel free to add me if you like.
  • firelle
    firelle Posts: 118 Member
    I was 5-10 pounds away from my goal weight when I went into college. I'd always been that far apart, but I think a lot of personal stuff (leading to my depression diagnosis) went down, and now I'm 44 away from goal (started with 55, obvs as it says in the ticker). I gained those 40 or so pounds in 3 months. Disgusting. Starting is what gets me going. Looking at myself in the mirror and knowing it's disappearing. Along with all the bad stuff that brought it in the first place. ;)

    Edit: Of course, I always have my moments... (I have anger probs so I'm currently eating M&Ms after an episode) but I just make sure to run it off after. The sweat cheers me up. I push my anger through my workouts =P
  • ShyFeather
    ShyFeather Posts: 138 Member
    I grew up the skinny girl for most of my life. Then four years ago I lost someone really close to me and gave up on myself. I got really unhealthy, but somehow brushed it off because I was so used to being the skinny girl. Then I stepped onto a scale at the doctor's last spring and couldn't believe I was so close to being 200lb. That really turned me around. I've gotten myself back to being the skinny girl again, but I think what I learned more than anything is that I have to start caring about myself again. My future may not be the one I had planned on, but I still have to make the most of what I have. That's still hard for me to do sometime, but I'm working on it :)

    I hope everything works our for you. The gym sounds like a great start, just keep at it.
  • claritarejoice
    claritarejoice Posts: 461 Member
    Yes I have had that happen and I sympathise. Now I still have some of the same painful issues in my life but I am committed to taking care of myself and continuing this health journey no matter what. I know not everyone is spiritual so I am only saying this to share my own story, but personally prayer has been the most important thing that helps me be happy. It is a way to let go of all the stress and the things we can't control. Even non-religious people say that meditation and surrender/letting go is very important for health. When I started changing my inside, I then started having more energy and losing weight without even trying. Being fit is not a chore anymore. I hope this helps. I'll send you a friend request so we can support each other.
  • yourenotmine
    yourenotmine Posts: 645 Member
    I've been struggling with depression myself for quite some time. When I'm not going in to work, it's hard to even get out of bed. But you know, we just have to keep trying. If you'd like to be friends, I'll send you a request, and we can work at supporting each other, maybe. :) I'm also a vegetarian (and I aspire to be a vegan most of the time lol).

    I wish you the best of luck.
  • skinnykris37
    skinnykris37 Posts: 2
    I am very new to MFP. I just read your post and all the responses and WOW I'm in awe that I NOT the only one feeling this way or going through the exact same thing!! I also am dealing with the loss of someone very close and it has me in a very unhealthy eating life style. I have always had weight issues going up and down but I was usually ok with my weight because I had always been active so the weight never got completley out of hand. I am now OUT OF HAND!!! I am trying to be more positive and taking one day at a time for sure! Hoping today is better than yesterday is how Im going to get this weight back under control. Hope everyting gets better for you. Feel free to add me if you'd like. I know I need all the support possible :)
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