How fat you feel vs how you look
MoogieOh
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I find it so hard to know how big I look to other people. Am I huge, or just chubby to them. I can't work it out. I feel so incredibly big, and sometimes I wonder if I'm as big as I make myself feel.. anyone ever feel like this?
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I still feel fat and huge but the other day a coworker told me I was wasting away to nothing. I guess my head will catch up with my body some day.0
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It is definatly a mind game. I have lost 106lbs in a little over 9 months and I feel huge, but when I see before and after pictures I see a difference. I think I have a bit of body dsymorphic disorder. Its hard
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The first time I lost a good chunk of weight - almost 10 years ago. I suffered from the same thing. It's like my mental body image couldn't keep up with the actual body shape I had. It was a dangerous place to be too - because I didn't know how unhealthy I looked either.
Try spending a few minutes each day really noticing yourself in the mirror (full length if you have one). Start at the top and work your way down and either mentally, or verbally, comment on something positive about each body part.
ie. - Great hair day today. Hey, I have a really great jaw line. My arms are strong. etc.0 -
I just wish I could see myself from another persons body so I could have a better perspective. If you think you have BDD you should seek help
And stay away from mirrors, because they make it worse 0 -
The first time I lost a good chunk of weight - almost 10 years ago. I suffered from the same thing. It's like my mental body image couldn't keep up with the actual body shape I had. It was a dangerous place to be too - because I didn't know how unhealthy I looked either.
Try spending a few minutes each day really noticing yourself in the mirror (full length if you have one). Start at the top and work your way down and either mentally, or verbally, comment on something positive about each body part.
ie. - Great hair day today. Hey, I have a really great jaw line. My arms are strong. etc.
I usually do do this, but when I got out in public I start feeling horrible0 -
I feel that way quite a bit, and I have to step back and look at myself objectively which is very hard for me. I've been through counseling for it (many issues stem from a verbally abusive dad) which has really helped, but some days are still bad. Comparison pictures really help, and looking at other women who are at a similar height and weight reminds me that I'm not as huge as I imagine myself to be.0
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Yes to all of the above!! I have noticed that the best way to see yourself through the eyes of others is through a camera lens. (I need to update my picture because that was over 20 pounds ago...) Seriously, when I was at my starting weight, I knew I needed to lose weight but I never "saw" myself all that big. I thought the clothes not fitting wasn't a big deal because there was always a way to manipulate them, and buying a little bit bigger (and wearing them tight) worked too.
I've had very few pictures taken of myself in my lifetime period. Regardless of my weight, I've always had a very low self-esteem. So, I've never showed myself to others who couldn't see me in person. However, I've learned recently that my husband has snuck a lot of photos of me in the past from his cellphone when I didn't know he was taking them.
Now that I've lost some weight, I suddenly see myself as the big girl I was. I feel I look bigger in size 10 jeans that are now too loose than I did in 16Ws. So now I have my husband take photos here and there and I compare. When I look back at the pictures from the beginning, I can't believe I was so big! I never saw it before! Seeing the photos now is such a difference and it really, really helps!!! Sorry to make a short answer so long!0 -
I feel the same way. Everyone comments on how "skinny" I am but i still feel like that 220 pound girl I was 7 months ago. I hope i don't feel this way forever0
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I can relate. I feel like the fattest person in the world, sometimes I worry that people judge me and think I'm soo fat so I hate going out in public now. They say it's all in my head but I have to disagree. I don't think this is exactly a normal thing and I hope to take these feelings away.
Look in the mirror and find something beautiful about you, we tend to always focus on the negatives but instead change that view around into something positive. You are here to improve your body and that's what is important.0 -
I constantly feel heavier than I am. Always had this issue. =/
Edited because I feel I originally shared significantly more than I am comfortable with.0 -
look at pictures and cover your face... than compare to other pics and cover the faces... at some point you will see yourself objectively because the face is what you recognize. If nothing else, you can see the changes you've made. You can look at pics of someone you think looks good and do a side by side with no faces and you'll see it much closer to how it is and not how you think it is.0
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I have made a lot of progress since I started my weight loss this summer. My endurance is to the roof. At first I couldn't keep up on the spinning bike, now I can. I couldn't walk 1 hours without whining about back pain, now I can do hiking for 2 hours, with my niece in my arms from time to time.
I feel the results. But I can't see them much. I mean I got proof : had to add 3 extra holes in my belt. I know they're there. But I just start to notice my belly and my face are going thinner. But people notice, and encourage me, so I just believe them
In 8 lbs, I'll weigh exactly 299.9 lbs. It would probably be a good idea to do a picture comparison between now and when I first started at 345 lbs.
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I've still got 20kg to go (40lb) and I've lost 20kg already. I still feel I look as bad as when I started even with photos that I compare with and can see the difference. It's kinda sad because I actually felt more confident then compared to now. My biggest problem is I feel my arms are so out of proportion to the rest of me. I feel like the rest of my body I am comfortable with, and then I have these huge arms that just don't fit and it makes me feel horrible.0
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I can relate to this. After being over weight a good portion of my life...I find it hard at times to realize how much I've actually lost. I think is probably one of the hardest things for me to get straight in my head. I still feel like I need to lose 50 more lbs (even though I know I don't only want to lose 20). And it doesn't help when you have people tell you "Oh you're small enough, don't lose more" or "You might just not be able to be small". Ugh...0
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I always feel big. I feel overweight. Thing is I always hear how great I look. I have worked hard for it... hopefull I will be able to see myself as they see me. Its a tough thing when we have gotten used to being how we were. Much love.0
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I just wish I could see myself from another persons body so I could have a better perspective. If you think you have BDD you should seek help And stay away from mirrors, because they make it worse
This I always wished I could see myself through someone else's eyes!! That would be better then any mirror any day lol0 -
i feel like this on a daily basis... but i also think i look way bigger than i actually am. lol0
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Some of my biggest motivators were seeing video of myself from home movies around Christmas time. I always "pose" for pictures, and I'm looking at myself dead-on in the mirror, but something about video and all the angles really does it for me. I don't see myself, I see "that chubby dude".
Try video. That's what I'm saying. You might like what you see!0 -
Some of my biggest motivators were seeing video of myself from home movies around Christmas time. I always "pose" for pictures, and I'm looking at myself dead-on in the mirror, but something about video and all the angles really does it for me. I don't see myself, I see "that chubby dude".
Try video. That's what I'm saying. You might like what you see!
I might try this, thanks 0 -
I feel huge. I have a large frame and I'm 6ft 2, so the extra weight makes me look.. oh God0
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I had it the other way around. I was thin for the majority of my life. Between skinny and thin. So when I started getting treated like a fat person, I was like, wow, I'm not THAT big, why am I getting treated this way? Then I started to see myself in full length mirrors in hotels, (I never owned mirrors), or weigh myself at the doctor, or... the tv at the bank... ugh, I look so gross on the tv at the bank, and I realized, I am getting treated like a fat person because I *AM* a fat person. And yes, it is one of the last acceptable prejudices society has. I've recognized it and now I need to stop it and reverse it, and I'm sad and embarrassed that I let this happen.0
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shopping makes me feel huge. everything is designed for twiglets these days.
i know that i'm not huge, but i often feel it!0 -
i still felt big untill I put my before n now pictures together (still a bit to go and then TONE TONE TONE lol) <<<< you should do it you will prob be amazed
I dont feel thin n fit but I feel a lot better and not massive anymore x0 -
That is entirely dependent on the choices I make that day. For example I usually eat light and stay active so I usually feel pretty lean and mean. However, after this past Thanksgiving (or anytime I stuff myself) I feel like a big fatty. One of the reasons I think it's important to eat healthy.0
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I think I have the opposite situation to most people here. Walking around I feel fine and when I look in the mirror I don't feel so bad; my clothes are pretty much falling off me because I've lost so much weight. My problem is when I have my picture taken, I think that I look huge and that I look the biggest I've ever been.
I've never been a fan of having my photo taken, but recently my dislike of how I look in photos seems to have rocketed until I can barely look at them as it's too painful!
Perfect example was yesterday when I bought a dress for an event next year which I didn't know would fit me (bought it online) and when I got home, it did indeed fit. I was so happy I asked my partner to take a photo so I could text it to my friend. But when I looked at the picture I was devastated as I felt that I looked like an overweight granny!!!
Never sent the photo, and now I'm doubting whether or not I should keep the dress! 0 -
I still see Me from a few months ago not the lighter version that I'm told I am today. We're our biggest critic and as with most things in life it's a mental barrier to get passed. Once you see it there will be no stopping you, or so I'm told. Keep on trucking0
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I find it so hard to know how big I look to other people. Am I huge, or just chubby to them. I can't work it out. I feel so incredibly big, and sometimes I wonder if I'm as big as I make myself feel.. anyone ever feel like this?
I dont think it matters what other people think... you should be doing it for you and how you feel... who cares about anyone else... there will always be someone thinner, fitter, fatter, prettier, whateverer than you... but who cares!0 -
I find it so hard to know how big I look to other people. Am I huge, or just chubby to them. I can't work it out. I feel so incredibly big, and sometimes I wonder if I'm as big as I make myself feel.. anyone ever feel like this?
Yupp, ALL.THE.TIME! Being a tall girl (just under 6") with all my friends just topping 5" with nice slimm figures I always feel extremely big and huge, like a giant towering over them.. They would never say anything, even if I bring it up and mention it, they would always say I don't look fat and that I am tall and carrying it well bladibladibla.. they are my friends, they have to ;-)
But with other people, I dunno if anyone really stops and thinks "look at her" - don't think I am THAT big to be noticed, and there are bigger people out there.. and I guess I don't care much about what other people think too much anyway - I just try and feel better in myself, who are they to judge? Do they know how much I lost already? Do they know how hard I hit the gym lately? How dare they judge me?? :-) So I don't (try not to) care about those 'other people' anymore.. :-)
Try and find happyness within yourself - love yourself and your body and all the positive changes you are going through! And your friends love you no matter how you look - they just know the real you already!0 -
I find it so hard to know how big I look to other people. Am I huge, or just chubby to them. I can't work it out. I feel so incredibly big, and sometimes I wonder if I'm as big as I make myself feel.. anyone ever feel like this?
I dont think it matters what other people think... you should be doing it for you and how you feel... who cares about anyone else... there will always be someone thinner, fitter, fatter, prettier, whateverer than you... but who cares!
It's not about what people think about me in a judgemental sense. It's more I can't tell how I would look to others, so it's hard to put into perspective how big or small you may be.
I'm also just shy of 6" like others have said. It's frustrating because you're tall and heavy, and it just doesn't look too great0
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