Does anyone else feel like this?

KrayKira
KrayKira Posts: 230 Member
edited January 5 in Motivation and Support
I am 22 years old and I am finally the smallest I have been in Many Many years even at 16 I was bigger..
I'm 117kg now and I weighed 148kg back in January 2011 so I know I have lost weight and I have dropped from a size Squeezed into a 26 to a 16-18 now *I'm tall* my goal weight is 80kg but lately I have found that I have been getting really upset every time someone compliments my weight loss or looks.. I cannot take a compliment to save my life lately.. I feel like I am so much bigger then I am.. It's getting to the stage I cry and everything whenever someone mentions it..

Does anyone ever feel like this?
Any suggestions on what I can possible do?

Sorry for lots of writing and I hope this is in the right bit..

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  • NJL13500
    NJL13500 Posts: 433 Member
    I so know how you feel. I can't seem to lose my last few pounds and it's so frustrating. I started MFP in February busting out of my size 12 clothes (I really should have worn a 14) and have made it down to a 2/4 after losing 55 pounds. At my highest weight I wore an 18/20 and was 96 pounds heavier. I know in my head that I've come a long way, but I can't help feeling angry with myself that I can't lose the last 4 pounds to get me down to 100 lost and that I feel like all of my clothes should be a size 2.

    When someone gives me a compliment it just reminds me of what I feel like I have left to do. I see what is wrong with the way I look instead of what is good. I don't really see myself the way that I look now. I still see the woman who weighed 190 pounds in February. I usually can see my "true shape" in pictures only. I don't know why this is and I actually talked to my therapist about it yesterday.

    I just wanted you to know that you are not alone and that weight loss is a very emotional process for everyone. You are not the only one feeling the way you do.
  • KrayKira
    KrayKira Posts: 230 Member
    Size 12 here in Australia is tiny! Does that make you feel better lol

    And thanks it makes me feel a bit better knowing I'm not alone..
  • NJL13500
    NJL13500 Posts: 433 Member
    A converter says that a US 4 is an Australian 8. That's my current size and that's what I mean about not just being glad for what I have accomplished and seeing myself as "small". And it is so funny that you used the word "tiny". That's what my therapist called me yesterday. ;-)

    Unfortunately for me I think it will take losing those last 4 pounds to make me feel better, but thank you for your kind words.

    And you are definitely NOT alone even if you don't get a ton of responses. Like I said before it is a very emotional and sometimes private and embarrassing subject.
  • KrayKira
    KrayKira Posts: 230 Member
    55 Pounds is AMAZING though :)
    Very awesome that you managed that..
  • JesterMFP
    JesterMFP Posts: 3,596 Member
    It's actually very normal to feel like this. Lots of people who lose a lot of weight find it hard to really see the difference in themselves. I think it takes the brain some time to catch up. Have you taken any progress pictures? I find I can see how much I've lost much more easily in photos than looking in the mirror. Looking in the mirror, I feel I look the same as I always did, but looking at photos, I can see a massive difference.

    The other thing is just to give it time. It does get better. Other people can see the changes, so try to take those compliments, and just be patient. In time, you'll be able to see it too!
  • KrayKira
    KrayKira Posts: 230 Member
    Yes I take progress pictures and I can see the difference but I don't see it as much as others say there are changes..
    Does that make sense
  • Heather_Rider
    Heather_Rider Posts: 1,159 Member
    OP - you look like Katy Perry!! :heart:
  • harvo
    harvo Posts: 4,676 Member
    So my question is...what is it going to take for you to accept the admiration from other people and when are you going to be happy with what you have worked your *kitten* of, literally, for?
  • Cupcakehippiemommy
    Cupcakehippiemommy Posts: 457 Member
    Totally know where you are coming from it almost feels like you don't realize how you have changed until you A. See progress pics B.Look in the mirror or C. Try on old clothes.

    It is going to take your mind time to get used to the new you,my mistake the last time I lost weight (around your age actually) was that I took all the little things for granted.Like fitting comfortably in a theater seat,walking up steps without getting winded,not having to stretch out clothes when they came out of the dryer, etc.

    I have kept an old pair of pants and I keep them hanging in my closet just as a physical reminder to not take this weight loss for granted and keep going.

    As long as you don't let self doubt sabotage your hard work you will be fine doll! Stay strong and keep going <3 Good luck cupcake!
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    I have no idea what any of those numbers mean, but I feel like this so often. Its hilarious to see me turning sideways and walking around furniture and squeezing through spaces that are far far far wider than I am - but there I am, making wide turns for the body I no longer have.

    Losing weight too fast can cause this disconnect. But losing weight at any pace can cause it, especially if you spent years of your life looking like a completely different shape. Believe me, I can guarantee you without a doubt that my own parents would not recognize me on the street.

    But it is something that is actually enjoyable to work out.

    Go to the source. Get to yourself in your new body. How?

    By exercising with it.
    By spending copious amounts of time doing what you love to do (healthy things, not hookers and blow).
    Shopping.
    Allowing yourself to play in front of the mirror for an hour with a camera and checking out all your sexy new angles and curves - HEALTHY AND FORCES YOUR BRAIN TO SEE THE BEAUTIFUL! and not stay stuck in that loop where you honestly believe that accepting a compliment, or thinking of yourself with anything other than complete and pure humility and shame, is disgraceful.

    It isnt.

    We are the top of the food chain and as we become more and more strong and lean and quick and deadly... we become lovelier and lovelier creatures...

    stand up and roar my darling.

    LIKE A BEAST!!!!!! (not a formerly chubby girl with spatial issues :heart:)
  • nixirain
    nixirain Posts: 448 Member
    I know exactly how you feel! I dropped 70lbs in 7 months many years ago. I went from a US 12/14 to a US 00. Because I lost the weight so quickly I didn't have time to get used to my new body and I was more self conscious after losing the weight then I was before.

    Granted, I was way too thin and had no idea what I was doing at the time and I have been struggling up until now. I know now this is because I didn't take the time to figure out what I should do maintain the weight loss as a life style and the fact I lost too much weight to damn fast!

    My best advise is if you are at goal make sure you find what you can do comfortably for the rest of your life. If what you are eating/doing to lose weight isn't sustainable for the rest of your life, then you need to figure out what will be.

    If you are not at goal, then do the same thing. Once you are closer to goal it will not feel like all these changes are coming that you have to deal with.

    Focusing on numbers will drive you insane, trust me! I was almost addicted to losing weight and getting smaller. You should not have a number define you for the rest of your life!! Like, I like the way I look in a size 2, but if I get to a size 6 and by body fat is really low and I am rock hard, guess what? I will be OK with a size 6.
  • KrayKira
    KrayKira Posts: 230 Member
    OP - you look like Katy Perry!! :heart:

    Wow - your sweet
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