Deleting Friends....

I wouldn't delete them, every time you see one of those messages, just think 'thats not going to be me', let it make you stronger! Good luck with your weight loss, you are doing fab xxxx

When I came to this site, I was choosing friends according their weight goals - I wanted to have friends how started the same time with me , with the same goal I have ( loss of weight more than 30 pounds ) ....Now, I have some friends, who did not log in for a month...I see those messages, send them e - mail trying to get them back....What do you think about deliting friends who does not log in for a while and does not have any weight loss - I do not want to be rude, but when I see it, it discourages me... I do not want to be one of them... need your suggestions....

I have mixed emotions... part of me knows exactly what you mean about it discouraging you. I feel the same way. Then there's the part of me that remembers that I was gone for several months and what a comfort it was to have friends who hadn't given up on me... they were glad to see me back.

I have a hard time with some of the people who do log on all the time and are really negative... that's discouraging for me. In one way I want to be there for them - in another, it's hard to ALWAYS be the one lifting them up... ya know?

I have a hard time with some of the people who do log on all the time and are really negative... that's discouraging for me. In one way I want to be there for them - in another, it's hard to ALWAYS be the one lifting them up... ya know?

Ditto.

About deleting the people who've been gone -- I haven't. I have probably 20 people on my friends list I get those messages for. Every time one pops up, I comment on it so that it sends them an email -- something along the lines of "We miss you!" or "Come back to us!"
Sometimes I see them come back which makes me feel really good -- like maybe I actually helped someone who was going to stay content with falling "off the wagon" (whatever wagon it is -- the being healhy wagon, I guess) and staying off. Sometimes they don't. :ohwell: If they don't come back, I just think "Yay, me! I'm still here!" & then post a little encouragement for them every time I see one of their "___ has not logged on for ___" posts.