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Parents are being really bad support?

LizzyBeth11x
Posts: 7
So, I live with my parents (Planning to move out soon, though, if everything goes well
), and for the most part of the day I don't see them, but when I do, they'll mock me for trying to eat healthy, and for being a vegetarian, too. They're both "crash" dieters, going from overweight to normal (and vice versa) in short periods of time, via "healthy" (as they call it) methods. These "healthy" methods involve rarely eating, and when they do eat, it's chips, or they'll get calories by drinking cheap beer. Once they lose weight, they'll go back to their old ways, of stuffing their faces with junk, and drinking loads of beer. Thus, gaining weight back, whining about it, and then living off of chips and beer for the next month.
Honestly, it's annoying, and confusing. They're both weight-obsessed, fat-hating people, so you would think they would be happy, even encouraging, towards their chubby daughter trying to lose weight? But, no. They mock my dieting, AND my weight. I don't get it!! I've been looking for apartments recently, and I have this one friend who I could be possible roommates with (meaning I can get out of this dump quicker), but it's going to still be a decent length of time before I move out. Until then, I'm going to have to put with my parent's constant mockery.
It's not the mockery itself- it's the question "Why?" that's worse. I just don't get it. Does anyone else know anyone like this? Why do they act like this? If anyone has any answers, please tell me. I'm just sick of my parents senseless mean comments towards my attempts at a healthy lifestyle. This isn't the first time they've been mean at me for doing something I thought would've pleased them, and I'm beginning to think they're just hateful people who are looking to hate on whatever they can.

Honestly, it's annoying, and confusing. They're both weight-obsessed, fat-hating people, so you would think they would be happy, even encouraging, towards their chubby daughter trying to lose weight? But, no. They mock my dieting, AND my weight. I don't get it!! I've been looking for apartments recently, and I have this one friend who I could be possible roommates with (meaning I can get out of this dump quicker), but it's going to still be a decent length of time before I move out. Until then, I'm going to have to put with my parent's constant mockery.

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Your parents are haters.
Seriously. You're doing something the way it should be done: smart, with patience, and healthy. They want the quick fix, as do most people. Many many people have been on "diets" and do fads, and your parents don't want you one-upping them because you probably WILL see results. For all you know, worst-case (but probable), they will then ridicule or find a way to target you when you DO lose the weight.
It sucks, I've seen it happen to many people, but it's one of those things you've just got to grin and bear. They'll win if you let them.
ps. I just saw that you said that you thought things that would please them only make them commit this childish behavior more. Do it for yourself. Not their satisfaction.0 -
If you can't please them, please yourself. Do this for YOU. We don't pick our family, so sometimes we got handed a band hand(I'm lucky, I have wonderful parents/family), don't acknowledge them any more than you have to. Once you get out, it is your choice what type of relationship you want to have with them, but until then, this is your journey to get healthy, not theirs!0
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Forget for a moment that they are your parents and just think of them as regular bullies. Bullies try to bring you down to their level to make themselves feel better. Their weight and diet is out of control and they cant stand to see you committing to something- and have it work. Ignore them. Worst case scenario, ask them why they hate fat people so much when they are a perfect example?0
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My whole family made it difficult for me to lose weight. Everything i tried was mocked. I finally decided on surgery and have lost 110 lbs. Now everyone tells me to stop losing weight. Im getting to skinny. I can't win with these people. Ive learned to just smile and walk away. I know where i want to be and im going to get there. With or without them. Suck it up and make you happy.0
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