embarassing tummy question

Doing all the tummy exercises in the world wont make it go away... you just need to lose body fat every where. The best way to do this is with a moderate deficit (i prefer 20% less than tdee) and a workout regime that consist of weight training and some cardio (HIIT is even better). Also, i suggest 35% carbs, 40% protein and 25% fats as it is helpful in allowing your body to get nutrients. Additionally, the most important thing is.... time. It may take months or even a year to get low enough body fat to get rid of the stomach. If all that doesn't work, then you have to look at your weight and lean body mass. If you lost a lot of lbm then you might have to bulk to add back some to fill in your skin.

You need some fat in your diet.
Wheat tends to make my belly look much bigger, I think I have a bit of a wheat intolerance. You might check into the book "Wheat Belly" or just do some research online about it.

Like it was said before, the exercises wont help that much, yes your abdominals will be stronger, but it really means nothing if there is fat covering them and hiding them away.
A good HIIT (High Intensity Interval Training) programme will be great for torching fat, couple with some resistance training (as a female, testosterone levels will not be high enough for you to put on too much muscle mass)
and then eating better is a given here.
I tend to aim for around 55g fat total for the day, but i am very active for my job and workout 4 times a week so can get away with having more if i needed.
Staple of my diet really is
Chicken, Brown rice & broccoli.
I love it, cant eat it every night but its one i can eat often

hope this info helps!

I had the same question early on and wondered what the use was to bother losing the weight if I was still going to have an ugly tummy.

Your health is very important. Take off the weight reasonably and exercise to ensure that you are building muscles. Lifting weights helped me significantly reduce the "sag". Yes I'll always have a bit of an "elephant butt" on my gut, but it won't be as bad as it could have been. The sag on my arms and my breasts has gone. I am just fighting a few trouble areas.

Stick with it. You may be surprised what you can do with proper diet, lifting and moderate cardio.
Good luck!!

Losing weight slowly and in a healthy manner with lots of exercise will help reduce the excess skin. But some may never go away. I've lots 75 pounds and have a pouch that gets smaller every year but I don't think it will ever go away. As you say, financially, surgery isn't an option. But it does get smaller each year with exercise and sticking to a healthy lifestyle. So, the answer is mostly no - it won't go away completely away, depending on how much you have to lose.

I hope this doesn't sound too harsh. My advice, based on many years of similar struggles, is this: Eat right, exercise reasonably - however is sustainable and most pleasant for your personality and your life - and get yourself to as healthy a weight as possible. Other than that -- don't worry about your body shape because you can't change it, it doesn't matter, and it's boring. If this is hard, rest assured it does get easier as you get older. Do some volunteer work if you need some help focusing on what's really important in the world. I wish you luck and health and peace.

agreed, however you can change your body shape, around 2 years ago i was an Ectomorph (very skinny, low muscle mass) and now after some hard work, fell off track for about 6 months then im back in it now, i have achieved moving into the Meso/Ecto bracket (More muscle mass, wider shoulders, more athletic appearance) so it is possible to change, just depends on how much you want it and how high you get your metabolism to work at.

"If you want something bad enough you will find a way, if not you will find an excuse"

whats tdee please and 25% fat sounds like loads, I thought I should avoid fat?? Forgive me I'm a newbie! )

Tdee is total daily energy expended or the total number of calorie a person will burn throughout the day. Essentially, the amount of calories you burn through your metabolism, daily life and exercise. Post your height weight age job/lifestyle and exercise routine and i can run some numbers.

Good information here.