People suck - major confidence hit

Was she asian? Unfortunately, in a lot of asian cultures, that's perfectly acceptable to say... I'm looking at you, Korea.

Ohmigosh, I am so sorry this happened to you. What a jerk.

Please don't be so hard on yourself and stop listening to all of those rude people (I know it's easier said than done). You CAN do this. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Hugs!

People do suck. I'm sorry she hurt your feelings. I have had mine hurt a time or two also. I would call the salon and talk to the manager, if for no other reason than to spare someone else from the pain you felt.

Sorry to hear that, very rude thing to say. Best thing you could do is to use that as motivation.

Too bad the news doesn't report on stupidity being a global epidemic.

My dad paraphrases Lincoln's phrase: Best to keep your mouth shut and be thought a fool then open it and remove all doubt.

Hang in there, and don't let the fools derail you!

I would echo the question as to whether or not the masseuse was Asian. It is culturally acceptable to comment on people's apperance, body, and other traits as matter-of-fact. It's not intended to insult. At the same time, it's perplexing how it is that Westerners are expected to comply with non-Western cultures when we visit or live in them, but others seem to have no such expectation when visiting or living in ours.

P.S. another culture where using physical attributes to describe someone is acceptable is Mexican culture... To say someone is "gordo" (fat) is not an insult, it's just a fact. For example: "Who gave that to you? Michael did. Who's Michael? Oh, he's the fat guy in our Algebra class.' It's not a insult on Michael, it's just the easiest way to describe him.

But you know what...you're here today, doing the right thing. Do not think about it any more.

Hugs to you!

I was going to say the same thing.

I once was wearing a baby doll maxi dress to work and after helping out this one asian lady for almost half hour she turned to me and was like how far along are you?
My jaw almost hit the floor, i have never had anyone EVER say that to me before
Her daughter turned to her and was like "Mother you cant talk to people like that here"

When I was getting measured for a bridesmaid dress the Asian women measuring me told me "It's good that you fat all over. You proportional." This was a good thing because my dress needed less alterations.

I would guess the comment was in part due to cultural reasons...not just Asian.
Im first generation Canadian & my grandmother is SUPER European (came to the Western world after age 35)- its very normal for people 50+ (not born here) to seem to lack TACT, at the bare minimum & say whatever comes to their minds.

My own grandmother has casually told me I was getting fat...ha. Ive heard women comment about their husbands not getting it up anymore, that persons haircut is bad, etc. TOTALLY cringeworthy. While I understand its accepted & normal for some people to talk bluntly, & its NOT meant from the point of trying to be malicious - its still super hurtful

I know its hard, but try to shake it off. Clearly that person is lacking a few things upstairs or is at least not on the same wavelength as most people. Keep working hard at your goals & try to brush off these type of things, though I know its hard. All the best!

Hey honey!

Don't you let what other people say or even think get you down. They don't know where you've been OR what you've been doing to accomplish your goals.
I have the same problem. I have average face, arms, and legs except where the extra skin likes to "hang out." :ohwell: I have a lot of "fluff" still left in the middle. :indifferent:
I just always keep in mind that I'm doing the best I can. I have come a LONG ways and I still have some ways to go.

Keep your head up. *SMILE* all the time! Have FUN! :bigsmile: Eat your daily required calories and keep a normal fitness routine and you will see the weight melt off. Not eating causes the weight to STAY ON. So eat! Eat! EAT!

*HUGS* You keep doing your best honey!

Sara

I would call that salon and tell the manager what happened. Ask for your money back and tell her you'll be letting all your friends know how horrible their service is.

I agree. I have worked as an English teacher in the Arab world, and it's very important when you work with people of other cultures to know what is and is not appropriate in the culture that you're working in. The manager needs to be aware of this so he or she can stop this person from offending more customers and maybe give cultural sensitivity training to all the staff.

Plus the fact that the comment ruined your experience so you deserve to get your money back. (make sure you say that in no uncertain terms)

Also, I'd write rather than call. A letter tends to have more impact than a call or an email.