How do I say "NO"?

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  • JohnMessmer
    JohnMessmer Posts: 536
    Tell the truth, in a round about way "No thanks, I have a low tolerance for sugar"; which is true because if you eat it your body will have a reaction that resembles swelling only doesn't go away as quickly.
  • dare2love81
    dare2love81 Posts: 928 Member
    Easy. No. See?
  • seehawkmomma
    seehawkmomma Posts: 815
    Bring something of your own to the pot luck to eat :)
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    I say no....then I create a "forum discussion" in the break room about why people are SO MEAN.....

    and label various people in the lunch room as bullies...

    works everytime.
  • hiker359
    hiker359 Posts: 577 Member
    No.

    If they press:

    "No, thank you!"
  • vim_n_vigor
    vim_n_vigor Posts: 4,089 Member
    I teach my kids to say no thank you. I assume it works for adults too. They don't need to offer an explanation.
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    pepper spray \m/
  • melmckay99
    melmckay99 Posts: 358
    But people are always going to ask WHY when you turn down double chocolate, oreo cheesecake. What person in their right mind could say NO to that?

    I would love to just say "no thank you", but it is always followed up with "Why?", hence the need to justify it.

    Anyways, I don't let it get to me that much, was just curious how other people dealt with it. I am just gonna stick with my guns and keep up my healthy front. Eventually people will just classify me as the healthy chick at work and then maybe they will just stop offering!
  • puddy29
    puddy29 Posts: 77
    simply say no thank you polite and to the point
  • Bevkus
    Bevkus Posts: 274 Member
    Tell the truth, in a round about way "No thanks, I have a low tolerance for sugar"; which is true because if you eat it your body will have a reaction that resembles swelling only doesn't go away as quickly.

    This is brilliant. Thank you

    For all those people who say to just say "no thanks" and can do that with out feeling guilty or sorry or what have you...applause to you. I wish life were as simple as that...LOL...but maybe I should have said: I wish I didnt make life so complicated for myself.
  • keem88
    keem88 Posts: 1,689 Member
    if you say yes to everything, then you could end up with a health problem.
    just politely decline and say you aren't big on that kind of food
  • OtiWanKenobi
    OtiWanKenobi Posts: 340 Member
    I always say "Yeah ok, thank you...I just have to finish such and such" or "Sure, I'll grab some after I get back from lunch or whatever"....then they leave you alone and forget all about it. 99% of the time they don't even realize I haven't touched their food or treat.

    I also have co-workers who like to put stuff on my desk. When that happens it goes directly in the garbage. So when they ask me if I ate it...I say "oh yeah, it was yummy, thank you for thinking of me"

    I do all this because like you I have co-workers who are nosy and if I say I can't or "no" they want answers and I just frankly don't have the time nor want to give answers.
  • imhungry2012
    imhungry2012 Posts: 240 Member
    My boyfriends mom used to make me feel uncomfortable about watching what I ate when I would pick and choose what I ate at a dinner at her house (repsectfully of course) or when I subbed sides at restaraunts for fruits/veggies but then I finally just told her that I don't feel good when I eat them...once I made it about how I felt she kind of got it, it really is more about how I feel than watching what I eat all of the time...a side of greasy hashbrowns at breakfast makes my stomach feel like crap the whole day now! I LIKE HEALTHY FOOD, there is nothing wrong with that :)
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    But people are always going to ask WHY when you turn down double chocolate, oreo cheesecake. What person in their right mind could say NO to that?

    I would love to just say "no thank you", but it is always followed up with "Why?", hence the need to justify it.

    Anyways, I don't let it get to me that much, was just curious how other people dealt with it. I am just gonna stick with my guns and keep up my healthy front. Eventually people will just classify me as the healthy chick at work and then maybe they will just stop offering!

    you never have to justify yourself.

    just say no thank you...and smile..

    if they ask why, you just repeat...no thank you and smile...

    you NEVER have to justify and quite frankly if they have the cajones to ask you why, they are willing to argue with you to make you take some....

    so don't open that door.
  • katejkelley
    katejkelley Posts: 839 Member
    I usually say, "No, thank you. It looks delicious, but I'm staying away from sugar." Many assume I'm diabetic and don't push. I'm not diabetic, but I don't feel the need to elaborate.
  • mustgetmuscles1
    mustgetmuscles1 Posts: 3,346 Member
    My wife takes it all home and we feed it to our chickens. Then we get eggs.
  • wolfchild59
    wolfchild59 Posts: 2,608 Member
    Just remember that "No." is a complete sentence. You don't owe anyone any additional explanation beyond the no if you don't want to give it.

    If you still feel like you do, just say "No thank you, I'm being careful about what I eat right now. But I really appreciate the offer."

    If they still try to force something on you after that, well...they're jerks, first off. But if they do, just laugh and say "Really, I appreciate it, but go ahead and offer my piece/portion/whatever to someone else that will really enjoy it."

    The exception to this is if something gets left at my desk while I'm not around. Then I offer it to one of the people on my team with either kids at home that would enjoy it or a woman that likes taking extra treats home to her husband. (mine works in the same office as I do and usually gets the same randomly left treats)
  • mk_hammer
    mk_hammer Posts: 105
    Try not to obsess over it. Just politely decline. If they insist on you telling them why, just be honest! "No, thanks. I'm counting calories." Who cares what they think? F**k 'em. Seriously.

    I've found it helpful to tell my close coworkers that I'm counting calories. Most people tend to be supportive of that. If they're not, it's nothing a swift roundhouse kick to the face won't fix. :wink:
  • mustgetmuscles1
    mustgetmuscles1 Posts: 3,346 Member
    Oops double post for some reason
  • 1258936
    1258936 Posts: 115 Member
    If the "No thank you" doesn't work and they tell you "OH NO YOU SIMPLY MUST!" ...take whatever it is they're offering and either take it home or pitch it in the garbage. Sometimes people can be very dense socially, it's easier just to accept whatever it is they're trying to push on you than to try to explain to them that you have certain dietary needs, restrictions, or goals.
    That is what I do!

    Also, before I allowed my baby to have solid food ppl would always try and give her some (Because she was watching them intently and therefore must be hungry) and eventually I just started telling ppl she can't have that b/c it will give her diarrhea. That is very effective. No more probs after that.
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    1) accept
    2) take a bite in their presence
    3) spit it out immediately, with much drama
    4) make any of these faces:

    Calvin.jpg

    5) scream, "What are you trying to do?! Kill me?!!"

    problem solved. forever.
  • kimmymayhall
    kimmymayhall Posts: 419 Member
    Be courteous, say no thanks. Dunno why people need to justfy things.

    "no thanks im trying to lose weight/be healthy/blah blah blah"

    You just sound pompous and ungrateful.
    "No, thank you." should be enough.
    If pressed, "I don't want any (right now.)" should get the point accross.
    Most people do not care why/why not and it's not worth getting into the details.
    If someone really wants to press you beyond these two simple responses, they better be ready for a full blown explanation.
  • chocl8girl
    chocl8girl Posts: 1,968 Member
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  • bridgelene
    bridgelene Posts: 358 Member
    Just tell them "No thank you" or "I'm not really hungry right now".

    Or just take a little taste of things. Maybe share a cookie with someone or take a small sliver of cake. Choose a few things you want to have and just have a bit of those.

    Or, get some exercise in before going to gatherings so you have some extra calories to play around with.

    Okay.....this person said exactly what I was going to :)
  • BeDawn
    BeDawn Posts: 56 Member
    Tell the truth, in a round about way "No thanks, I have a low tolerance for sugar"; which is true because if you eat it your body will have a reaction that resembles swelling only doesn't go away as quickly.

    Perfect. I am using this. I know a few people who mean well, but totally push junk food at gatherings.
  • MiloBloom83
    MiloBloom83 Posts: 2,724 Member
    I say no....then I create a "forum discussion" in the break room about why people are SO MEAN.....

    and label various people in the lunch room as bullies...

    works everytime.

    WIN
  • cebreisch
    cebreisch Posts: 1,340 Member
    "No thanks, I already ate..." or "No thanks, I'm not hungry..."

    Someone on MFP said something to the effect of, "No thanks - I'm a compulsive overeater...I can't control myself around food...it's like an alcoholic with alcohol...so, I'd rather not." (I LOVE IT!)

    "No thanks, I'm allergic to everything..." or "No thanks, I'm allergic to stuff I don't make or don't know how it was made..."

    "No thanks, it's not program friendly..." or "No thanks, it's too expensive for the food journal..." or "No thanks, my food journal may have an annurism (or explode) if I have that..."

    "No thanks....I'm saving all the bad stuff for everyone else..."

    Recurrant theme here....."NO"

    :) Good luck!
  • taiyola
    taiyola Posts: 964 Member
    The problem is that most people will say "oh, go on, it's just one/just Xmas!" etc.

    If you don't want it, don't have it. :/
  • cebreisch
    cebreisch Posts: 1,340 Member
    1) accept
    2) take a bite in their presence
    3) spit it out immediately, with much drama
    4) make any of these faces:

    Calvin.jpg

    5) scream, "What are you trying to do?! Kill me?!!"

    problem solved. forever.

    I LOVE THIS ONE!!!
  • Stella2070
    Stella2070 Posts: 38 Member
    Be courteous, say no thanks. Dunno why people need to justfy things.

    "no thanks im trying to lose weight/be healthy/blah blah blah"

    You just sound pompous and ungrateful.

    Thank you for the "stop trying to justify your reasons" quote!
    "No, thank you" should be enough for your own self and for others.

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