why can't I do this?

Girl you CAN do this. it is inside of you! It sounds like before the surgery it came easy to you, and you are so lucky for that. Now it may be very tough, but YOU CAN DO IT. Success lies in each choice you make. From what you do when you 1st wake up, to the 1st meal, ext. Make every choice not so immediate, and think about it. Eat whole raw food all day everyday. Not to say you can't have a cookie, but that cookie won't bring you this guilt and regret if breakfast was hard boiled eggs and protein, lunch was salad veggies, protein and vinaigrette dressing, and dinner was another fat hunk of protein with more veggies and a great fresh berry treat. It isn't only going to happen one choice at a time, and it seems you have so much on this plate called life already, so just slow down, take a breath and make better choices. It will be like a snowball effect!

You CAN do it. Look at what you are doing now and compare it to what you used to do. Make ONE change this week, like, cut out soda, or drink more water, or eat more protein. ONE change. Wait a week. Make one more change. Don't let yourself be overwhelmed by all the things that may need to change. Take small steps. Do the exercises that you can. Walking can really be fun. Walk somewhere new. Make fun playlists for yourself. Enlist walking partners.

Seriously, you are entirely too awesome to ever think that you can't do ANYTHING that you want to! :flowerforyou:

The best advice someone gave me was, "no matter what happens keep going". Every time I'm feeling down about the scale or what I ate, I remind myself that I have to keep going no matter what. You can do this, just take it one day at a time.

It's because your using the wrong word. "Can't" Will get you nowhere. My suggestion, get rid of it and get it out of your vocabulary. It's not a very motivating word, and never really has a good use. Instead, place it with Can or better yet, WILL. I will do this sounds better and is much more motivating than I can't do this which gives you the opposite effect and makes you want to give up. Also, the phrase "I'll stick to it!" Is a wonderful phrase to use as well You CAN totally do this See? ^_^ Much better!

thank you all! i'll stick to it.. (I just wish it can FALL right off haha)

We all wish it could just FALL right off. Unfortunately it just doesn't happen that way. This may sound a bit kooky, but try thinking of your extra pounds like gold (and watch that silly miner show on TLC..Discovery (what ever channel it comes on)). They dig these HUGE trenches for these little bitty flecks of gold, they work and they work and at the end of a week they get this little bitty ball of gold that just really doesn't seam like much, so they work and work some more and by the end of the season they have a mason jar full of little tiny balls of gold. Next thing you know, your at the season finale and that little mason jar is worth like half a million dollars.

We all have challenges when it comes to weight loss, getting around those challenges, that's the trench. The pounds are our gold. We work and work and at the end of a week, that $50 ball of gold rarely seems worth the effort it took to dig that big ole trench, but if we keep working and keep working, eventually we get to that finale with the half million dollar self esteem and sense of accomplishment.

Just a question, and certainly none of my business, so no reply expected; food for thought: Did you live with some one prior to the surgery and has your living situation changed post surgery? Could you be adopting some one else's not so healthy habits?

You've already had great info on the healthy eating side. you use to do this, so you know How. You Can do it. What else changed? Well, you are saying there is a line in the sand... "After Surgery". Are you silently fighting depression? Are you sad with what has changed due to the surgery or the problem that the surgery was needed? Are you feeling down you can't be as independent since you can't drive? (depending on where you live, thats a pretty big deal).

What else is causing the 'why'? The good food would still taste the same. The bad food is still bad for you. Maybe you felt you were doing everything right and Still had a health issue so 'why bother'??? This happens a Lot when people fight an illness.

Good luck. We're all here behind you, and we all wish it would just Fall Off! But, we must make it, and we have the power to do so!!!!!!

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Nancy

Action PRECEDES motivation. If you want to do it, "just do it", and the rewards will only grow your motivation. Good luck.

Or how about this, exercise has been shown to promote neurogenesis aka growth of new brain cells, and could help speed your recovery