Binging...

tkcasta
tkcasta Posts: 405 Member
edited September 20 in Motivation and Support
Binging has always been my major problem...I get stressed out and I eat. Of course this inevitably leads to the whole "you need to find new ways to deal" speach but no matter what, sometimes you go crashing back. It's a real addiction, I can feel myself fighting it and yet I still inevitably give in because if I don't I have a nervous breakdown (seriously, no exaggeration). Well, this week was exceptionally hard with midterms and rent coming up and all that stuff that stresses anyone out. I binged...daily. Today is the first day in about a week that I've been somewhat in control. I did my best not to let the stress completely take over and I continued with my workout routine - though I wanted to quit every second I was doing it.

I'm just now really learning how to focus my energy, I've always been too focused on the big picture and never figured out how to take steps, well that's exactly what I'm doing now, little steps towards a greater goal.

So the question becomes, how do you deal with the emotional stress in the now, without worrying about what's going to happen to the big picture?

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  • I am right there with ya sister!! I am bumping this page for more advice as-well.
  • edmonk
    edmonk Posts: 1
    Hey there -
    Its a tricky position to be in - make no mistake.
    I was once asked the question "do you think its ok to be good enough?" and it stopped me in my tracks. I was so concerned with trying to master every little thing and get it all perfect that I lost sight of the overall aim of what I was doing. Its so easy to get caught up in the little details and... well.. then you get lost (there's an old phrase about this - something like 'the devils in the detail!..)

    It can be very overwhelming to try and mentally/emotionally 'cover' every eventuality of the "big picture" as you put it, and this is the crux of my point - it is futile to even try to do that. The Key to overcoming stuff is to do it 'one step at a time' - I know its a cliche, but its true. Baby steps.
    Worry is a very powerful adversary. Its ok to do it - just as its ok to binge, but you can't let it get the better of you! You're the boss!
    (I hope all of this does not sound patronising, thats not my aim at all..)
    If you fall over, you get up and get going - no one stays down, do they?
    Bills, mid terms, job interviews, deadlines, reunions, family get-togethers, you name it - all stuff we've got to face - but none of it needs to get the better of us.
    We all get stressed out, we all find ways to cope. Food is not the answer - but we all know its an easy option, and a friendly one too! Keep at it. One day at a time. Where are you trying to get to? Will that snack really make you feel any better? Will it help your cause? Just think about it; think about what you are doing and why you are doing it and where it will lead - and where you want to be.. And give yourself a break - life is supposed to be fun!

    hope this has helped in some little way... Good luck
  • jessw86
    jessw86 Posts: 29
    I can totally relate. I'm in my last semester of graduate school and things have been nonstop! Not to mention my grad exam is in two weeks and I've barely had the time to study. I've also been getting ready to move to another town/apartment for more schooling. I'm far away from my family and with this move I'll be far away from my boyfriend as well. I tend to REALLY over think things and worry about YEARS down the road and it usually just gets me really frustrated/overwhelmed and I finally reach my breaking point and either lash out at people, have a crying session, or eat as well. I know it's easy to go back to our old ways but I try to tell myself that in the midst of it all the one thing that is most important is my health... and without that the other things aren't really going to fall into place either. You have to be happy with yourself before you can truly be happy, I think so anyway. Anyway if you do feel the urge to eat when your stressed I'd either try to eat lots of low calorie stuff through the day so that you kind of have that comfort or save some points for something really yummy you've been depriving yourself of... chocolate and icecream always make me feel better haha
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