Nervous to have my family see me

You're not alone. My son comes home tomorrow from college, my dad is visiting next week. They are all proud but I worry as well that their expectations will be higher than what reality is.

Let me just start off with, you are awesome. You are forty-eight pounds lighter than when you saw them last. Trust me, they will notice! Think about it, you may not notice it so much yourself because you see yourself every single day. It's really hard to see changes that way. I suggest taking a before and during photo. Once you do that, you'll see how much thinner and healthier you really look.

Have a merry Christmas.

They're going to say, "Omigosh! You look amazing!!!" ... and if they don't, I will. Don't sweat it. You've done an amazing job.

I looked at your pictures and its a huge difference! just relax and have fun. Remember your family loves your no matter what!

In about a week I will be traveling to visit my parents for Christmas. My brother, sister-in-law and sister will be there too. While I know I will have a great time (we always do when we get together), I am very nervous to have them see me. They have all been very sweet and supportive about my weight loss process, but I worry they will be disappointed to see I am still chunky. I have lost almost 50 pounds at this point, but I am hardly thin and don't think the difference is so incredibly noticeable.

Am I just crazy? Ugh. Anyone else worry about this?

No you aren't crazy. You're just used to being heavier. Now, you aren't... but you still feel "chunky" They saw you with 50 extra pounds!!!
If you lost 50 lbs... trust me, they'll notice relax and enjoy yourself. Everything you are thinking is in your head, not theirs. :flowerforyou:

Cind & Romper

1rst Your family loves you regardless of your successes, failures and appearance, and 2nd, a weight loss is noticeable, especially a 50#.

Romper your son probably wouldnt notice if you gained or lost weight unless you lost a heck of a lot....and if that is a current pic of you in your profile unlax. You will make the grade.

Enjoy Christmas with your families and stop the silly - self defeating thoughts; there are more important things in life.

I want you to come back to this thread and give us an update. I want you to be able to say how pleased they were for you. That should be a big NSV for you and an affirmation.

I want you to come back to this thread and give us an update. I want you to be able to say how pleased they were for you. That should be a big NSV for you and an affirmation.

I like that idea and promise to follow through on this and let you know how they react.

As stated before, my family has been very supportive and I think that is part of the reason I don't want to be a disappointment. My step-mom even has called me to ask what foods to have available for me so I don't have to worry about what I eat while visiting and I am planning some bike rides with my sister during the visit.

One thing is for sure, I will have a great time regardless. I'll be getting there kind of late in the evening, so if the reaction isn't great, I'll have the night to get over it. I just worry about living up to expectations.

STOP IT.

Be careful that you may be expecting too big of a reaction from them. If so you will be disappointed. Focus on the joy of seeing your family, not your weight.

Hoping the best for you gal.

I totally understand, I have a negative attitude toward my body and always think I look much bigger than anyone's perception of me so I get anxious seeing my family for that reason.
I self sabotage before I see them to make myself look, well more so feel worse than reality.
It’s disappointing when no one mentions your hard work, and more so when the feedback isn’t what you expect or anticipate.
But remember who you are on this journey for, yourself I hope.
Yes praise is fantastic, ESPECIALLY from those you love, but use this as motivation to work harder up until then, and then up until your next visit.

I just went home to see my family for the first time since I started all of my weight loss. They had heard about it, but none of them had seen me or even a picture of me.

In my mind, I don't look that different. Perhaps, my mind needs to catch up! I was scared and nervious, but my family was very supportive and almost all of them said something. (My sister didn't, but we have always been super competitive with each other and she is struggling with her weight right now, so I understood that she had a hard time acknowledging it).

You should be very proud of yourself! Your family will notice! And even if someone doesn't give you the response that you are hoping for, just know that they might be going through their own struggles and just can't yet.