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Happy2help
Happy2help Posts: 18
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I'm kind of embarrassed to asked. I have put in a lot of work into my fitness for about a year now and have greatly improved my health and fixed a lot of bad habits. I have also learned to become a lot more comfortable with how i look and more confident. Why is it that i still have trouble meeting women and asking them out.

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  • acogg
    acogg Posts: 1,870 Member
    You are afraid of rejection.
  • acogg
    acogg Posts: 1,870 Member
    Wow! Just checked your profile pics. Under your clown make-up you are a good lookin' man! Women should be flocking to you. Give it time, they will. And remember, everyone views shyness in others as standoffish or aloof. Everyone else is also insecure. The first thing you should do is focus on the other person and make them feel good about themselves. They will be naturally attracted to you.
  • rubixcyoob
    rubixcyoob Posts: 395
    Despite feeling more confident and knowing you look better, it could be psychological. Sometimes it is hard to let go of who we used to be and the fears we used to have as a result, and become a more outgoing person in those areas.

    Before you changed, you may have been shy, low-self esteem etc. and somewhere, in the back of your mind, this is still there.
  • bbgughj
    bbgughj Posts: 219 Member
    It's normal to be shy , Don't be embarrassed . Be yourself and build on your self esteem ... Get out a little more and have a few drinks , you'll be fine young grasshopper.
  • Happy2help
    Happy2help Posts: 18
    Thanks for the great comments. I suppose it is true what that say old habits die hard. Being self conscious and shy for the better part of 10+ years Is going to be hard to kick. Even know I have become a lot less insecure I guess it is going to be harder to get away from think of how i used to be.

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