nooooo....help please
booitsk8
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well ive really messed up. im not weighing in until monday and i suspect ive gained around 10lbs since one of my close friends died at the end of november. i could kick myself. im going to start again on monday when the kids go back to school after the christmas holidays but havent got the same drive i had. how do i get my head back in to it? i was so pleased with how i was doing but i cant get that feeling back. any advice out there would be very much appreciated. thanks in advance. kate 
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go to the recipes section and pick something awesome that you want to make. go to the supermarket and get the ingredients and fill your kitchen with your favorite healthy foods, ones that have worked for you in the past as well as some new things to try.
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firstly - sorry to hear about your friend and the complete loss of motivation
I sometimes think that when the mojo is missing it's best to just get on with it and do whatever needs to be done anyway - eventually you will start seeing the rewards again. also think how your friend would feel if s/he know you about to give up on your important goal! i bet they would not like that to be the case!
draw a line in the sand and keep going till you feel better x0 -
don't wait till monday. start tomorrow!!! or right now!!!! you can do it, no excuses.0
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This!don't wait till monday. start tomorrow!!! or right now!!!! you can do it, no excuses.0 -
yes, youre all right. thanks for replying. funny that when youve dieted all your life and lost so much this time, how you can still be knocked so hard. just goes to show the headology involved with weight gain. i will go and buy real food and throw all the junk out. thanks again folks xx0
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Condolences on your loss. That is always hard. Don't kick yourself for sliding. You've probably learned over a lifetime to turn to food in times like these, it's going to take a while to relearn how to react.
Now, don't wait for motivation to come. Start doing the work and the motivation will follow. Set some realistic goals, like how many days you will be exercising and what your meals will be like to fit your calories. Follow your goals. As you get back into the habit you'll start feeling better and the motivation will grow. Until then, just be as disciplined with yourself as you are with your kids.
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I weighed in 10 pounds heavier than when i first started to diet a while back. It is a downer. But hey? Let's just pick ourselves up..and log our darn food. Cut yourself a break..read the forums for inspiration and support..and just get back to it.0
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Condolences on your loss. That is always hard. Don't kick yourself for sliding. You've probably learned over a lifetime to turn to food in times like these, it's going to take a while to relearn how to react.
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Sorry to hear about your friend.
I fell off the wagon late Nov/early Dec due to illness that I just couldn't shake, tried to get back on the wagon when I felt better and relapsed. Nothing serious btw, just a nasty *kitten* cold.
However, I feel fine now and xmas is over and done with....I don't feel like starting again, but I know I have to. Like you, I was really pleased with how I was doing before it all went pear shaped.
I think that just forcing myself right now is all I can do. I have my goals still, they haven't changed...I think it's just a case of the lazies trying to thwart me now!
I've reset my targets for 6 months from now and gave myself a range of expected weight loss and fitness thatI hope to achieve by then.
Even a crappy month hasn't set me back too bad...think I just about broke even, so for NSV on that front...I think my good habits are sticking even if good intentions are not!
I know once I get going and start seeing results again...I'll feel a lot better and more motivated.0 -
thanks pixie...i think i need to have a word with myself lol. im just eating for the sake of it and havent excercised since late november. god!! this has been a lesson. i thought i was much stronger than this and had it beaten after loosing 60lbs but it just goes to show that it doesnt leave you. thanks again xx0
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The best advice I have is don't start Monday. Start the SECOND you read this.0
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For what it's worth, I had some fillings done just before xmas...Pain does not even begin to cover it LOL!!!
I've been chowing down on cake, brownies and any other crap that does not require a lot of pressure...not to mention the booze (nature's pain killer :P)
I've either got to battle the sweet cravings or get my *kitten* on the treadmill to allow them on the menu now! I can't make excuses anymore!
If you want, you can add me as a friend...I'm all for mutual butt kicking!0 -
I procrastinated most of my adult life, "I'll start over tomorrow", was what I told myself too many times. It can be a very slippery slope, and was for me. The days turned into years for me, but I have been successful the past 10 months, so it is never too late.
Just begin again. Do it for yourself. You have already been successful, so you know you can do it! You are worth it.0 -
You're right, weight loss is very psychological - especially for women. We are so emotional. Add to that the fact that stress causes your body to overproduce cortisol, which makes it even harder to lose weight.
Just be gentle with yourself. You lost your friend. Don't beat yourself up, too. Grief is tough enough without that. Do what you can, jump on the scale so you know where you stand, and start over. It's understandable to be thrown off with what you've gone through.0 -
omg 122lbs....im actually bowing down to you in front of my laptop. thats wonderful. well done. i love this forum. everyones so supportive. youre right, it is a slippery slope but god, i was really starting to feel good. i WILL ge back to it xx0
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Just be gentle with yourself. You lost your friend. Don't beat yourself up, too. Grief is tough enough without that. Do what you can, jump on the scale so you know where you stand, and start over. It's understandable to be thrown off with what you've gone through.
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thank you...that was very kind xx0 -
Walking can be a good way to deal with grief.
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Condolences regarding your friend. That is tough
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Whatever you have gained on the scale, but you will still be down from where you began. Just get back up and keep going forward.0 -
thank you. youre all so kind. its very much appreciated and youve all given me a real boost. much love xx0
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well ive really messed up. im not weighing in until monday and i suspect ive gained around 10lbs since one of my close friends died at the end of november. i could kick myself. im going to start again on monday when the kids go back to school after the christmas holidays but havent got the same drive i had. how do i get my head back in to it? i was so pleased with how i was doing but i cant get that feeling back. any advice out there would be very much appreciated. thanks in advance. kate xx
awww.... I just want to say that I'm very sorry for your loss. How very difficult. I'm very sorry.0 -
awww.... I just want to say that I'm very sorry for your loss. How very difficult. I'm very sorry.
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Heh, heh....one more thing....I've been know to ignore "gains" and not even record them here so I don't see my ticker go up...You can leave it at 60 pounds lost until you catch back up...no one will know except you
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Heh, heh....one more thing....I've been know to ignore "gains" and not even record them here so I don't see my ticker go up...You can leave it at 60 pounds lost until you catch back up...no one will know except you
hahaha...i think youre my new hero for suggesting that xx0 -
You haven't messed up. Life happens. Losing weight takes a lot of focus, mental effort and attention. You lost your friend, that took priority - you absolutely should have focused on that and given it your attention - there is no blame or "wrong" here. You recognized the loss, you recognized your drift in attention - this is all goodness because now you see it is time to shift (some of) your attention back. (Your post is proof of that, your willingness to raise your hand for help is the exact right thing to be doing, so good job all around!)
Consider: Life is a mixture of joy and loss, happiness and sadness, wins and losses - A healthy life is a balance of these things.
So, embrace the loss (of your friend, of your focus, of your inertia) but also remember the win of feeling good over the weight loss before and recognize that life goes on, whether we are ready or not. It doesn't start Monday, it's already going on so jump back in and focus on your weight loss again. How? Focus on how good it felt to have those "wins" of having lost weight, the thrill of seeing better-and-better weight-ins, of clothes that fit once again. Remember also that weight gain doesn't happen all at once, so weight loss won't either. Remember the good, concentrate on the future goal and just jump back in, your life is already underway - you just get to have more control over steering it than you have recently.
Oh, and the best part: You can do this, because you already have. (60 lbs? Amazing. 60-10? 60-15? Still amazing!)0 -
Heh, heh....one more thing....I've been know to ignore "gains" and not even record them here so I don't see my ticker go up...You can leave it at 60 pounds lost until you catch back up...no one will know except you
hahaha...i think youre my new hero for suggesting that xx
I never log gains - only losses! :laugh:0 -
Go back to your "why"...why did you start this to begin with? When you recall that, write it down as well as how you feel now. Then, if you weren't successful, change EVERYTHING you did the last time!
Weight loss should be sustainable. Successful weight loss is when you never have to say "I'm back " again. I always say "I'm still here" b/c I never left! Make changes that you know you can live with! Anyone who reads my diary will tell you I have my cheat snacks. Not excessive and they are typically processed foods, but if those 2 chunky Chips Ahoy cookies I had the other night keep me on the beam the other 85-90% of the time, then obviously I've picked a plan that works for me!0 -
I am so sorry about your friend and your mood not being where it was. These are some motivators for me when I feel down about working out or want to bindge on french bread.
-Make a new playlist to workout to. Pick songs that inspire you. I starts my playlist with a medium paced song that I love and lead it into faster paced songs that make me want to work harder. I usually try to end with a cool down song that brings me back down. I dont know what kind of music you like but there is also iFit radio in the free ap store for iPhone and you can choose a style of music and a heart rate to listen to.
-Buy a new workout outfit, or maybe just a cute workout top from Ross. I always find when I get in to the gear it makes me more motivated to go do something. I like to match my shoelaces to my sports bra when possible haha.
-make veggie soup! Try new vegetables you dont usually use....turnips, kale, black carrots.....make sure you add a bunch of high vitamin veggies to the mix and less potatoes and salt. Tell yourself that it was you will eat for lunch and dinner for two days. It'll will help you detox and gt back on track and it is fun to be creative cooking with different things.
-take some B vitamins (if your Dr is cool with that) They make my mood so much better! I notice when I take them I smile more and focus on the negative much less.
-if you like tea, start having your morning time or whenever you have time to reflect (maybe after the kids get on the bus to school) with a cup of tea. Herbal tea has no calories, it accounts for water intake, and it tastes good. Get a fancy tea looking tea cup or a fun mug and leave it out to remind yourself to have tea instead of cofee/energy drinks/soda/beer...whatever your downfall is.
-find a new walking trail!
-try a new work out video on youtube for free!
-keep a journal and walk to a local park or happy place and write how you feel. Sometimes getting it all out on paper helps us let go of the hard stuff, guilt, sadness, etc and heal.
hmmmm, I can't think of anything else right now but I really hope you feel better. Dont give up! you are not a quitter!0 -
tandrasam, robyn, hbazzell....again, thank you so much for some fantastic advice and encouragement. youve all really helped me out tonight. my head knows what i should be doing but my body was refusing to listen. everything thats been said tonight has really lifted me and its all been great, constructive advice. many many thanks again to you all. kate
p.s. will be making that veggie soup tomorrow 0
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