Well, Hell.

lol you should try jillian michaels 30 day shred, the work outs are 20 min. ive noticed a big difference since i started it

I know exactly how you feel lately. I have zero motivation and don't understand why the weight isn't dropping off me anymore when I eat cheez its and huge dinners every day.

Something's gotta give!

Can you do it for, say, one month? That's what I decided to do when I started. I like to graze all day (like a cow! lol) and I knew for years that I was way underestimating how much I was really eating. So I went in search of a food diary that would be easier than my prior attempts using an excel spreadsheet. I figured I would fail - again - and then I thought, WTH, I can do anything for a month. I'll just try it and if there's no weight lost, I guess I'll just accept being fat. BUT - I lost 9 pounds that first month! And that's where I found my motivation.

Try to find something that you like for exercise, could just be a hobby. I like Jillian Michaels 30 Day Shred, 20min a day and I see results quick. Maybe try the 17 Day Diet, because like you if I don't see results right away I am more likely to think this is for nothing and quit. The 17 day diet is eating clean, and is pretty easy to follow, you will see results and it is healthy. Thats what works for me, but everyone is different. Once you find what works for you it will be easier, some days will still suck but it will be easier.:)

Quit your whining.

One of my favorite, successful, smart friends on here always says that your motivation lies just beyond the 6 minute mark of your workout. So get moving, quit feeling sorry for yourself and go get your motivation.

You want it because u typed it. BUT you dont want it bad enough- Kick it in gear and just start, I was the SAME way... just couldnt get started. Well I did- the first 2-3 months was the hardest, forget just the first day!

When you really want it, you'll go after it.

well of course you feel crappy, you're hardly eating anything!! I know people say that 1200cals a day is ok, but personally I don't think it's a good place to start. Start on the higher side and then work your way down as you loose weight and need to make adjustments anyways.

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/654536-in-place-of-a-road-map-2-0-revised-7-2-12

read this, it's helped me a lot. I started out about where you are and was an unhappy regular binger because I wasn't eating enough. I switched to about 1700cals a day and I don't feel like crap anymore (I still don't really want to exercise, but that's because I'm lazy). I've also started Jillian Michael's 30 Day Shred (yay for day 2!!). It's 20 minutes a day for 30 days. I don't even do the 30 days in a row, I take a day off every 2-3 days depending on how I feel. Now, if you follow that link I gave you, keep in mind that if you pick something other than sedentary, don't eat your exercise calories back because you're already accounting for them in your calculations. So even though I burn about 300cals doing 30DS, I still only eat 1700cals and feel ok. I do still have one day a week that's a "cheat day" where I eat whatever I want (best thing is that I usually don't feel the need to eat crazy cause I feel so good).

Good luck!

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You need to fuel the body in order for it to move. Under eating is not how to lose and keep the weight off. Your metabolism has shut down and you need to eat more to get it going.

So, you exercise sometimes. So what. At least you exercised once!
That's how have to look at things to get myself motivated.

I looked at my calories these past few day, just getting back to MFP After taking a break.
Day one I went way over my calories.

But I looked at it as "Hey! i put all my food in like I was suppose to. Now tomorrow I won't eat as much."
So the next day, I still went over, but not as much. So I said it again and added, "And you didn't go over that much!"
and now, I think I'm back on track.

So just look at what you've completed and do better the next day.
Make doing better than the day before your short term goal.

Hey girl, I feel your pain/angst/etc. I am not personally in your boat, but my sister has been obese for as long as I can remember. She had gastric bypass surgery years ago and got really serious about losing the weight after that. However, she didn't keep it up and is now almost back to the weight she was prior to her surgery. Talk about frustrating for her. It's also REALLY frustrating to me though. To see someone you love in so much obvious discomfort -- both physically and emotionally -- and to see them not doing a d*&n thing about it...? I know that she is at risk for so many diseases and an early death if she doesn't do something about it and I really worry about that. I know that she really really very much WANTS to lose the weight again but she just doesn't seem to find the motivation anywhere to do it. I live with her right now temporarily and I have been losing weight since I got here -- I work out like a fiend and eat really well and I thought that would be a motivational factor for her. But so far it has not and it actually makes me angry.

You can't wave a magic wand and have it go away. The older you get, the longer and harder it is going to take for that weight to go away. But you CAN NOT give up. You are about to get married so clearly you are loved. Remember that people LOVE YOU and NEED YOU TO BE HEALTHY. So if you can't do it for yourself? Do it for them.

I hope this helps, dear. I send you positive thoughts. Just stay strong and remind yourself that it WILL take a lot of time to get there but that you will get there. Just TRY.

Peace to you.

Thanks everyone.

I do the 30S maybe 1-2 weekly right now but I'm always moving whether it be cleaning or.what not.
I do stuff like yoga poses/situps while watching tv daily. I think I need to eat more and get my motabolism going.
Ill be researching that and portion control this weekend.

The easiest way I have found to control portions is to figure out what I am eating the next day, if possible, go ahead and make it and store it in appropriate sizes. Or, if I am going to cook dinner, I look at what the calorie intake is for the suggested serving and determine if I will have enough will power to follow that serving or if I need to eat something else. I have learned what I cook for my family is usually not what I will eat (they eat alot of pasta, red meat ect). If I am going to eat healthy, I make it tasty by adding low calorie options, like grilled chicken breast with lime juice on top it, bell peppers, smothered in a peice of 45 calorie cheese, brown rice and a serving of salsa. That may not sound good, but once you get your mind set to do this, you will figure out how to eat healthy and make it taste good, and control your portions. Also, try a exercise routine you enjoy..that way it isnt so much work! Not that I am a pro at this or anything, I struggle everyday with making myself get off my butt and do what needs to be done, but I am telling you when you are done, the results feel great! Don't give up!!

I wake with full intention of working out and on most days I do do something....just not for very long. There lies one issue. I feel that I should be able to work out for 20 minutes a day...not too heavily and restrict calories and POOF...weight gone when I know sure as hell that it won't work that way.

This is exactly what I did and I've lost nearly 40 lbs. Just start with what you can do and work from there. It also might help to find something you love to do that is physical. I love to walk the beach, so once a week or so I go down there and walk for at least 2 hours. I can only do that because I love it, I can't do boring exercise.

As far as calories just make small changes. Work on portions first. Then when you get that down work on healthier food choices.

You can do it!

Try reading Eat to Live by Dr. Joel Fuhrman, recently finished reading it and I gotta say it's hard to argue what he says. It's freaky how full you can get on the good stuff and it tastes great and has fewer calories than the other options. I never thought I'd get to below 200lbs, but after reading it and committing to it, I see no reason why I can't achieve my ideal body weight. Greens n Beans baby! Currently @ 204lbs started exercising in Aug weighing in at 242lbs. You can do it!