Need advice!

Dont dwell on what happened. What you did yesterday is all in the past. Focus on what your doing now and for your future. Yesterday was cake today im doing veggies!!! lol

Amen! Never quit quitting the junk, start again now. . . don't wait for tomorrow. Do something to make yourself feel good about YOU today. Tomorrow you can tackle the food thing again.

Be sure you have a lot of healthy things planned and available to you and tell yourself you are stonger than the junk food!! A couple of days without it and the cravings will stop. Read whatever you can get your hands on and keep reading; here or in books, the internet, etc. Information will be what saves you!!!

Good luck, show your husband that he can have that junk and that you can skip it!!!

I read somewhere that willpower is a muscle and you have to exercise it for it to get stronger. So every time you pass up a sweet, that willpower muscle will get stronger. Next time you want to eat, walk away for 5 minutes and then decide if you really want it. Or tell yourself that if you're hungry, you can have some carrot sticks. I found that when I'm legitimately hungry, carrot sticks will do. When I'm emotional eating or eating out of boredom, they won't. In those times I'll often quickly give myself a manicure or something. Can't be sticking wet nail polish into the oreo sleeve

And know that every day you do this you are winning!

Read the nutrition info when your about to eat it! Then work out how much exercise that will take to burn off! Turns me off my favourite cookie time treats everytime

Best thing to do is just ignore that happened and start over. Tommorrow. Prepare yourself for a good day plan what you`re going to eat n move on and try exersizing it helps because it takes so much effort you don`t want to ruin it w a piece of cake lol. So just get back on it.. happens! Good luck

Honestly, if your man is that concerned about his own sugar cravings you have about zero support and I would clean house. Eating a healthy lifestyle takes a village. If you are surrounded by crap every day then you will eat it. Just sayin...Get it out and keep it out. Having will power is great when you have nothing in the house to tempt you. It's bad enough to be around office stuff or out and about and avoid fast food but you shouldn't have to come home to a field of land mines either.

If he wants cake and cookies I'd tell him there is a grocery store down the street and he doesn't need them anyhow. I have several children and a husband that has to be physically fit for his job...we don't live like that. It's setting yourself up for failure....it's hard enough so don't do that to yourself.

Just sayin...

I'm a total sugar addict. Honestly. I can't moderate sugar. If I have one cookie, I will crave more cookies. Even simple carbs like white bread or pasta increase my cravings and overall hunger.

So... if this sounds like you, I'd recommend you go cold turkey like I did. Eliminate ALL sugar from your diet. You don't need it! Switch to "complex" carbs like whole wheat bread. Add some protein to feed your muscles. You'll feel terrible for a couple of days - I had headaches and felt queasy - but then you'll feel great. All my cravings for sugar basically disappeared inside of a week.

On the program I'm doing, I allow myself a "free day" once a week (or every two weeks) where I just eat whatever I want including sugar. By the end of the day I feel so disgusting that I can't wait to get back on track. So it helps motivate me and also helps me not feel "deprived".

Now that I'm 4 months into this, I occasionally allow myself a sugary treat in the evening with the understanding that 1) I will log it and 2) I won't eat any more. This works since I go to bed before I can go back for seconds. But that's just an occasional thing, definitely not an every day thing.

Obviously it would be nice if your husband was more supportive but this is your journey, not his. You have to do this for yourself, independent of what he does. If you drop a bunch of weight and get in great shape, you'll undoubtedly inspire him to do the same. That's what my wife did for me!

Good luck!

you can't change the past. none of us can. Life is about what we decide today and how we move forward.

You CAN do this!!!!!

Everyone is going to be a little different and I have three kids at home who think if there are no sweets in the house, we are broke. lol so, I keep the sweets around and just watch that they don't overdo it. I think it's (for me) a challenge NOT to eat them. Once I started losing the weight last year and bringing home grapes, watermelon, oranges, apples along with the regular sweets, it was amazing to see how much they were starting to eat the fruit and not as much as the normal sweets.

Take note of that bloated, sick feeling. Log every crappy feeling (both mental and physical) you are having in a journal, and then keep it in your kitchen and read it the next time you want to put something like that in your mouth. The immediate payoff is SO not worth the aftermath, but it is easy to forget when you are hungry, stressed and tired, and the foods you love are sitting there taunting you.

The only way I can stay away from carbs and sugar is to DT from them, which means that I hardly eat any at all. The minute I stray from this approach, it becomes a snowball effect. It takes a day or so to get it out of my system, but when I am doing it, it works.

I have been trying to "cycle" carbs for quite a while, but I have not really made it long enough to get into and stick with a pattern. I think that I finally have my head in the game, but I have to keep reminding myself how I feel when my pants are too tight, when I go to bed on a full stomach, when I look in the mirror and hate what I see.....it is a process I am actively involved in but have yet to perfect. The only way to get there is to keep on truckin'.

Cravings are caused by sugary sweets & of course that prompts you to eat more sweets. I've found that the best thing to do is ween yourself off the sweets rather than just trying to stop. I've got to the point I can have 1 small square of 72% dark chocolate whenever that craving happens, which is usually once a week or every couple of weeks. And the dark is good for you too!:bigsmile:

Hey I like what megedoug said "willpower is a muscle"!!
Sure I too have slipped up and don't we just feel like garbage when we do. But we are human and we make mistakes.Someone said it's never to late to retry unless you give up. I liked what she said.
Never heard of this willpower muscle. This is good! So Practice and retry again tomorrow.
When we see what we did wrong we are less likely to do it again very soon.
I also read on this site somewhere that if you write down what you eat BEFORE you eat it. That it helps you stay in control of what goes in your mouth. I think this has been helping me this week. I write down my meals, take a walk or get some sort of excerise and come back. Often just getting away from the kitchen/food works for me.
The comment about carrots also works for me. I did Weight Watchers years ago. They told me to eat carrots when I was hungry...it worked. The problem was I didn't learn to portion my foods Nor did I learn that once you quit you slowly go back to your old ways. I'm learning still and this has to be a life choice with a decision to stick with your meal size from now on. Tell yourself you will do better and try again. Practice this 'will power muscle'. I'm going to do this also, you are not alone.
Hope you get to feeling better.