Tempting Roommates

xerses25
xerses25 Posts: 24
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Hey Guys,

I recently moved in with new roommates who don't know yet of my weight loss efforts. So They inadvertently make my task a lot harder because they are unaware. For example , one roomie made 5 batches of chocolate chips cookies and just left them on the table. I knew I had to get out. Should I tell them?I have three reasons I did not. 1. I for some reason feel ashamed ( vulnerable ) for telling. 2. I do not want them to modify their lives around me 3. I actually want to test myself and see if I'll resist. Am I right?

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  • LK0321
    LK0321 Posts: 25
    Awe, thats a hard one. I am embarresed about losing weight too. We have friends with timeshare that invited us to hawaii and I didnt want to go because I want to lose weight first and it was really hard for me to tell them that, I wanted to die of embaressment. I understand wanting to prove to yourself too. Maybe see how it goes for a while, and if it becomes to torturous mention it. Also reward yourself for not giving in. Fresh cookies are so hard lol! You must have an iron will.
  • lilpoindexter
    lilpoindexter Posts: 1,122 Member
    I try not to have crap food in the house, but my old lady always has cupcakes, choclate bars, tortilla chips, cookies in the house. If this crap is on the table for a few days, you come home and dinner's not ready...you bite a tortilla chip, or a cookie...and then one turns into three or four, and then the bag is done.
    I know it sounds terrible, but frequently I just throw this stuff in the garbage.
  • thestiltsofdeath
    thestiltsofdeath Posts: 19
    I had this problem in college and in retrospect, I don't think I handled it as well as I could've. Although now - a few years later and in different houses with different roommates - I've learned that removing yourself from the situation and/or setting a drawer or cupboard that has your food only in it helps. And I don't think you should be embarrassed of your weight loss goals - that's admirable! Maybe you could say something like, "I'm trying to eat healthier" or something like that, which doesn't way 'weight loss', but gets across that you're making a lifestyle change.
  • xerses25
    xerses25 Posts: 24
    Good Stuff Guys , thanks! I ll tell them about eating healthier.
  • sunsnstatheart
    sunsnstatheart Posts: 2,544 Member
    This thread would be better titled: "Roommates with Tempting Food". I jumped in here looking for some juicy stories and got nothing! Not cool OP.

    A little self control goes a long way. And, if you tell them, they could (1) not care, (2) support you, or (3) tease you incessantly with yummy temptations.
  • Crankstr
    Crankstr Posts: 3,958 Member
    this wasnt what i thought.
  • frecklegrrl
    frecklegrrl Posts: 11
    I'd talk about eating healthier! In my past experience, either roommates don't really care and it shouldn't affect you very much OR (like what happened to me last year), you could inspire them to eat healthier and lose weight as well!

    And if they don't really care, try to section out a part of the fridge and a drawer/cabinet just for your food. It'll help if you only have one place to go for food and it's just your healthy choices.
  • IronPlayground
    IronPlayground Posts: 1,594 Member
    Why would you feel embarrassed for trying to improve yourself? Just tell them.
  • betoarango
    betoarango Posts: 222 Member
    mann... where are all the scantly clad roomates?:grumble:
  • gabegrammy
    gabegrammy Posts: 147 Member
    I think you should tell them. They could still make foods they love, but in smaller batches since you don't eat them. And when you cook make a heathier version and share with them. and 1 cookie is fine, but if you are like me. 1 is never enough. keep strong, it's a long journey.
  • richh963
    richh963 Posts: 78 Member
    behavior modification is how i look at it.we all go off track & thats why most of us are here, but its learning to stay on track, if you toss out every thing thats bad for you. what have you learned besides avoiding the issue. Learn to live with whats around you. and know your limits. Im diabetic if thier are cookies in the house i know that, I can have one if I like but it doesnt mean I have the right too eat the whole bag.
  • dansls1
    dansls1 Posts: 309 Member
    Don't be embarassed about being healthy and losing weight! It is absolutely a good thing. Period.

    Once you get to that point, you'll figure out how to handle it.
  • kaylagetsfit8
    kaylagetsfit8 Posts: 15
    I would tell them that you are trying to eat healthier but they may not make the changes anyways. If they don't, then I would buy a bunch of healthy snacks, fruits, and veggies to keep for yourself so that if you get tempted by something really unhealthy, then you can go to that. Usually people are pretty understanding about it and will try to even make healthier meals but sometimes won't change their ways. You never know, you might encourage them to eat healthy as well.
  • JesterMFP
    JesterMFP Posts: 3,596 Member
    It's not fair to expect them to significantly change their lifestyle or habits to suit you (ie not baking cookies) but it would be reasonable to explain to them what you're doing and ask if, for example, they could put the cookies away in a cupboard rather than leaving them out on the table. You don't have to make it into a huge deal, but just say that you're trying to watch what you eat, or eat a bit healthier or whatever, and make a joke of the fact that you're really tempted by those cookies, and could they maybe help you out my not putting them right in front of you.

    Of course, over the longer term, you really are going to have to learn to just resist those temptations. Not all the time (in my opinion - it's perfectly ok to eat cookies). However, you need to be able to make the choices you want to make, and those temptations will always be around because you can't control what other people do.
  • 1stday13
    1stday13 Posts: 433 Member
    This thread would be better titled: "Roommates with Tempting Food". I jumped in here looking for some juicy stories and got nothing! Not cool OP.

    A little self control goes a long way. And, if you tell them, they could (1) not care, (2) support you, or (3) tease you incessantly with yummy temptations.
    So did I :blushing:
  • currierand
    currierand Posts: 155 Member
    this wasnt what i thought.

    Hey, I was told there was gonna be porn.....and cake!
  • XXXMinnieXXX
    XXXMinnieXXX Posts: 3,459 Member
    Well if you let her know she may put the cookies in a tin, so not quite as tempting. Never be ashamed your doing something positive! Nothing to be ashamed of! If your living together I think it's good to know what each of you are up to. Sure they'd like to support you, just like you would with them! X
  • FitBeto
    FitBeto Posts: 2,121 Member
    I had two tempting roommates - so tempting it cause a fight and one moving out. Giggity
  • supplemama
    supplemama Posts: 1,956 Member
    You can tell them but what then? Are they not supposed to bake cookies???

    Temptation is everywhere. You have to learn to master your response to it.
  • KrazyAsianNic
    KrazyAsianNic Posts: 1,227 Member
    It can be hard trying to lose weight. I know I get ashamed of talking about it because I feel like I could have fixed it years ago. I mean, as long as you get healthier stuff and they don't eat it, maybe you'll learn resistance better? and if they try eating your food, just politely talk to them about how you're on this journey and You don't wnat them to change their ways for you, but to compromise by not eating your things.

    Sorry, when i had roommates, people eating and usuing other peoples things was the problem. You'd bring leftovers one night from dinner adn put it in the fridge and the next morning it'd be gone and noone would own up to it. Although we knew who was eating it.
  • mrsburghart
    mrsburghart Posts: 166 Member
    I have the same problem, except they know about my efforts :(. It's my fiancee, his cousin and one of our friends who is down on his luck that we are helping. They buy all sorts of crap from girl scout cookies to twizzlers to fast food for themselves. We have an unspoken rule in this house that if you bring it in, it's fair game. My SO decided to make dinner....I asked him to make something sort of healthy so he makes taco salad and the side dish...queso...and then claimed "but it's salad...that's healthy!!" Drives me insane. They never try to push their eating habits on me, but it is so hard seeing all this food around that I absolutely love.

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