Listen All Y'All This Is Sabotage

Deep breath. Don't let a couple of bad days throw you. It happens...too often to me. Just pick yourself up and get back to it. A couple of suggests...you ARE NOT on a diet. You ARE making a lifestyle change. You are choosing LIFE over food. This isn't and event. It's a way of life! I read your profile...we lead parallel lives...right down to the husband in a rock and roll band and self-employed. I'm a bit older and my two boys are in college now but the similarities are scarey. You can do this!

Hey, having 13 straight good days is a very strict thing. I'll have maybe three or four "good" days in a row. We're human. We eat. It's okay. Eye on the prize but gotta keep moving forward, no matter what.

I agree with above posters, you are making a life style change. You make the best decisions you can for any given day, then move on. Two bad days shouldn't have undone two weeks worth of great work. Water weight is sneaky! Salt is even sneakier (?) I too have a tendency to get close to goal, then get sloppy (or sabatoge). Just make decision to make better choices and move on. Life is going to throw lots your way. Stick with it! I hope you are getting lots of support on this site!

I am lucky if I have 2 super good days in a row. the way I look at it is this is my life... life sometimes throws curve balls and I eat all the food. Don't get discouraged things will come together.

Maybe instead of sabotaging yourself after the fact, you are acutally settingyourself up from the get go. Just an idea-re-evaluate what you are doing/what you can do and be realistic. If you can only exzercise for 15 minutes a day-then telling yourself you will do a hour does no good. if you LOVE ice cream but tell yourself you'll only eat spinach this time-you are setting yourself up to fail. Think about how you can make what youwant fit together well with what you can realistically expect to do. Perfction lies in the abilityto adapt and adjust and making small changes consistently will serve you much better than making extreme ones youcan't maintain.

Dust off and get back on track. You didn't fail,you slpped and fell off for a sec. You don't have to stay down. It's a choice. Make a good one that you can live with.

Are you on enough calories? If you are set too low this will happen over and over again.

one or two days only make a direction change if you follow them up with more like them. Don't be discouraged. It is likely this weight gain is only a water gain... Keep donig the RIGHT things and I bet you see it drop back down. FIGHT BACK. DON'T GIVE IN! It is your life. You can make a difference.

Sabotage isn't eating a bad meal or two. Sabotage is listening to that little voice in the back of your mind that says "Now that you've had a bad day, you're diet is done. You might as well quit." As long as you don't believe that voice, you are not sabotaging yourself. Each day is it's own day. One bad day doesn't mean that the next one needs to be bad too!

Amazing, wisdom and voices of sanity...listen to them, they DO know. So much wonderful thoughtful advice. We all have those days, just keep on coming back, logging, and moving. You CAN do this.

Cara, you are doing great! Don't beat yourself up about a couple of bad days, just put them behind you and move on. And for the record, monkey bread doesn't last more than 1 day in my house.

So, today should have been my weigh in for the week - and I weighed, but I didn't record it.

Then you're not being honest. You should have recorded it. Why? Because if you can't visually see (on paper or graph) that you did sabotage yourself, it doesn't register. I know it sounds dumb, but it's like when someone makes a goal. Stats show that people who write down specific goals reach them more than people who just think about the goal they want to reach.
Another example would be someone spelling out the word "recuperation" to you letter by letter, or you reading it. You have to think about each letter then put them together to figure out what was spelled, whereas reading the word directly on paper, you define it immediately. Make sense?
Log the weigh in. It will make more sense in your brain and if you really want to reach a goal, be specific (write down a realistic goal weight, a date when you'll reach it, what you need to do each week to reach it, what you need to do each day to reach it) and then post is up on your bathroom mirror and read it every day. I have ALL my clients do this. The ones that do meet their goal. The ones that don't pay me more money because they have to stay with me longer.:laugh:

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Don't suffer. It is a cal budget and you can manage it as flexible as you want. You will not lose weight every day. Eating over your limit in a day or two is not a problem. Just find the meals you want and eat according to the cal budget you define for yourself..


Everything is going to be fine!

So, today should have been my weigh in for the week - and I weighed, but I didn't record it. I screwed up the first two days of week 2 and then spent the rest of the week working it off to be right back where I was at the end of week 1. I'm so mad at myself. So out of the last 15 days I have had 13 really good ones. But two completely thru me off track. I like to sabotage myself. Last time I was on an actual diet, I made a whole monkey bread that me and my kids ate in three days. I took pictures of it and posted it on Facebook. Why do I do this every time????

First off, I say weigh and record it. It is what it is and it's better to own it and move on than not. Secondly, what's one week in the grand scheme of things? Beating yourself up over bad decisions is only going to lead to you making more bad decisions.

As for why do you do this every time? Couple of reasons I can think of - you're probably being too strict with yourself and you seem to have a bit of all or nothing thinking going on. Why can't you make monkey bread and enjoy a serving of it? My guess is that you think of it as a "bad" food so if you have a little you might as well keep eating it because you "blew" it already. Instead of thinking that you've "screwed up" or blew it or whatever, just own what you did, record your portion that you ate and move on. REALLY move on. Don't dwell on it and don't beat yourself up about it because you are just going to make yourself feel bad and be more likely to give in again. In the future, plan treats in to your day or week so that you have something to look forward to. I had girls' night on Tuesday and stayed under my calorie budget because I had a delicious lunch planned for Wednesday that I couldn't have if I went over calories on Tuesday.

Do not be ruled by weighing scales. Get the tape measure out. And look for the NSV's

Agree with most of the posters. Done beat yourself up, we can only move forward.
Beating yourself up is not a positive approach and that in itself is a form of sabotage.