Restart

The best thing I've done is look at it as a life style not a diet. I try and make healthy choices......some times I fail but I don't beat myself up I just move on. Don't let 1 slip up kill your efforts. Eating habits take time to change! Eventually you will have less and less slip ups.

oh it is too true!@! My tip: Make it easier to eat healthy than to not. DONT have high cal low nutrition options in your house at all. Make sure that you never go out shopping while hungry. Always have a bag of nuts or a banana in your car (make sure its not the same banana for too long!) and keep some healthy snacks in your drawer at work. Eat before going out to lunch (weird but trust me..) so that you can only have a salad or something at lunch and still be within your limits.

Small things.... drop the sugar, salad dressing, sodas, skin on chicken, fat on red meat, empty carbs (including cakes, potato products and most breads.)

BTW -a restart is ok. At least it is a restart. The problem is not the restart, its what leads to a restart. Be STRONG!! This is going to be your YEAR!

If you're quitting every time, why? Is it because you're doing something that is unsustainable for you long term? Take baby steps. Change little things. You don't have to starve to lose weight, I'm not a fan of the 1200 calorie that MFP puts everyone on. Is your exercise routine too hard or too boring? Find something you like better.
And not trying to be mean here, 'if its important to you you'll find a way, if not, you'll find an excuse'. So is it important?

Totally understand where you are coming from and enjoying all of the awesome support you have recieved here! I think part of my problem is that I don't really, truly believe I will do it. When I remember to believe I can do it, I do much better and feel so much more in control and my mood improves as well as all my outlook.
I'm 52 years young and trying to get it right. I ask myself, how long does it take. Still looking to myself for the answers.

Good luck on your journey, believe in you, and friend me if you want another friend!

If I had a dollar for every time I had to restart my lifestyle change, I wouldn't need to work and I could hire a chef and a personal trainer!

My advice is similar to what has already been said, you need to find the reason you are failing. It isn't enough to just berate yourself for failing, you need to look inside yourself and find out why. Someone suggested sustainability, that's a great place to start. Is what you are doing compatible with the life you lead?

I can tell you after many starts and stops, I have found my weakness. I apparently am a person who can not eat high calorie foods in moderation. It's like a drug to me. A crack addict can't have just a little crack and be ok...that's how it is with me and food. Last week, we ordered pizza for the kids at school. I told myself I was going to have one piece because I hadn't eaten dinner yet and I wasn't going to be home for another 4 hours. I had enough calories left for 1 piece. That was all and good, but I ended up eating 3 pieces! With garlic butter! I get disgusted with myself too, just like you said, so I have decided that since I cannot stop, that means that I cannot let myself start. That is my weakness.

Good luck finding your kryptonite. Once you know what it is, you can fight it. The important thing is that you are back here to restart. Keep fighting.